I can't think of just mutiple females...I always think of one. Why???

You need to be yourself and not worry about what you "should do" as a man. We spend so much time (both men and women) saying "Oh, guys always do this and I don't so I'm odd." or "All women do this so I need to figure out how to change." You will be so much happier when you just accept that part of you. It's a great trait. It is endearing. Don't think you have to play the field or you aren't doing the right thing. Almost everyone wants to "mate for life" so we get focused on the person who we want to do that with. If you didn't have such strong feelings, how would you know you care for her?


You aren't alone. Why do you think the world is full or songs, movies, books, poems, plays, and paintings about or dedicated to someone's love? You think a man spends the time constructing an elaborate work of art in honor of a woman and doesn't think about her all the time? Those people are so consumed with the other person they get all that energy out through art. So you are in good company.

Just because she is exploring her options doesn't mean that you have to also. If you are okay with just liking one girl at a time, its okay. You have a rare quality that is going to make any future girlfriend of yours very happy. If this girl is willing to only talk to you, then you can go for it but if she knows you like her and she still wants to date around, then let her be. You don't want someone that is going to play with your feelings because that's not fair to you when you can find a girl that only has an interest in you.

I'm almost 22, never had a girlfriend and a virgin, so I feel your pain.

This happens to some guys.. but it all depends on the culture.. most of the time in american culture, the girl and the guy will act like the girl you are talking about.. they always explore their option without keeping one person as their total focus.. so dating isn't just with one person.. it doesn't have to be.. I'm not saying this is moral or not.. that's for you to decide.. and it really doesn't matter.. The fact is.. if she is exploring her options, then you should too.. its only fair..I know you might have fallen for her real hard but if she doesn't feel the same way about you, she doesn't deserve your undivided attention and focus.

Explore your options too.. I know what its like to be 19 with no gf. and a virgin .. but that's not a bad thing dude.. its actually good.. as people mature, they get out of that mindset they have in high school.. their mind was always on sex.. if they had sex at a young age, then that's fine.. its not a bad thing either.. its just not a big deal.. its nothing to worry about.. Trust me.. when you do get a gf, and if she is mature, then she will appreciate the fact that you still have your virginity.. If she is says "what ! your a virgin? haha!".. then she is just being a bitch.. forget girls like that.. they don't deserve you or anyone for that matter.

Anyway.. try not to focus completely on one girl, you'll just be getting your hopes up.. If you can't help it, then at least try not to show her.. girls somehow get turned off when you are too obsessed with them.. Again, this is in american culture.. I don't know what cultural background your from.. if your culture is more conservative or if its as open as american culture.. Because for example.. in india, if a girl and a guy "date" each other, then they are totally obsessed with each other.. they won't even think about looking at other guys or girls in a sexual way... its just normal..its a mutual understanding and its how it works over there.. The girl is completely focused on that one guy and the guy is totally focused on that one girl..

When it comes to relationships, you have to at least try to behave in the way the people in that girl's culture do.. So you can get to know each other better.

First off, me too, before. This is the thing, that I realized about myself. I would only think of ONE at a time, and only her, and that was because I would be in the mentality of marriage. I always think, will I marry her, what if, so on. And that is why now I am getting married but that is besides the point. Being a virgin at that age, is very very good, and what you may be feeling when she talks to other guy is that perhaps she would do that when she is with you, and so on. Now, you need to remeber that you two aren't even together, so don't feel like crap. And you should focus on one, if she is the one you want. It shows you are relationship material, and you are modest in thought. This is a good thing that will be especially helpful when you get married. But again, remebr there are more girls out there, and if she rejects you you shouldn't feel like crap. You need to KNOW you are great, and if you feel that way, the confidence will show through. And From experience, there are girls who I think are great, but the reason some of them reject me is because they know I would find wtuff out about them and it wouldn't work. So for some of them it is a good thing... But that is just my experience so I mean... Just be super confident and you shoudl get what you want. And know there are others, I learned that myself, there are billions of girls in this world...

Dude, nothing wrong with that at all!

I am the exact same way. I'm always focused on the chick I'm interested in and nothing else. (almost to a fault)

However, this is not unnatural or a bad thing. You just need to understand, that when we like somebody, you cannot expect it to be reciprocated, and you cannot equate how they feel about you to your own self worth.

The thing you need to do, is act upon your feelings sooner rather than later. AND do not express them to her verbally, don't give her time to think.

If you're getting closer to a girl you like, then you gotta go in for the kill (kiss her).

Good luck, and don't be so hard on yourself.