That you don't care about most of the things girls do? Like I know my boyfriend says he couldn't care less if I went to a party and drank with a bunch of guys without him (I wouldn't) But I KNOW and tell him that I would have a major problem with him doing so with chicks. So do guys really not care or get jealous about things like that? Or do you just say that to make us feel bad for feeling that way? Lol I hope this makes sense, it's off the top of my head!
Depends on the age of the guy. When I just turned 21 I was like your boyfriend. Now that I'm 26, hell no, I would never let a girl friend go to a public/social event without me or a guardian I trusted. I think most guys eventually learn to cherish what they have after they've lost it a few times because girls see guys like your boyfriend as not so much lacking jealously, but lacking solid interest in them. Which is far from the case. Younger guys haven't learned to mistrust as much.
I'm not sure jealousy is the right name for the emotion. While one can trust you not to intentionally do something stupid or salacious, not wanting you to be vulnerable is more of a protective feeling than jealousy.
And, as for you not wanting him to go out drinking with other girls, I don't think jealousy is the right word there either. People might try to call it that to make it sound like an odd emotional response. But it's not odd. Sensible.
Trust has to be earned. And one does not pick up trust points by specifically doing untrustworthy things. Your guy sounds like trouble to me.
Honestly, how many of your female friends complain about a guy who's too possessive or doesn't let her do anything? She has a really jealous significant other, so she's not happy. Ultimately, he doesn't trust her at all and is afraid the relationship will fall through. Trust me, every guy gets jealous but it's dependent on how much they trust the girl. However, knowing that women -DO- like to see that jealous side (not in extreme ways), some guys show a hint of it here and there.
Guys do get jealous. Believe me , I would know. I think it's more of him trusting you , so he doesn't see other guys as a threat. I personally wouldn't allow my girlfriend to go anywhere and get drunk. Probably because I know how ditzy she is. I am pretty sure it's because he knows you could take care of yourself.
If he is not jealous then he feels the situation is not a threat to his relationship. But in this situation it doesn't make sense. Maybe he want to do all of those things without you feeling jealous. Ultimately it comes down to trust.
I've seen guys who are sensitive about that, meaning they'd get weird feelings when some guys get near his girlfriend. I've also had friends who don't get jealous, so long as the girl doesn't do anything with the guy/s.
I think it depends on the guy, and if you are drunk without me I'd dump you.
I don't drink like he does tho. He goes to parties all the time with his friends and random sluts show up all the time. I usually have school or I'm with my friends so I'm not there sometimes. - 10 months ago
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