About a year ago, I was at work and this customer came in. While I was helping him he kept smiling at me and acting really friendly.
2 months later, I was at work off hours with my gay best friend. and we saw the same guy being helped by one of my co-workers. My GBF saw him and said how hot he was, then literally pushed me over so I would go talk to him. The 3 of us talked and then we went on our way. Right after he left, my co-worker kept telling me there were "looks", but I didn't really think much of it at the time. The months that followed he started coming in more regularly and we started having conversations. He would ask my opinions on things, then come back and tell me his own. We hadn't exchanged numbers at that point, but there was this one day he came in and I was getting ready to leave. We bumped into each other and decided to walk out together. Once we got in front of the store, we met with another co-worker and the 3 of us started to talk for a good 30 mins and at the end, he asked for my number in front of my co-worker without asking for hers. As he was walking to his car, I received a text from him saying that he was really glad he got to see me today.
His texting behavior is very erratic, he can sometimes take very long time to respond but when he does respond, its always very nice. He has a very busy life with a full time job and school. One of the weirdest things he does is that he can responds on almost any subject but when I ask him to hangout he vanishes. I don't get mad over the long intervals between responses because I can understand him being busy.
Within the next few months, we texted regularly but only hung out a handful of times. There was 1 instance when I asked him what he was looking for with me and he said friendship. At that point, I was ready to stop pursuing him and just be friends. We started texting each other less and less until one day he randomly asked me to hangout and we eventually did a few days later. The entire time he kept complimenting me to the point where I had to ask him to stop, he also kept bringing up relationships topics.
Afterwards 1 night, I went out with friends and we were texting each other. For some reason he got the impression that I needed to have a serious talk with him. He was texting back very quickly. I told him nothing was wrong but I did have a problem with the fact that I felt like I was putting in all the effort. I said I didn't want to be a pest, so if he wanted to talk he could text me. He responded that I wasn't bothering him, but that ended the conversation. For the following 2 weeks he texted me everyday, still doing the occasional disappearing act.
Well it sounds as if he's feeling awkward for some reason. Maybe he started pursuing you with the compliments and relationship topics because he felt that he had to or lose you. For whatever reason though, it is quite obvious that he isn't ready or maybe that he just really wants to be friends. It could possibly be that he is tangled up with some situation that would make it impossible to pursue a real relationship. I would just move on. But you can try to talk to him as to why he doesn't already have a girlfriend and get into his head a bit more before making an decision on whether to give up or not. Good luck.
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