How do you respond to being called ugly?

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yea i know this is a weird question but im one of those people who seem to get called ugly a lot for no apparent reason, i try not to let it get me down or lower my self esteem more than it already is

so to make them mad i reply with "yea im ugly but your not" then i smile to make them mad
 
i try to kill them with kindness

MaxRocks · Accepted Answer

I've been there when I was around 14-16 especially with guys, but even people on the street sometimes tried to screw with me by insulting me too. Never had any issues with girls I knew tho most of them were sweet and kind and even got a few dates. But mostly it was just guys.

First off you seriously got to get in the habit of not caring about what other people think. Simply realize this is none of your business. Whether they like you or not matters nothing. You can still have fun, you can still explore the world, do radical sports, you can do anything at all. Besides there are much worse things in the world than being called ugly.
There are people who have much worse than you. I'm not saying "omg stop whining look at those little kids in Africa" because that's not how you deal with this. I'm saying "Look at those people who get born and then have to stay 10 or 20 years in an hospital bed and then die", because there are people like that. Be grateful for whatever you have.

Finally, now replying to your question, initially I would simply deal with it by shutting up and moving on and repeating to myself in my head that the world still goes on and life still goes on. There's a portuguese hip-hop song that goes "Há pessoas más e não podemos fazer nada. Passou bem, mandou foder com um sorriso na cara", which translates +/- into "There are bad people and we can't do anything about it. It's ok, tell them to go fuck themselves with a smile on your face". Way cooler in portuguese tho.

But since I started to hang out with people who just don't admit being disrespected I got wayyyy more aggressive. It hasn't happened in years but if someone insults me in the street loud enough for me to hear I will just stand there and stare at them to show that I'm not afraid of them at all. Next time they pass by most likely they will keep their head down. But yea the best, most passive solution is to simply ignore. Easier said than done tho.

JackKerouac77 · Accepted Answer

Soooooo ZEN

BeInnovative · Accepted Answer

I'd just say thank you.
Actually, nobody but my own cousin told me exactly this paragraph at a wedding ceremony of a family member when I was 16:
"Oh surprisingly enough you look beautiful. I don't know what they did to you at the beauty saloon. Don't misunderstand me but you are not attractive as a woman. No guy would want to date you. That is why I wondered how you accomplished looking that beautiful. But you are cute in your own way when you talk."

I just looked at him for five minutes until he finished his talking, then said:

"Thank you. I am glad that I attract your attention in both ways: both when I am ugly and artificially beautiful after going to a beauty saloon. It means that I can attract attention of guys very well in either way. Also did you notice that you are 26, still having acne and 250 pounds with a height of 5'6''?"

Since I was 16, and I have been/was/am kinda a person never showing emotions or disappointment or anything, and talking directly to the face, nobody thought I was offended so much at his words. It ruined my self-confidence in relationship with guys for two years. This is exactly the thing that shouldn't have been said to a puberty girl.

But later when I noticed I am not ugly- because everyone has his/her own beauty in his/her own way, and the guys are actually attracted to me -well I am constant single due to my high standards, that is another point- nothing has made me doubt myself and ruined my confidence.

All you need to do/say/imply is "I don't really care what the fuck you are thinking about my physical appearance. Your shallowness is uglier than I am for sure." So I would just say "Thank you for caring to tell me that I am ugly" with a calm and not bothered attitude if today someone calls me ugly.

Do it.. It works very well.

lurker · Accepted Answer

depends on the person and the situation you are called ugly.

1. if it is a random person on the street (things like: omg, what is she wearing, he's hair looks messy) or some guy at the club, I completely ignore them

2. if it's someone I know and only makes a joke, I tell them I'm beautiful and they should reconsider their standards :p

3. if it's someone I know and they really give me an advice, I take the advice. now the people that care about me won't call me ugly for hurting my feelings, but they would make remarks. For example, if my sister tells me that the dress I'm wearing shows too much, I will change it or put on a bolero. When I suddenly lost a lot of weight due to a stressful situation, my brother told me I should work out because I have the body of an old lady (or Gollum in LOTR) so I started to work out and I now look and feel better about myself.

So think about it: are there parts that you think you can improve in you appearence? (working out, wearing chlotes that look better on you, improve your posture)? Always work to improve and be your best possible self. And when some douche/bitch tells you that you are ugly, they only do it to get a reaction from you. Ignore ignore ignore, that will sting!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

When i was younger i was called ugly by some boys in my grade for no reason. I just later on heard they were calling me ugly. Being a middle school girl, i cried for days and was embarrassed to go to school or even look at anyone. That uncomfortable feeling of everyone thinking i'm ugly has kinda always stayed with me. Even when people are responding well, and i'm joking around and others are entertained it will pop back into my head that maybe someone is looking at me thinking eww she's ugly why is she even talking? and then i get really shy and just try not to draw any attention to myself.

