Hey Girl, Your Ideal Body Type Is Not What Your Guy Wants

Women now make up roughly half the labor force and have higher college graduation rates than men. Whether they're CEOs, soldiers, or senators, women are increasingly well represented even in traditionally male jobs.

They're also overwhelmingly more likely than men to be plastic surgery recipients. According to the American Society of Plastic Surgeons, more than 13.8 million people sought cosmetic surgery in 2011, and fewer than 10 percent of those patients were men.

This shows that there is an increasing acceptance of plastic surgery among society. Before, plastic surgery cost was the biggest issue that divided celebrities and ordinary people, but now surgical enhancements are for everyone (except kids and teenagers who don’t really need it).
"Your idea of beauty and your man's might be farther apart than you think."


If you've ever looked in the mirror and wished you could change just that one little -- or maybe that not-so-little -- body part, you may understand this drive to achieve ideal beauty. However, your idea of beauty and your man's might be farther apart than you think. If you're considering surgery to look better to him, first find out what he really thinks is beautiful.


Big Breasts and Barbie Waists

The single most popular surgical procedure is breast augmentation. Almost 310,000 women got breast implants through augmentation last year, and it's a fair bet that many of them who chose to go under the knife were doing so to look more appealing to men. Even the most cursory glance through a men's magazine will show you just how much men prize a nice pair. If the lad mags were a true indication of men's interest in cleavage, the only creatures more breast-obsessed than men would be hungry babies, and they care more about function than size.

Fortunately, magazine sales are only part of the story. Men may admire an artfully airbrushed and arranged body, but wanting to be close to that body is another matter. It's no secret that men are visually oriented; a PET scan readily shows the difference between how men and women react to visually appealing stimuli. An improbably perky pair of double D-cups does attract his attention. However, they don't hold his attention for any longer than it takes to glance at a magazine cover. He'll notice them, but he'll only buy the magazine if the articles look interesting.



What you see on his magazine covers has very little to do with what he loves about your body. He admires sleek cars too, but he doesn't think you should tattoo yourself with pin-striping and buff yourself to a high gloss. Surgically augmented breasts are worth a fleeting glance; he could admire your beautiful, natural body for hours if you let him.

What Men Really Like

The British magazine, Fabulous, asked its readers to define the ideally beautiful body size. Men chose a size 12, and women chose a size 8. In North America, those sizes work out to a size 10 and a size 6, so the message is equally clear on both sides of the pond: men like a more robust body type. These are only averages, so if you're naturally sylph-like and slim, it doesn't mean you need to eat extra helpings to impress your man. If you're voluptuous, though, it could mean that you're worrying about perceived fat that your man doesn't even see.

What men find sexy are the things that make women look different from men. Yes, boobs are on that list, but so are a lot of other feminine attributes that have little to do with plastic surgery. Your expressive eyes, your smooth skin, your scent, your curvy legs, your hair and even your hands and feet are beautiful to him because they're uniquely female. Emphasize what makes you different from him, and you'll have his attention.

Surgery might give you a shapelier caboose or a bigger bust-line, but these things don't enhance your femininity in his eyes. As far as he's concerned, you don't become more female by having these parts artificially enhanced any more than he would become more male by sprouting extra back hair.

Why Loving Your Looks Matters

Whether you currently have a man in your life or are actively shopping, you have an interest in looking your best. If you alter who you are through extensive plastic surgery, you're no longer looking your best; you're looking someone else's best. That someone probably isn't your man, but an advertiser's concept art of what a woman should look like.
"You don't become more female by having these parts artificially enhanced!"


You're proceeding on false premises when you assume that the airbrushed magazine images of size 6 waists and hips with prodigious racks are your guy's vision of feminine beauty. These carefully cropped and composed pictures are just window dressing to him; they're there to lure him to buy as surely as a clearance sale sign entices you into a shop.


Embrace who you are and show him your real self fearlessly. One thing all men agree on: confidence is supremely sexy.

About the Author:

Lisa Moore is a senior writer of Interactive Service Group. Her articles have appeared on sites like Nooz Hawk, Herald Extra-Mom Click and other women and parenting websites. Her recent works include "Hourglass Bodyfigure is Not What Men Really Want", "Pregnancy & Motherhood: Breastfeedingafter Breast Augmentation Surgery" and Affordable Plastic Surgery vs. Cheap Plastic Surgery. Contact her at lisa_moore80@ymail.com.
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Most Helpful Girl

  • pshhht I don't care what guys think I have a very small chest which I love and if I guy complained about it I wouldn't even care (well if I was dating him I would dump him) no one has had any problems with it and lots of guys still like me so I feel like people are making it look like guys care more about boobs than they actually do. Also everyone always says that man like only curvy girls but each guy is different and likes different things.

