I've been seeing a divorced, 29 year old guy with two kids for about 5 months now. I'm about to turn 21 by the way. I had a talk with him a while back asking what we were. And he said he was trying to get his life together for his kids, and wasn't ready for a relationship because he doesn't think he can handle one correctly. So we haven't labeled what we are. And we agreed that if we wanted to see other people we would talk about it with each other first. We have fun together, but he's such a flake sometimes. We only hang out when he has time, his ex hates me and I have to leave if she's coming over to drop off the girls. He flirts with girls, and talks to them online, and that just makes me feel bad. I have been giving him all the benefits of having a girlfriend without having to commit to me at all. I have cut him a lot of slack because of his situation, but I am just about fed up. What the hell should I do? This is driving me crazy.
vortexofdoom97
(Age:Under 18)
When: More than a year ago
Give him some time. That doesn't mean you have to stay with him. Just let him know that you really need him to commit to something or most of the extra benefits he has will need to go.
mklinger01
(Age:Over 45)
When: More than a year ago
Sounds like you have tried to be there for him and and kids but it seems to me that this guy needs more time to get his act together, not just for his kids but for himself as well. If you really like this guys you should consider walking away from him for right now and give him a chance for a reality check. If he can get some help and eventually get his act together there may be a future, but until he comes to terms with his own situation there really is no chance of a meaning relationship with you or ant one else for that matter. Protect yourself first.....
PureFury
(Age:18 to 24)
When: More than a year ago
So often the answers to the questions on these boards, are tell them how you feel, and now isn't an exception. You sound like you are obviously a really great person, and you need to make him realize how lucky he is to "enjoy your company." Tell him, that even though he might not be ready for a relationship, that's what you want so you guys are going to have to find a better common ground than you have until he comes around.
He is getting his cake and eating it too. Please leave. 5 months is long enough to be his girfriend by now. Let him be on his own and find someone who really wants you around to support him all the time.
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