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Sex is everywhere; you cannot get away from it. Sex is on the television, the computer, and magazines - anywhere you look. But what does sex mean to the masses, the single gals and guys and the couples around us? They used to say that "sex changes everything", but does it really? In our sex-crazed society, what does one more "roll in the sheets" really mean? Does sex lead to love? Or does love lead to sex? Can friends be "friends with benefits" without wanting more? From a female point of view. yes, sex does change everything. Once a woman has had sex with a man (be it a stranger, friend or boyfriend), she would have to look at that person a bit differently. I mean, they have seen her naked and seen (maybe even heard) her be vulnerable. More than likely, it is not going to be a life-altering experience. But such a connection will surely change the state of your relationship. Maybe it will lead to more sex, more intimacy or even love. One never knows, until the road has been traveled. In our world today, sex is not as sacred as it was one hundred years ago. But a few monumental truths still remain. When women enter into a sexual relationship we take two risks.
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First, we risk our health, though condoms and other birth control methods do provide some protection. Second, and equally important, we risk our heart. As women, we try as we may to separate love and sex. But the truth is most of us cannot imagine one without the other. We all secretly hope that if we have sex with a guy, the sex will lead to more commitment, not just more sex. And most importantly, we hope the sex will lead to love. If sex does lead to love, how long do you wait to offer yourself to your new guy? Is the first night too soon? How about the third date? Will he stick around if you wait a month or even a year? That variable of course depends on the type of guy that you are dating. Most women want the man who is willing to wait and will stick around long after the "deed is done." Everyone is different when it comes to sexual values. We all must come to our own sexual decisions. I have friends who ended up marrying their "one-night" stands and other friends who waited months (if not years) to have sex only to end the relationship shortly after. This brings me to my favorite question; can friends have "benefits" without one person getting hurt? Think of all of the possible complications one "friend" entering a committed relationship with another women or man, a pregnancy, STD, one "friend" falling in love with their "beneficial friend" and so on. As a woman, I have personally never comprehended the concept of "friends with benefits". However, I know many who have found "benefits" with this arrangement. So yes, some people can make the "friends with benefits" work (or at least they are good liars). A women's perspective of sex is almost always very different from a man's. From a women's view it seems that some men want sex, a lot of sex and a lot of different women. But there are other men out there, those who actually prefer sex to be with the one woman that they care about (dare I say it - love). And most of us as women hope to someday find that kind of man. A man that can have sex with us, hold us as we fall asleep and still be there in the morning when we wake.All women (or at least a good percentage) like to have sex. We like to feel wanted and desirable. After the first time with a new guy, most of us secretly hope that when the phone rings our new lover is calling. We secretly hope that we found a man who plans to stick around for many nights to come. Sometimes it is hard to determine the guys who are simply looking for sex versus the guys who want a relationship (with sex included). So guys before you jump into bed with us - remember, there's health and heart at stake.
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