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Girls, what if you don't have the perfect body?

 
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"I look nothing like the girls from Sex and the City"
"My body isn't even close to the bodies in the magazines"
"My boobs are too small"
"My boobs are too big"
"I have a ghetto booty"
"I have no butt"
"I have stretch marks"
"I have an ugly scar"

Any of these sound familiar? I'm sure at one point in your life, you have looked in the mirror and thought one of these phrases or something very similar. It doesn't matter how beautiful you are, you still focus on that "chink" in your armor. It's a fatal flaw that is overwhelming and destroys your self esteem. Every time you look at yourself in the mirror, or want to get close to a guy, your "huge defect" comes to mind. This hits girls a lot more then guys because women are constantly comparing themselves to other women. But instead of being depressed about your body, and wishing you had the body of someone else, there are a couple things you need to realize.

The first thing you need to realize is: There is no such thing as a perfect body. There is no one in the world that is completely happy with their body. Everyone would like to change something about their body, whether big or small. You would think that super models have the easy life, not having to worry about their bodies. But even super models are very self conscious, and many even more self conscious then normal women, about their bodies. They are constantly worrying about their bodies, and even they wish they could change things about them. So there might be parts of your body that you wish were more like a supermodel, but there might be parts of a super models body that she wishes was more like yours.

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There is a reason that there is no such thing as a perfect body. You have heard that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and that statement is truer then you realize. What might be the perfect body to one person, might be unattractive to another person. So before you start hating your small boobs, or your big butt, realize that every person has their own tastes, likes and dislikes. For example, read these quotes made by real men in an MSN article.

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“Why I love women’s bodies”
By Christine M. Coppa

Tall, short, plump or petite, one thing is universal—no matter what a woman’s shape, there’s a man out there who’ll appreciate it! To prove our point, listen to what these guys have to say, and feel your confidence soar… no matter what your body type.

The pleasure of plus “My wife is plus-size — and it’s a plus in every aspect of the word — especially when it comes to spooning.” – Anthony Abruccio, 39, Brooklyn, NY

Stay strong
“I like muscles! My girl’s arms are cut, toned and sexy—and I love when she wraps ’em around me.” – Carl Steir, 31, Clifton, NJ

Boyish bodies rock!
“I’m not lusting after the classic Playboy centerfold. My girlfriend is a 32A, and I love when she goes braless—especially in a clingy tank-top.” – Dan Cooke, 24, Asotin, WA

Muscles, schmuscles…
“My girl’s middle is soft and luscious and every time she complains about it, I hug her belly. I love that part of her body best—it’s so womanly.” – Roger Abrams, 31, Browning, MO

Short and sweet
“Everyone thinks tall models are so glamorous, but my fiancée is just five feet tall. It’s so adorable when she stands on her tippy-toes to kiss me.” – Josh Cooper, 29, New York, NY

On the lean and narrow
“I’ve dated women of all shapes, sizes and races. I’m engaged to a tomboy with narrow hips and pin-thin legs. It’s all good!” – Josh Wood, 31, Houston, TX

When thin isn’t in
“I used to date a dieter. She obsessed over everything she ate and was depressed every single time she looked in the mirror. My new girlfriend loves to eat and bake. She’s not thin or heavy. She’s healthy, and I’m happy!” – Matt Magino, 29, Brick, NJ

Bathing beauty
“I met my current girlfriend last summer. She’s plus-size, but was romping around on the beach in a bikini. There was something very confident and free in the way she moved. She didn’t cover up or hide anything, and there was this fresh air about her that I really fell for.” – Anthony Douglas, 28, Mission Viejo, CA

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So as you can see, each guy has their own tastes. Before you decide to go get plastic surgery, take some time to realize that what you might see as negative about your body is actually a turn on for many guys. Don't be so self conscious about certain parts of your body. Understand that you are a lot harder on yourself then anyone will ever be, and that no one is going to focus on it like you will. And realize that you're not going to be attractive to every single guy in the world, because every guy is different. Even the most beautiful girl in the world isn't going to be attractive to every guy. You don't need to be attractive to every single guy, you just need to be attractive to one good one.

