Why girls get creeped out by guys so often? This is not normal.

CAUSE GIRLS THESE DAYS ARE GOD DAMN SOCIAL RETARDS!

because guys that we have met previously and have been funny charming etc have been the most hurtful or creepy ones out there. my rapist was the hottest, sweetest, funniest, and most charming man I had ever met in my life. my gut told me something was wrong and I didn;t listen and now I'm a sexual assault survivor...

men who "charm" you are hiding something or are being mischievious to get what they want. they can control you because they can tell small lies without you ever thinking anything of them and then BAM it hits you tht everything they told you waas a lie. Some men can REALLY read women and play off of that. they can tell you everything they think ou wanty to hear..

This is why women get the creeper vibe easily. past experiences tend to repeat themselves and its better to learn from it and follow your gut and be wrong then not follow your gut and be wrong and end up hurt...

because they feel they need to watch out because of rapists and serial killers, and the fact 20 year old women disappear all the time. that said a lot of women are shallow and superficial and get creeped out over stupid things, I don't get creeped out easily then again I'm weird and will probably end up in a dumpster somewhere lol

Maybe your looking at the wrong girls, perhaps you are only hitting on the hot girls who expect more? Do you bother to notice ALL the girls around or just a select few? Most women expect men to approach them, because we want to feel wanted and attractive not desperate and creepy. Guys say they want a girl to approach them but sometimes aren't very nice when she does. And another thing, people want what they can't have, so if we girls were so easy you wouldn't want us. We act the way we do so you can still desire us. Yes, you do have a good heart and someday some girl will apperciate and love you for that so why even waste time/feelings on girls who are bitches? Just relax and keep trying, you'll find a good woman eventually.

For guys it is all about physical attraction. For girls we are are more emotional/personality driven. That is just how it works

Some girls have been told too many horror stories about guys who are normal but creepy. Cosmo (many girls' handguide life) has all kinds of things in it about different tiny signals you can pick up on to know if a guy will be a creep. Some of these are not necessarily sure-fire ways to find out...

We look into things really easily. Haha. If a guy looks at you the wrong way, then you will probably forever be creeped out by him. Hahaha. It's just our mentality in this age. There's tv shows of predators, and news stories of gross old men, etc. It's kind of our defense mechanism to keep us away from (could-be) harmful things.

I've got a lot of guy friends and I've also got two younger brothers, so I'm super receptive to guys whether or not their social skills are perfect. The only things that'll totally creep me out are:

1. If a dude were to randomly start thrusting (not grinding--this has happened to me before >.<') with me on the dance floor and put his hands anywhere besides my hips.

2. Body odor and pervy pickup lines. There is no excuse for poor hygiene.

3. Blatantly looking at my chest even after I've caught you staring.

4. Being incapable of understanding that "no" means "NO"

5. A dude who starts physically touching me (like my neck or the small of my back) when there isn't any foundation for that kind of physical intimacy, aka assuming he's got rights to my body.

Guys don't creep me out at all by it but your right on it's stupid on how most girls do. But it make sense when you have had like six million creepy guys come up to you, you get parinoid about all of them. Every girl has had her horrible experience with a guy and after that you just get more cautious

i have read many of your posts and your just a creep in genral, so its not other guys we are talking about, its you!

A lot of guys who have been hurt or rejected start to develop a chip on their shoulder. They start flirting with women expected to be rejected and already half p*ssed off before she even notices he's hitting on her. These type of guys often try to "rush" a girl into making some kind of physical or emotional validation of his presence. Some will invade her space too quickly, others will touch her too much, some will say things that aren't really compliments or with a sneer in his voice. Some will make statements like "I'd ask you out but I know you think I'm not good enough for you." Others will make inappropriate sexual innuendo. And so on.

