Why Do Girls Like Guys And Not Girls?

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sweet17

You've got a lot of things there that ring true. Girls always appreciate a good-looking guy though.
And I don't get turned on by seeing lesbian action. Romantic movies/sex scenes will, in fact, turn me on. You've got that part right on the money. And yes, if I see another girl makin out with a guy, I'll wanna be in her shoes.
We like men because we are biologically programmed to be attracted to the opposite sex so we can mate and have offspring. lol End of story. - 8 months ago

bgreek1

Here's the scope with chicks.
It goes back to the question are you born gay?
well call Fox Mulder but here's what I know about chicks
that prove this fellow right.

When a girls in a relationship for the 1st time
The question is how does the chick handle the break up?
Some do very good and continue to date guys
While others are so tired with men
They have sex with women hence why single women with kids
Are more likely to be lesbians or bisexual
Just call it a theory
from their 1st relationship - 8 months ago

aliba

I guess its just our biological programming, I know that I and a lot of my friends are always saying, why can't we just grow up to marry other women? it would work out so much better - 8 months ago

foreverhis

Well every girl sees things differently.
Like me for example, I like both girls and guys but my friend isn't sure so I asked her out a while ago and she said she would totally be up with trying it. So we dated for like 2 months and one day she was like well I'm not sure if I'm all that into girls like I thought I would be.
So everyone has a different output. So some people are more open about it, where as others are more secretive. I just told my friends I was bi, and no one treated different - 7 months ago

bobbbing-wire

Well, almost all of human behavior and mental processes are acquired throughout the individual's life. My, and many domains', explanation for sexual orientation is directly linked to culture. There's a tribe of homosexuals in Africa. How to explain that? Because they think heterosexuality corrupts, they only allow it for reproduction. In our society, heterosexuality is what is considered normal. It really depends on enculturation. But hey, it's your article man, just stating what I think. - 7 months ago

felicia

You have to understand that for many if not most women sex has a mental and emotional, not just physical aspect to it. If I don't feel the guy is there for me, that he cares, and that he has good qualities, I can't let myself go. I may fancy him (or rather fancy the idea of him having feelings for me), but I go cold. I find my current boyfriend physically attractive though, I love his body, and I have never had a crush on a guy or had sex with him just because of his good personality. - 6 months ago

sheperd

Yeah very good - 6 months ago

thumbelinasplace01

Ha ha your last paragraph. We see a girl making out with someone, so we want too to..Because of jealousy we turn other girls on. Funny! but you are very very wrong sweetheart..... - 6 months ago

seradane

I think your answer lies a lot in biology and what we're instinctually programmed to look for in our mates:

Guys seek out women who can bear them lots and lots of children - so they want someone healthy. Good genetics. The best way to tell that is through looks - and as a result guys are very visual and at the sight of an attractive, healthy woman, they get turned on.

On the other hand, women don't require much outside imput to create a child, but then they have the matter of raising it. - 5 months ago

seradane

In order to ensure the kid survives, women need a man who will look after them, provide for them and protect them. Looks don't really come into it. And as such, women get turned on by a man who is attracted/devoted to them - because that means he'll stick around and not just move on to impregnate the next girl. :P

Although we live in a radically different world than we started out in, and kids don't always come into it, a LOT of our behaviour is still programmed by these instincts. - 5 months ago

seradane

And so, to answer your question properly - girls like guys, not other girls, because although girls may be more attractive, we need someone to look after us more than we need someone hot.

Obviously in today's world, the protecting and providing is in a more social/career sense, and in that regard women can provide just as well as men. (Maybe why there are lots of bi/lesbian women.) But not too long ago it was quite different, and we're still all fairly instinctual creatures. - 5 months ago

EmberlyMai

There are so many things wrong with this question!

1 Many girls do like girls (like myself). Some of us also don't like guys.
2 Many girls do get turned on by guy-guy action, like myself.
3 Some girls don't get turned on by love scenes.

Short answer is, we don't know. Anyone who pretends to know is lying or stupid. I'm waiting for the scientists. So far, they say it's biological programming, both for heterosexual girls and lesbians. - 4 months ago

chickitabanana

I know that I have asked myself, "Hey, why am I attracted to men instead of girls?" and I feel like the answer is always 'Because men have a more mysterious quality, I know how women think because well, I am one. Secondly, I want to be protected and held and the thought of a man wrapping his arms around me is more appealing than a woman doing so.'
I guess I really don't know why, Emberly has a point, no one really knows. In my opinion, a person is born with their sexual preference. - 3 months ago

quietplace

For guys and girls, it's all about reproduction. If you want to understand girls, just understand that they're programmed just like guys to be maximally selfish, in order to propagate their genes. What they want is money, physical protection, feeling 'safe', having a man of high status who is 'funny, witty, dresses well', for him to be monogamous, and to cheat on the side with other men who have good genes (but not let her mate know). Read the research, it's all about greed in both sexes. - 2 months ago

quietplace

And the reason the woman's sexual response is complex is that she's in the evolutionarily contradictory position of needing sex to get what's in her genes interest (children), but also not needing sex, in that she doesn't want all the resource burden of raising her own kids. So her sexual response centers around what's in her genes interest (money, caring guys, etc). Just like guys' sexual response centers around what's in their genes interest (looks, youth, carnal acts, lack of commitment). - 2 months ago

nyczpyro

DUDE what kind of question is this? Girls like people who appreciate them and give them the feeling that they are there for them. Also there's the idea of hormones it could just be because its natural? And with all due respect to women, ALL WOMEN LOVE SEX not all of them know it. What's better than a man and his natural tool? Either way you like girlsnot guys right? WHY NOT A GUY? HUH ASK URSELF. Get over girls on girls you, my friend have a lot to learn about females lol. - A month ago

nyczpyro

Dont get into too much detail about how it works just ask yourself why do you like girls and focus on yourself this could be very self destructive :P - A month ago

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