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Wait, Men Mean What They Say?
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How many of you have ever heard "I just need some space" from your guy. Your head starts turning with the hundreds of possibilities of what he really means. Did he find someone new and he needs space to date her? Did I do something wrong? Am I not pretty enough? You end up checking your phone every five seconds and vowing to drop those extra ten pounds.
I am happy to say that I know the answer to the “what he really means” question. When he says he just needs space he really means, drum roll please, he just needs some space. I know this sounds very illogical to you and don’t worry, it does to me too. How is it that men say exactly what they mean and don't have any extra hidden meanings added in? I would love to tell you I have the answer to that too but sadly I don't. On the other hand, I think I can explain a basic level of how to communicate with men.
First things first we need to admit that the way most of us communicate is a little bit loopy. You know you are guilty of saying you're fine when you have so many things bugging you it makes Santa's naughty list look like a pamphlet. From my observations, when something is stressing out a guy, he won't stomp around and pout until he gets pressured to talk. Either you get told his problem or he tells you he needs space (no need to panic, we already know what space really means!).
Another problem is taking coy and mysterious to the extreme. It is no secret that guys love some mystery in a relationship, but interest can turn into frustration faster than Grand Theft Auto 4 was sold out (I didn’t see my guy for two days after it was released). So when your guy is playing X-box don't sit next to him with your arms crossed glaring at the screen. He's going to think you're enjoying watching him kill hookers and robbing drug dealers. So when you stomp out of his house he's frustrated that you're mad for no reason. The best thing to do when you find yourself getting mad at your guy is to stop and think about three things:
- Why is this bothering me so much,
- What is the best way to fix it (do I really want to fight?),
- And how should I say it so he understands?
Once you ask yourself these things, you'll find you have a logical reason why you are mad and a good plan to eradicate the situation.
I know that I have caused countless fights and too many nights up worrying and over-analyzing what guys say. In the end, it’s just easier to play their game of say what you mean/mean what you say. Plus you know you would have a blast beating them at their own game! In the end all you need to do is put down your phone and stop worrying. All that text message really means is he just needs space. That’s the end, no hidden meanings attached.
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