Is he playing hard to get

Tell him upfront. What you want, need and how you feel about his signals and his actions and then wait. That will be more than the bait he would want to sign up for. Tell him to stop giving you confusing signals and be honest and wait. If he wants to be honest, he will come out of his shell and tell you everything you want to know, not what you want to hear and that might be worth waiting for a few days. If he doesn't come back and give you a clear answer, or any answer at all, then you know that he has been playing all the time, which means it is time to let go and find someone who wants what you want and need.