I'm an adult now, i've been in long term relationship. Yet i've never felt attractive. I get it, it stays with you. But you just have to try not to focus on those people and focus on the person who does want to be with you, there's obviously some good qualities about you that makes someone want to be around you right. I may not think i'm pretty and i may not be pretty to anyone in this world. But i figure i have some good quality that someone wants to be around me despite my looks.

kelly173815 · Answer

#nogagmyopinionisnottooshort

YeuxMystificateur14 · Answer

In all respect, you are a very handsome man with a distinguished look, but have you ever thought that people are using reverse psychology on you because of it. As for your question, my mom literally told me that whenever this happens, to say " Why don't you tell God what a horrible job he did making me." In other words, none of us made ourselves. Though keep in mind, if your face reads that you don't like yourself evil people will play on it, not because it's true but because they know that you think that it is true.

Hope this helps, God Bless.

xuewu · Answer

"good thing I tried to look like you today"
"that's what I was aiming for"
"I'm not a mirror"
"no one asked for your opinion"
if it's morning/afternoon - "count the stars in the sky-that is the amount of f*cks I give"
"do you feel better now?"
if it's a girl - "that reminds me i got you another tube of foundation I know how fast you use it up"
if it's a boy - "well we all know how much time you spend on your appearance"
if they say " a lot" - "yeah and it still makes no difference"
if they say "not much" - "yeah it shows"

Anonymous · Answer

You gotta take it as a motivator man, I dropped 60 pounds and all the bunnies started coming for me after a girl called me fat I got a hot girlfriend and now I'm slaying bra so take it as a motivator go "I'm never gonna get called ugly again" and start hitting the gym if you don't have the face you can work on the body luckily for me the face came once I lost weight but don't let if faze you and look yourself in the mirror decide hey am I hot and if the answers yes work out make yourself hotter good luck bro :)

Mgoods · Answer

Well, I just tend to outwardly let it go, but inside I harbour a deep hatred for that person.
I just don't understand what people gain from telling me this. Obviously, we are already aware of what we look like. So the fuck what? I can't change my face... So what reason do you feel the need to share this?

TedStar · Answer

Either   or

Nsinger · Answer

My general response to most insults thrown at me:

Aizou · Answer

When people have seen themselves mad at me
or in some other way just feel the need to insult me

What I do, is that, a bit like you, I agree with them
but nothing else after, I just agree with them, it usually
either pisses them off, or they just quit trying.

Example: You're so ugly..
Me: I know / Yea / Too bad, huh?

It's the best way I've found to
like, do something against
dumb people like them.

Now you just have to find your
own way to deal with it, however
I like your "kill them with kindness"
tactic too. ^.^

Bellibooo · Answer

Okay two thing:
1. You are NOT ugly, and you seem like a really sweet and kind person as well.
2. What I would do, as someone who suffers from extensive bullying and bad self confidence, is to remind yourself everyday that you are good enough as you are. I know it sounds silly, but try to look yourself in the mirror every now and then and say that "Damn, I am hot today" or "I am good enough as I am, I am good person".
Much love to you and try to not let people with cold hearts to break you down!

Rudegirljune · Answer

You don't appear to be ugly yes I looked LOL and so what people call me ugly all the time hell I call people ugly everyday LOL it's mostly a expression but it's ugly men in real life who be in my face. I'm in KY that's what we say expression wise "hey ugly" but on a serious note... everybody is ugly to somebody don't let that fuck with your self esteem and if they say it say simply say #THANK YOU that's what I say when people say crazy shit like oh you're mean etc it's always Thank U that's when I'm being a asshole then LOL don't sweat it. we can't change how people view us Fuck them..

CheeseLoveWhiz · Answer

This used to happen to me a lot especially as a pre-teen. I did at the time cry a lot because I thought looks meant everything but, they don't. Here's what I'd say : "Well, so are you." "At least I'm not as ugly as your attitude." , "Yeah but, my ultimate goal is to be as ugly as you." , "At least you're pretty on the outside."
You can also pull a sponge bob and yell "I'm ugly and I'm proud!"
or just smile and shrug your shoulders. My brother shrugged and smiled once when some middle school kid yelled at him "I bet you used to be really lame!" and the kid just shut up after that.

