most guys our age are like this...their called players they want to see if you will come back for more so that they know they can control you and get what they want and leave ya when the next best thing comes around. I feel sorry for you to go through this. Guys like that are d***s...im happy I'm not one of them...but its common a guy in late teens like me to feel like he's always gotta be the better man and get what he can get and show his friends how many girls he's slept with or got with. Its kinda hard to say ...im sorry. You sound like a nice girl and you shouldnt deal with a guy like that...there are many out there like me who have matured and found what they really want and I'm sure he's out there looking for you. HONESTLY don't deal with him...any guy like that I have no respect for...thats why my friends aren't assholes. I hope you find someone who will give care and meaning to what your feelings are and mean twords him...I hope I was able to help you :)
If it is FWB relationship, why are you trying to read meaning into it? If either of you develop any feelings you will have to express it first. So, why don't you ask him whay he made that statement. Also, are you happy just being together and cuddling? If so, then let him know that you enjoyed that session.
He wanted physical comfort, but was not in the mood for sex. Yeah, we usually are, but we do have days like that. If you do not have the energy for sex, then cuddling is one of the best stress relievers out there.
Yah, there may be hidden meaning there, or he may be in denial, but usually when a guy says something like that he means it. He probably just wanted you to know that he liked you enough that being in physical contact with you took away his stress, but he did not feel any deep attachment indicative of love.
Actually, though, it really does not matter what he thinks about it, unless you want something more from the relationship. If you are interested in more with this guy, then start looking for direct answers from him, without any equivocation.
Sounds like he is afraid of liking you more and more, and/or getting attached. I hope when he said "it doesn't mean anything" you said something in return because me being a guy, I've usually said some stupid things but girls usually just leave it at that, they just generally sum it up with what a guy says, no questions asked... lots of guys say stupid crap all the time to females for mainly no real reasons or stupid reasons... ;sigh; @ me
guys are difficult to understand, they see things differently than women do. he likes you or he wouldn't be having sex with you, but doesn't want to get attached to you, or doesn't want a gf. if he told you it didn't mean anything to him then it probably didnt, if you don't love him and are comfortable being with him every now and then, then just ignore his comment but if you have feelings for him let him know, and if he doesn't feel anything for you just attraction then get away from him...
Reading the responses here, I'm wondering if I'm missing something? All I got out of this question was that a guy you have casual sex with sometimes wnted to be with you, but didn't want to have sex..just wanted to curl up and spend time with you.
Im also not sure what you mean by... wouldn't a guy know how a girl would view it that he said it didn't mean anything... Its weird that he would just say that out of the blue...
If you asked or prompted a "what does this mean" talk, Id wonder why you did that since you know the relationship is casual and not a romantic one, and in that, knew what his answer would be before he said it...
Anyway, I truly am curious on what it is he did wrong...
I was curious as to why he would suggest just cuddling with me when we are only friends with benifits then say it really didn't mean anything . . . as for askng if he wouldn't fiure how a female would view it, I mean as it being a romantic kind of thing since we are a little bit more emotional than men . . . - 4 months ago
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Ahh, okay... Well, I think the think to remember is that a friends with benefits relationship is not a romantic kind of thing, its casual sex. When one or the other starts to develop feelings and starts getting emotional, then its not casual anymore...you can't have "meaningless" sex with someone you have feelings for. Take heart, it did mean something, that he felt comfortable enough with you to just be with you, but you're not a romantic couple, so its not fair to read more into it than that. - 4 months ago
I think you are both getting a bad rap from the girls here. If you enjoy each others company, like the sex and are not in committed relationships then good for you. it sounds like a commitment phobia to me. and that doesn't mean he's a jerk at all. maybe his parents are divorced, maybe he was cheated on in the past. Maybe he's scared of getting hurt. Men are people too.
He's just being mean because he doesn't want yo to think that he likes you more than sex even if he does. A male ego thing and he is just cold hearted like that. He doesn't want you to get too comfortable with that
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