I've never been particularly popular with women, I'm not that physically attractive and I'm an introvert so I come across as cold and distant. But lately as I'm nearing college graduation, I've noticed a lot more interest in me from women, and one thing seems to be in common with all of them: they're not on track to make any money like philosophy majors, etc. I on the other hand because of my field make a decent amount of money, more than my parents already, but not a huge amount (I'm not a doctor or lawyer or anything). I'm also the founder of my own company, although it's yet to be profitable. Long story short, the combination of my lack of attractive qualities, combined with the fact that most of these women are "out of my league" looks-wise is getting me to think I'm dealing with gold diggers. On the other hand, it's possible my peers are maturing and looking for things other than looks and popularity. But because of my past experience being at the bottom of the dating ladder I can't help but think I'm being used. Am I being rational? Do women care enough about money to date someone they don't really like? How can I tell? Maybe I'm over thinking it, what's the difference if someone likes someone for their body or music or money anyway.
I think it is different for every girl. Some girls ARE just out for money- but definitely not all girls, and I wouldn't even say most girls. I think SOME might be, but there's no real way to figure it out until you get to know them. Just beware of girls that immediately expect you to take them to dinner, pay for things, etc. It might seem like you are supposed to, but in today's world girls should not always expect that unless they are out for money. I would take true love over money any day of the week. I'd rather live in a box with someone that really makes me happy, then deal with someone to get to their money. So maybe you just got noticeable! ;)
Honestly, confidence is the most sexiest thing a guy can wear. And you calling yourself "unattractive" definitely shows that lack that. You need to get some confidence! If you don't love yourself inside and out then why should anyone else? Everyone has good features, you just need to flaunt yours. Taking steps to make yourself comfortable with your looks is worth it sometimes.
But as for the money thing, yeah some girls do care about money and are more attracted to a wealthy guy. You don't need any of those girls though. The feelings towards you aren't real which will just give you more heartache. Don't flaunt your money and status around in times that will attract these types of girls. That way if you find a girl you'll know she's into you and not just your money.
Just stating the facts as I see 'em. It's not for lack of confidence (I'm probably average in that department), just the reality that a short, overweight, blindingly Irish guy isn't going to be gracing any magazine covers in the near future. I have money but it's not super wealthy by any means, just doing pretty well for my age. I don't flaunt my money at all, but my company is what I spend most of my free time doing so it leads to the question of "what do you do for a living? " - 5 months ago
You should you come off as somewhat cold and distant so the only real way to ever know how a girl feels about you is 2 allow yourself to get close to someone. I am not in anyway encouraging you to allow yourself to be used because in my opinion. I feel that this may just be the case. I'm sorry to say this but I highly doubt these girls just woke up over night and realized how they had overlooked you all these years. Sad reality is we live in the golden ages of the ''gimme girl''. I don't think any of these girls like you , but there is someone out here for everyone. You'll know when a girl likes you for you because there won't be any ? 's about what you do and don't have, it won't matter. Just do yourself a favor never tell anyone how much you have you'll be asking for gold diggers.
It's practically impossible for it not to come up: I spend a lot of time working on the company, my major is a dead giveaway (something that always comes up when talking to college girls). Thing is too is that women can be just as much of players as men, it's very difficult because of my lack of experience to tell her motives. - 5 months ago
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