    • even if you have small chest you still appeal guys because you look attractive

Most Helpful Guy

  • "An improbably perky pair of double D-cups does attract his attention. However, they don't hold his attention for any longer than it takes to glance at a magazine cover. He'll notice them, but he'll only buy the magazine if the articles look interesting. "

    I thank you for your deep understanding in the subject matter, since this is VERY true for guys.

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  • Why don't they ever seem to have articles that are NOT catering towards strictly heterosexual couples?

  • While surgery does have a place in the world, it is FAR overused and as the article suggests, the motivations for it are often misguided. The majority of men want NATURAL, and what girls see as "flaws" guys just find to be unique and interesting. Of course, the doctors are always finding new procedures and encouraging women to get them, because replacing those Porsches every couple of years is expensive...

  • Last time I checked- Its my body, not his.

  • If A Women feels more comfortable being a size 2 . who gives a sh*t what guys want. your body is yours, not anyone elses. you're presupposing everyone is fat & feels bad about it.

    also, you're implting women should stay spft & flabby and not strong & muscular, because men want to see something that's soft. that's bullsh*t too.

    people whatever they look like, should figure out how to be the best version of themselves, as suits their interest, as possible. not family, not friends, not men/women.

  • I loved this article. I agreed with everything

  • This is so lovely and true. Women are beautiful in all shapes and sizes...come on, God made us with a superhuman ability to carry/give birth to another human! We should rock it and own it daily haha

  • cool but not all women are changing their bodies for men...

  • What you say is so true! Women want to have plastic surgery to fit to the beauty ideal, but there is no standard beauty ideal. Every era, country and person has different perceptions about beauty, and anyway we can't be liked by all. Our 'flawed' characteristics are what makes us look different and unique.

  • I think all women should get get some nice new breasts. There may be some risks and cost involved to her, but think of all the men whose health those those brand new t*ts will benefit. There will be literally tens of thousands of men who will admire them and be happier after seeing them if only for a few fleeting seconds. And happier men makes healthier men. Just saying.

  • I think that too many women are insecure about their bodies. Men just aren't because we tend not to care about them. I hate that my Girlfriend hates her body. She is by medical standards, overweight, but to me, she looks just fine. I think women just need to accept what they look like and change naturally, not artificially. I also think a lot of men need to stop being shallow pricks and tell their GFs that they look beautiful the way they are.

  • When someone is going as far to have surgery I think it has to do with a whole lot more then what they think men want

  • Loved the article. One thing I think the article missed is how important wearing the right clothing is. Regardless of what size you are, wearing cloths that fit makes a huge difference. I think there was a show about it, "how to look good" or something.

  • 'you don't become more female by having these parts artificially enhanced any more than he would become more male by sprouting extra back hair' actually I have to dissagree with that. Men do look more masculine when they have bigger muscles but fake oily muscles are just gross. The same is with breasts if you work too hard on making them perfect and too perfect by getting surgery done, they would just look weird, fake and gross.

  • I don't know, I have small boobs and even if a guy wants to be with me but likes to ogle and fantasize about someone else's boobs that makes me feel more like a friend and it's confusing and it makes me feel bad, just saying, I mean, that doesn't mean a guy actually prefers my BODY it means he likes my personality a big deal, which is important but it's not the ONLY thing.

  • Can't stand plastic surgery. Women are naturally beautiful, but they are also their own worst enemy. They are too critical of themselves and compare themselves to other women. They need to stop doing that and look at themselves and realize they're beautiful, too. I see beautiful women who are skinny, average, or chubby. What makes them beautiful is their femininity and their confidence. Women, go look in the mirror and admire your body, no griping or criticizing allowed. :)

  • This article is saying we should be trying to impress men rather than making YOU happy with YOUR body, I also a lot of women who exercise and eat right and who don't get plastic surgery.

  • Hmm, interesting article.

    Although, it's not for the men. That may be part of it but also it's her having to be more confident with herself. Cosmetics or not.

  • I beg to differ. I am very slender and my boyfriend LOVES it and literally tells me so every day. He goes crazy for thin women. I don't believe guys are all looking for a size 10, that is extremely hefty. I have never once talked to a man who found obese women attractive. I call bollocks.

  • Show me a 'sane' man that looks at a a little girl (or even a barbie doll) and becomes aroused and I will show you someone who needs to be monitored and/or locked up and started on meds immediately! This society we live in, this country, its citizens need a serious awakening and soon

  • I mean, from the waist up they look (and feel) like plastic dolls, and from the waist down they look like little girls. The collective whole literally looks like a barbie doll. The fact that this does not concern or disturb anyone is also appalling?

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