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Confidence: Your Best Accessory

 
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I cannot tell you how many times I've seen a cute girl in public that completely ruined her look by looking scared and had no confidence in herself or her beauty. Let me give you an example. Once at my old job at a coffee shop, a group of 3 girls, around 17 came in. All 3 were attractive, one was especially pretty. There was one problem. The prettiest girl looked totally unsure of herself. She kept fidgeting... touching her hair, crossing and uncrossing her arms, tugging her shirt, and looking down nervously. I was utterly confused. Here was this beautiful girl, whose mannerisms made her look like a complete mess! Ironically, a group of 3 guys came in a few minutes later and they looked about the same age as the group of girls. After they ordered they sat a table near the girls, ready to talk to them. When they finally made their approach, the two other girls looked up smiling and willing to talk to them. The third girl smiled nervously and tugged at her hair and shirt. Long story short, as I observed, I noticed the guys didn't talk to the third girl much. She was too preoccupied with herself. They exchanged numbers with the other girls and smiled politely and the third, then left.

Moral of the story: No matter how beautiful you are, confidence is always key.

Clothing is a big part of feeling confident. Even if someone is wearing the latest style, if they don't feel comfortable in it or it doesn't fit like they want, they wont be able to fully enjoy the way they look, thus exuding the wrong vibe.

** Wear clothing that fits well and makes you feel good. Being in style is important, but feeling good in the clothing is even more important.

Posture portrays all. Slumped over with crossed arms oozes invisibility.

**Stand up straight. Shoulders back. Hair off your face, preferably behind your back. A sexy way to show skin is to show shoulders and neck, not too much cleavage! That gives the wrong idea. Shoulders and neck are sexy. Wear heels. If you can't walk in them, by all means.. DON'T. I wear heels every day almost, unless I'm at the gym. I've had a lot of practice. Wear shoes that makes you walk straight and tall.

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The set of your eyes, jaw, lips, and arms are very important body language.

**Keep eyes forward. Shifty eyes or constantly looking down makes you look scared. Make sure jaw is relaxed. Lips can't be pursed tightly, but make sure your mouth doesn't hang open. Keep it relaxed. If you're really an expert, create a signature facial expression... make sure it's not too mean or even too friendly! My signature relaxed expression is a smile in my eyes and the SLIGHTEST I mean SLIGHTEST smirk on my face, barely visible, but ever-present just the same. If you have a purse, one hand could be holding it or holding the strap over your shoulder. Let the other dangle, not monkey-ish, but natural. I know the arms are a hard thing to master, even for me. Make sure arms are not crossed! This makes you seem unapproachable and rude.

If you don't have confidence... fake it. In the end putting on a show will eventually give you the real confidence you desire.

These tips will guaranteed get you noticed. And once they do, make sure you know how to follow up! If you notice a cute guy looking your way, acknowledge it! Usually I give a slight smile and a head nod. Sometimes if I'm in a really good mood, I wink.

True beauty comes from the inside. A girl with confidence is sexy. As long as you have a beautiful personality and confidence, you'll be a stunner, I promise.

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Abu-Shreek Great article,i completely agree with u. - 11 months ago
sha1980 Great Article - 11 months ago
beddafigghia Thanks guys :) - 11 months ago
sammy--j I totally agree with you. I mean I get that I'm attractive and all but when I look at myself I see nothing of what other people see.i am so self-consious bout myself..if I don't hear from my boyfriend that I'm beautiful I get so sad..lol
its so weird... - 11 months ago
beddafigghia Don't let your boyfriend's lack of words bring you down! You know you're a pretty girl... use that as fuel to look your best ever. There's no reason for you to feel down on yourself hunny. My recent ex never told me I was pretty either, I told myself--and it made me feel great =). Make sure you feel good about yourself because in the end it's only your own opinion that matters. - 11 months ago
xtine21 Awesome article. And absolutely fill of truth.
"If you don't have confidence... fake it. In the end putting on a show will eventually give you the real confidence you desire." - I do this a lot of the time. especially when I'm not looking my best, and my mind is to busy focusing on how much prettier the girl standing next to me is. And it works. faking confidence is always good, and always gets you somewhere. Therefore making the confidence real without you even noticing. :-) - 11 months ago
beddafigghia Couldnt have said it better myself! :)) - 11 months ago
WeaponZero While I do agree with what you're saying, I also have to say that anyone who has to put this much thought and effort into it as to follow your directions has already failed. - 11 months ago
beddafigghia Not necessarily. And these aren't "directions" I'm writing they're pieces of advice. And the only people who have failed at life are the ones who have completely given up on it. - 11 months ago
WeaponZero Im not saying failed at life, I'm just saying that a lot of people can tell the difference between whether or not it comes naturally, and if you needed to follow a guide book to fake the look then you won't really be able to pull it off. - 11 months ago
sweet17 That was a great article. Thanks for writing it! - 11 months ago
saklea Wonderful Article! - 11 months ago
beddafigghia Thanks guys :) - 11 months ago
gonaners16 Amazing.. I used to always think that I was ugly or (for lack of a better word) defective in some way. somewhere I started being very confident.. if someone doesn't like me, its because they are not confident enough with themselves or because they are jealous.. look at yourself in the mirror every morning and say that you ARE beautiful, KNOW that you are an amazing person.. trust me, your day will be so much better... - 11 months ago
beddafigghia SO true. The only reason people put others down is because they have some insecurity with themselves. Tell yourself you're beautiful every day because you are! - 11 months ago
drea415 Amazing article thanks so much! this really helped me:) - 11 months ago
beddafigghia Thanks! that's what I'm here for! - 11 months ago
Joe223 "A girl with confidence is sexy" sure they are, but a girl whos not confident is cute. Personally I would rather speak to a quiet, cute and shy girl who doesn't notice how beutiful they are rather then a girl who acts like you say you do, who knows there good looking and who thinks that their looks will have any impact on guys who want more then sex. Why would a guy want a girl who wears heels everyday rather then a girl who wears sandshoes? I'm not trying to be rude with this. - 10 months ago
what555 Oh well I guess I'm f***ed then. I'm sorry I just can create confidence out of thin air. - 10 months ago
lost-angel I really like this article.
- 10 months ago
Jzx-ai Thats soo cool!!! I've the confidence, but I never knew what such a little thing could do!! - 9 months ago
melissarose8585 Love it! (And I've tried to explain it to so many girls-this is why I get hit on more in jeans a t-shirt than when I dress up! I'm comfortable and not worried about how I look.) - 8 months ago
Miss_Desirae This article was very helpful. I have a problem with confidence myself. All of my friends have boyfriends now, and I'm the only one out of them who doesn't, and I realize now that it's probably because I'm always so shy. So, from now on, I'll try to be more confident. - 7 months ago
ArtistBboy Chills!!! Great article :D - Clearly shows you have class ^_^ - 6 months ago
 
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