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The Biggest Dating Myth Revealed!

 
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Posted More than a year ago Views 1053 Comments 18 Category Behavior
This is the dating world. I'm sure there are plenty of myths out there that are making people confused, frustrated and angry. But this is one, I believe is the juiciest. The biggest one; The one that stuffs the most people over.

Do you guys want to know what it is?

I'm going to give it to you ok?

Here it is .....

The Biggest Dating Myth Revealed - Let's use a quote from a famous movie ....

You ready for it?!

Jerry Maguire : "You complete me"

That's it. Right there. Doesn't sound like much does it? But this quote screws people up left, right and center.

You know the only truth to this quote is that it is complete and utter rubbish! But the writer should be given some recognition, because it was quite romantic. Has a nice ring to it ... but it couldn't be more further from the truth.

Here's the thing, you have to want to date yourself before you can get anyone to date you. You have to love yourself before anyone will want to love you. I know it's a simple concept, but everyone seems to get it wrong.

A lot of single people out there want to get themselves into a relationship so that they can feel happy. So that they can feel fulfilled. So that they feel that there is some meaning to their lives. If there is any myth about the dating game then that's it right there.

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I've said this so many times in most of my posts. But if you want to attract your ideal partner, then you need to stop focusing on it! You need to start focusing on becoming the type of person that your ideal partner would want to want to be with.

Being single is great, because it allows you to uncover things about yourself that you couldn't while being in a relationship. There are certain parts of you that still need working on. Maybe you have some old beliefs that are holding you back. Maybe when you get into a relationship you become too needy. Being single allows you to reflect and improve.

You need to be able to give love to yourself first. Do things that you enjoy doing. Do things that make you happy, that give you meaning, that make you passionate about life.

Once you have this high self respect and self love - then no one can ever take that away. That means that you have less of a need to hold back when it comes to relationships because you have nothing to lose. That means that you have more to give to your relationship because you are complete. Your glass is full and so now you can overflow that love and share it with others.

If you want to know what the biggest dating truth is .. that would be it right there


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annwyl-cariad Amen, sister! :) - More than a year ago
JenH I could not agree more! - More than a year ago
sunnyflowers If you don't enjoy your own company, how can you expect others to enjoy it..... - More than a year ago
The-Nash Excellant article! - More than a year ago
Aristotles All I am hearing is "I need to be selfish to be able to give". You just sound plain selfish, just like the rest of humanity. With this mindset, in the end you will not give anything, but only take and destroy. That is the dating world. - More than a year ago
Hot-Alpha-Female Aristotles .... how can it be selfish. How can you possibly give your love to somebody else when you don't have any for yourself? - More than a year ago
SemiShy All these people agree with you, but I'm going to have to mix it up!
It really depends on how you perceive the question. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying that what you wrote is false, but I'm saying that not all people are going to see the quote "You complete me." and somehow turn it into "I lack confidence" or "I'm not comfortable with who I am".
Damn, I really do wish I could say more, but apparently someone had the bright idea to limit our comments. If you really care about the subject... - More than a year ago
SemiShy [CONTINUED]
...I could write to you on why "You complete me" isn't a mystery to many people. Thanks if you read this far! lol - More than a year ago
Hot-Alpha-Female Hi Semi shy - Thanks so much for your comment and I'm really interested in what your perspective on this is! I have the same article on my blog with the same heading, so you can feel free to leave a comment there or email it to me =)

Hot Alpha Female - More than a year ago
A-R-Norman I agree with you though--far too many people look for the answer to love outside of themselves, when it should begin within...as you say, how can you give anything if you are not complete and whole yourself? Find out who you are and what you can give to another, then seek love...that is only fair--to both of you. - More than a year ago
Gia65 You make some valid points.....but I also believe that people discover who they are what they want by many of their dating mistakes ...you see we all have to suffer some rejection, heartache et cetera..before we really understand that we possibly may not be emotional healthy and that is when we figure out that we have to love ourselves, and that some guy/gal isn't going to fill the void in our belly's. - More than a year ago
SageLee I think it is possible that people just take the "completeness" idea too far. Depending on what view you take on God, or the world, or soul-mates or whatever, it is entirely possible that both mentally and physically, a man might complete a woman. Locks and keys, we obviously were made to fit together. It is true that love from someone else doesn't replace missing love you should have for yourself, but it might just be that having someone equal to share life's ups and downs is something - More than a year ago
SageLee That's supposed to happen for you to be completely at peace. It's not a magical soul-mate thing - I believe that Person A is just as good as Person B, if one were to give them both a chance. There are lots of variables like timing and present state of mind that might change whether A or B seems best.

But people look for too much out of someone else. I guess what I'm saying is that having someone special won't complete you, but that doesn't mean they won't help to complete your life. - More than a year ago
dasouthernicon Hmmm... not bad, not bad. But ur rite, that is total crap. A person needs to be complete already b4 they get into a relationship. - 9 months ago
Orion ...so wait.. people actually use this line in real life? that should be the first sign that the person you're dating is nuts. Don't use a line from a movie to tell a person how you feel, I'd be insulted that someone couldn't take the few seconds it should take to construct a sentence about me and how much I supposedly mean to them rather than coughing up something from a moviealmost a decade ago. - 2 months ago
sweet17 That was great! Especially the last couple paragraphs - A month ago
Jessicafromboston I completely agree with what you said. Especially the part where you say "You have to love yourself before anyone will want to love you." I gave the same advice here, before I even read it.
And the part where you say "You need to start focusing on becoming the type of person that your ideal partner would want to want to be with. " That also completely true. For example, if you want to date a guy whose intelligent, hard working, is really handsome and has an amazing body, then you also have to .. - 4 days ago
Jessicafromboston (continued ...) work on yourself to become those things, because those are probably the qualities the guy will also be looking for. Why would a guy who really puts effort into his job and cares about his health and his appearance want to be with someone that doesn't share those same traits? - 4 days ago
 
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