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The Person You Dream About Vs. The Person You Fantasize About

 
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A dream and a fantasy are one in the same, yet two different things all together. And the person you dream about and the person you fantasize about are very similar, but have an exceptionally thin line between the two ideas to make up the difference.

Also, in looking into the definitions of both words, the difference I focused on was:
1.Dream: a strongly desired goal or purpose; something that fully satisfies a wish; ideal
2.Fantasy: the power or process of creating especially unrealistic or improbable mental images in response to psychological need, like an object of fantasy; also : a mental image or a series of mental images (as a daydream).

We can dream of being successful, however, we can fantasize about having plenty of money. One is an aspiration of hope (A Goal, if you will), and the other is a fantasy of comfort (Ironically, called a daydream. Strange, I know). And the dream becomes fantasy when it seems unachievable, or has more mystery and not enough ambition and potential behind the driving force pushing you towards the goal (giving someone the run-around with all the "what-if's").

Now, as You the reader, I want you to use your imagination to draw a mental image, if you will. I would like you to use your imagination to dream of your significant other as the person you own a house with; with a picket fence and a nice car, in a decent neighborhood where your kids can have enough room to play in the back yard, or learn to ride their bike around the block without worrying. That type of person, you know. Now hold that picture of the image of your significant other.
Don't forget what he/she looked like.

Next, I want you to use your imagination to fantasize about the person that knows just what you want; your deepest desires. Imagine the person that takes your breath away in a single moment in time and knows how to leave you wanting more... and more... and does whatever it takes to fulfill you fantasies.

And hold that thought, too.

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Are they: one-in-the-same, or two different people? You know, the person you dream about and the person you fantasize about? Do they have different characteristics of each other, or are they similar? What are their personalities are like? Do they look different or the same, and do they wear the same kinds of clothes?

What I'm getting at is: when describing, attracting and approaching the object of your deserving affection, remember to take into account how thick or thin the line between dream and fantasy is, and where is crossed. Also, remember how far away from reality it is, and what it is going to take to make it happen.

Because the difference for me has to do with Potential, Effort, and Efficiency: How much is present and how much is it going to take to make a fantasy a dream, and then into a dream come true. The difference could be as big or as small as living a lonely life daydreaming, or enjoying simple solitude from a life full of dreams coming true.

Then there's the other end of the spectrum: Is the person who you pursued the person that which whom you expected them to be once placed up high on this Dream/Fantasy date pedestal?

Also, I always say (and I forgot where I saw it, because I didn't make it up): some people are in your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. And you can dream/fantasize about someone for a little while, a long while, or chase after a dream/live with it for a life time.

My best advice, here, would be that *before you get caught up in a dream,* make sure to establish the difference between dreams and fantasies.

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