DodgersGM · Answer

I'm a dude so. I know my opinion is sorta negated, but you're clearly not an ugly dude.

As cliché as it sounds, I'd just ignore that shit. Or tell them that you couldn't care less what they think, and that you know you're bangin'.

Red7336 · Answer

see, the more you like yourself the less words like that affect you... since it already has i recommend maybe a new hair cut or change your style or w/e make yourself look pleasantly different and regain confidence :) (this is for you not for them) AND focus on the good things in life, what are the good things you are/have, how fortunate you are, maybe what you have that they dont (but i dont recommend this one at all because it could VERY easily turn into an obsession)

and then it should go like
"you ugly !"
"dont look"

and you wouldn't care deep down either

thetundrawolf · Answer

You walk away with a smile on your face. Anyone who would call you ugly likely has an ugly heart- and while your face might not be as pretty as someone else's an ugly heart destroys the life of the person around it, their family, and their friends.

Someone who love you will love you will love your face, your body, and your heart. Only one of those things can ruin a relationship.

So to answer your question, you walk away, knowing your heart is not as dark as the person who was trying to cut you down.

Be thankful for that fact. That person has a long, difficult, bitter life ahead of them.

Bluemax · Answer

No one since high school has ever called me ugly to my face. It's never gotten back to me since high school that anyone has called me ugly behind my back, though it might have happened. I doubt it, because after all, I am a spectacular blue medal.

When I was in high school, I took my shirt off to play tennis. This one girl shouted out, "Ugh! Put your shirt back on! We don't want to look at that!" Now, I took my shirt off because it was damn hot. I didn't intend to offend anyone. I wish I could say that I thought of something as clever as you, asker, but alas I didn't. I shouted back at her "Put the bag back over your head! We don't want to look at that!" It wasn't the most mature thing to do, and certainly not the wittiest, but I was fifteen and it was the best I could come up with.

She was the last person to all but explicitly call me ugly, though she didn't use the word. Since then, no one has done it.

Hajar_Whitestone · Answer

I don't care how people call me, I was once in restaurant with my sis and her friends we did ask my brother to wait us in another place to pick us up when we where going to meet him 2 boys and a girl called me ugly and they start laughing in front of my sister and her friend it did hurt me a lot but I did ignore them I know am not even average and no one likes me because my ugly face even thought I have a sexy body but I can't change that fact, if I did have money I would do it but I don't so I start accepting the reality am ugly and it's okay..

ShesSoSilly · Answer

Cookie cutter answer: ignore them and don't let other people's opinions have such an effect on you.

Real answer: everyone has insecurities and words do hurt. We don't control our feelings or who would ever feel bad about themselves, or about anything in life. It's especially harsh when you already have doubts or similar thoughts in your mind from yourself.

I think if someone seriously just called me ugly I might be taken back a bit. I honestly don't think I'd have many words for them. You can retaliate if that makes you feel better, but at the same time they are a horrible enough person to even make such a rude remark, I doubt anything I could say would phase them.
They're rude, ignorant, and just simply who they are.

EgyptianNergerts · Answer

"Good, I was trying to look like you anyways". <-- my favorite comeback If you wanna be mature, just ignore them

Megalodon · Answer

Honestly I probably get more offended than I should. I have a low tolerance don't provoke people but sometimes people (mostly guys) have just called me ugly. Most the time they say it in some passive-aggressive manner because they don't want trouble. Just want me to walk away feeling bad about myself.

I have three responses depending on my mood:

If its there first time acting like that in front of me, I'm in a good mood or I'm with someone I' trying not to embarrass, ill just laugh it off.

I get pissed off and make them feel like absolute shit. (beat them at their own game) If they had a low self esteem before, they will cry themselves to sleep.

If they have acted like an asshole to me before, I will call them out on their shit in front of everyone, (get confrontational) which to me is extremely funny because they have no idea how to react.

Anonymous · Answer

you are genuinely not ugly, people tend to call others names as a way of making themselves feel better and'superior' to that person. someone who is insecure about their own looks or feels jealous of another persons looks or achievements tends to call them ugly or another meaningless insult as a quick way to make that person feel like crap and like they aren't worth much.

i would say you are easily an 8/10 i especially like your eyes and the way you look into the camera (sorry to sound creepy!) XD maybe its not that you're ugly that is repelling people but because your frown is kinda intimidating? it gives off the vibe that you dont want people to approach

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