I'll make this short: He texted at night, I didn't return calls and turned off my phone (somewhat ignoring him, but he does this to me all the time except for the whole turning the phone off-bit) so the next day when I got his messages, he wrote, "if you hooked up with another guy, I'm never talking to you again"? What? We have an agreement to tell each other of other partners we have, so why is he acting like this?
Update: I only find it weird because HE'S the one who DOESN'T want a relationship and always reminds me we can be with whomever we want, because we are not in a relationship. Maybe he is finally falling for me, but he's just too stubborn to realize or admit it.
9 months ago
Yeah, I don't like the whole FWB thing because sex can't happen without some form of feelings, and yet when they are realized, it is hell. I agree with LilMiss here. It looks like he does like you. It also, though, seems as if he may have been thinking that you hooked up with someone else and didn't tell him about it first as you'd agreed. The fact that he's This touchy over it looks likely that he has feelings. From your update, it sounds as if you had feelings for him first? Doesn't it hurt you to know that he may be screwing other girls too?
Well, we didn't agree to tell each other of partners before the deed was actually done (that would be kinda hard, as our hook-ups would have been spontaneous and unplanned) YES! I hate the idea of him being with someone else and maybe that's why I go to other guys in the first place, its like I was only with other guys so I could tell him about it after and show him that I'm available until HE says so. I don't think he's been with anyone since we got 2gether and I'm not sure he can easily get "booty". - 9 months ago
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I can see how that would be hard to tell before the deed. Doh! *slaps hand to forehead*. That was a daft thing of me to ask. Sorry. Does that method work for you? Sorry, but I think that it may tell the guy that you're okay with sleeping with other guys rather than saying that you want to be in an exclusive relationship with him. Unless you tell him that you want that as much as what it looks like he might, he won't know. This will be a hard transition to make, so I hope you're ready for it. - 9 months ago
He is a jealous controlling individual and you might want to see if he has other warning signs like, does he have a short fuse? Does he hate stuff that he cannot control like life issues?
I know him well enough to know he's not controlling, (I think) he usually doesn't tell me what to do or what he thinks is right for me, because he doesn't want to act like a caring boyfriend and give me the wrong impression. - 9 months ago
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Well yeah its especially confusing when the 3rd base coach is sending you mixed signals - 9 months ago
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Now I know what FWB means I am such a looser!!! - 9 months ago
Well I agree with the girls he is emotionally attached that's the only thing there is to it. so just think about and talk seriously with him about what he wants and about what you want and get to a common agreement and you two are not able to get to that then that's not going to be good but if you are and if you two feel the same way it could be the start of something even better
I agree with you, I think he might finally be realising that he is emotionally attached and that's why he sent that text. Is he the type of guy who would be stubborn and deny it to you? And, out of interest, what are your thoughts on that?
I've always wanted a relationship, but I don't show it because I don't want to scare him off. He's always been totally against starting a relationship, for who who knows what reasons, he gives me mixed signals though, he says stuff that (I think) only people in a relationship would say, but then he'll talk about his freedom. I've been with two guys since being with him, and I've told him about them. He says he hasn't been with anyone, perhaps he's just jealous that he can't get anything else? - 9 months ago
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So he's the one who talks about being able to do whatever we want (and emphasizes himself with other girls) and yet he hasn't been able to get with other girls, only me. Do you think he could be jealous that I have been able to get with other people and he hasn't? I would rather just be with him and no one else, but he's all about "his freedom", he's a commitment phobe I think. - 9 months ago
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Maybe he doesn't really want to get with another girl, but wants to sound like he enjoys being single and isn't too bothered about you. As you said, he could be a commitment phobe, therefore staying single all together. Has he ever given you any other signs that he likes you apart from the things he's said? I think, though, that you have to be careful that you don't confuse FWB with him liking you. I think there's a very fine line between them, that can get easily confused. - 9 months ago
But you usually respond-so it's your fault, he just expected to do what you usually do. What the f are you doing. You're getting mad at him, when he's just confused about what's going on because your being a (French word). So you need to realize that if you want him-you have to stop doing this shit
I agree with irish-girl-08. Sounds like he's got emotionally attached. That's only a good thing if you feel the same way. But it wouldn't be surprising as that's how FWB end. Careful what you say to him on that subject, if that's the case, because either one of you could end up hurt.
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