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LIFE-in-COLOr You make it sound so easy. I should start thinking like that [: - More than a year ago
Jarett Well we are always going to have stuff we don't like about ourselves. There are many things I want to change about myself. I go to the gym to change many of these things. The other things, I just have to accept. - More than a year ago
xosunshine THANK YOU! Seriously, I love this artical. The media really got to my head for a while, and after reading this I looked in the mirror and smiled, that is the first time I have done that in a while. =) I'm starting to like my body more and more everyday, and it is stuff like this that helped me realize that as long as I am healthy, Ill be fine. There should be more guys like you. - More than a year ago
A-R-Norman Awww you are such a sweety--thank you fro that--women seriously need more fellas like you who get it. Funny too--even Tyra Banks hates aspects of how she looks -- and it is so true about what attracts us--my hubby is so sexy and he is five foot one! But I suppose women feel self conscience about their looks for the same reason men may about their jobs--society puts pressure on men to be financial giants and women to be raving beauties that such men fight over--silliness! - More than a year ago
Saygoodnitenai I enjoyed this article ...greatly! -- let me know when you write another. lol I was just browsing this site to answer a couple questions and here I am typing you in regards to your article. Caught my interest! - More than a year ago
Ginkr Okay... but that said nothing about stretch marks.... lol. No guy I've met cares for them. - More than a year ago
coco21 I love this article. I used to be fit and active and now I have a child and stretch marks and YES guys do appreciate stretch marks. my guy does anyway. it happens when you bring life to this earth.
thanks for showing me that guys actually do appreciate a woman no matter what her looks are. - More than a year ago
cheekychupcakes This was a fantasic post.
It's the same way a female views a male. Not every gal drools over mister tall, dark, and handsome with the sexy rock hard body. Recently I realized I wasn't at all really attracted to the lean cut abs you see on guys on tv. I love my boyfriend's bulky six pack and tiny gut! =] - More than a year ago
saturdayx I love this article. Thank you for posting it. - 10 months ago
Kate1005 Thank you for posting this. Some days I love my body and some days I'm a bit bummed out by things I see a problem. Keeping this in mind will help those bummed days gradually go away I hope - 9 months ago
maddhatter I'd really like to believe this. Honest to God, but I can't. I have a pretty face, but I'm short and curvy-only once have I been asked out, and he turned out to be a freakin pervert! I see all these girls at school who are flat and skinny but I don't have a hope in hell of ever looking like that.
To top it all off, I'm painfully shy (usually taken the wrong way too...some people think I'm stand offish).
some people are meant to be alone.
- 9 months ago
gonaners16 Tall, thin and muscular =] sexy as hell! <---- anywho, confidence in that is what makes it sexy! LOVE YOURSELF and BE yourself, its all good =] - 8 months ago
Nicky87 I tryto think like this but it NEVER sticks. I hate everything about the way I look. I compare myslef constantly to people on TV and people around here. if when they showed a tv show it didn't just have 98% all hlf naked "hott" women, then I don't think that it would be as big a deal but that's all they ever show and it makes us think that's what we need to look like to be happy and wanted since 99% of guys stare at them and think they are amazingly hott. - 8 months ago
lost-angel Jarett There are many things I want to change about myself. The other things, I just have to accept. - 8 months ago ----- Asian worm? Don't change that!!! :p - 7 months ago
sweetnsassy23 Yeah comparing yourself to people on tv is the worse thing you can do!No one looks like that not even the celebrities who take hours and hours just to do hair and makeup, and they have personal trainers so theyre guaranteed to get the best workouts.Even still, anyone who has complexity issues should really just accept themselves then people around you will start to notice and think you're more attractive.If not, just look up celebrities without makeup and you would be shocked!! - 6 months ago
massgirl92 Aww I love this :) - 3 months ago
chickitabanana Thank you:) - 3 months ago
ryanryan90 Great article! - 2 months ago
Beebe Thanks,I appreciate this article! I'm considered attractive,but with that I was really hard on myself when I gained weight.I just cared too much about if I looked good& now I realize it was such a waste of time& energy!If I could go back I wouldn't obsess over if I looked perfect enough.Also,I stopped reading mags bcus they fed into my insecurities,SO GIRLS,if ur hard on yourself,don't look at mags. - A month ago
laurenii Thank you for this article. Although I still don't feel quite comfortable with my imperfections, I'm really trying. Things like this article re-enforce positive self-image. - 27 days ago
courttie Wow I love this! I'm about 5'2" and I"m about 102lbs. I'm literally a stick. I'm shaped like a 12 year old girl. I love my body, I get grief from my guy friends saying I'm flat chested. This article shows me I don't have to worry about being so tiny anymore :) - 11 days ago
 
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