Women read body language and vocal pitch much more clearly than men can, so she can see through a "nice" act into anger or weird deseration underneath. These are usually the guys she sees as "creepy."

i kind of aqree with this
i quess its because quys
act very sneaky and like they doinq
somethinq the have no bussiness doinq
and when their on the phone they speak in codes
so it has the qirl wonderinq what the hell are they talkinq
about and then they start beinq really sweet and
callinq you nice names and qiftinq you
but it seems creepy very creepy like uqh you f'n jerk
i don't know like somebody said already maybe I'm a social
retart but its some crazy dudes out here

I find most of the time I get creeped out by guys it is because I am being OBVIOUSLY objectified, and it is easier for a girl to feel threatened by a guy, because in MOST cases a strange guy is more of a danger to a girl than a strange girl is to a guy. I need to know that a guy is
A) Interested in actually TALKING to me
and
B) Not going to spring something along the lines of "lets go back to my parents house so I can tie you up in the basement" on me. (<--- True story, happened to a friend of mine when she was on the bus)

not necessarily, girls have just big of hearts as guys . all girls are different. but girls probably get creeped up because you know more about her then she does of you . but after awhile girls eventually get over it and are more comfortable you.

I think that a little nervousness is cute, but what creeps me out is when a guy starts saying weird sexual stuff to me when we've just met.

Girls get creeped out because a lot of guys are creepy. How many women rapists have you heard about in the last century? Murders? Okay, now compare that to number of men. Girls are brought up by everyone, parents, school, society, and there told to be cautious of men. It's nto such bad advice.

because a lot of us have been there ; we meet a 'nice/normal' guy and he ends up being a total creep! we also hear rape/murder stories on the news all the time and we're afraid of that. hopefully this doesn't discourage you, just talk nicely and make her feel safe

I don't know what it is that you are doing that is creeping girls out but it seems anymore that guys have a few drinks and do the craziest things. There seems to be a lot of stuff that guys think are flirty that is not. So if touching a girl you just met (like grabbing at her ass), telling her how much you want to do her, trying to kiss her, etc., can somehow be met by a girl in a way that would make you feel comfortable but...Get you to stop doing that, let me know. Mainly we just have to walk away when a guy is being disrespectful otherwise he might think we actually like that attention and might think we are ready for more.

It depends on the girl. Some get creeped out very easily, some don't. I think it mostly has to do with fear. Guys don't really have to worry about a complete stranger making unwanted sexual advances; if they're not interested in a girl, it's easier for them to blow her off. If a girl isn't interested in a guy and he won't leave her alone, she starts to fear for her safety. You don't know what to expect from a complete stranger. I wouldn't say that it's right to expect the worst of others and jump to conclusions in that way, but it generally pays to be cautious.

there are far more men that are serial killers, rapists, and other type of predators then there are women... I don't know.. it's just put into girls heads that they have to be very careful around strange men, because, unfortunately, there are enough horror stories that gives good reason for us to. so, fine, be upset that girls don't want to talk to you, but you're just getting mad because the girl is using her brain and protecting herself. there are far too many girls that don't and let strange men take them home.

Its perfectly normal. Guys are dangerous, and strong, and their brains work in strange ways.
We have to be careful of any red flag.
Also, there is a difference between awkward/clueless and creepy. Learn it.

Um no. I'm sorry if you creep a girl out, you can't blame the girl for getting creeped out. There are so many sickos, stalkers, and predators in the world we have to watch our backs and listen to our instincts. Guys don't really have that fear of being physically assaulted or stalked by women. Not saying women don't do that but it's not a constant threat. If you are creepy then stop it. No one owes you anything, we don't have to make you feel comfortable, and we don't have time to analyze whether the guy has bad social skills or is a threat to us. George Sodini (the Philadelphia gym shooter) was described by many people as a creep and look what he did.

A guy has to do or say something REALLY werid or out of line to creep me out. If all he does is say "hi, how's it going, my name's...etc." I will NOT be creeped out.
If he does something like touch me when we've never met or star out with a line like "Hey Baby", that is mildly creepy.

Why do white girls think azn men are creepy? I'm not Cho Seung-Hui or Chai Vang or Jiverly Voong. Are the girls on here telling me that I'm a rapist? I'm not doing anything! All they're doing is looking for an excuse to be racist against Asian men.

It's because girls are trained to see evil in guys from a young age. We live in a misandrist society (look it up).

Look the thing is only that girls are diff. A lot of them think that they can get their information about dating from Cosmo and other girl mags. Well this is just dumb. They should find more reliable sources. Here is why girls think a guys may be creepy. He acts diff. when asking her out then he would if she was his friend. Ex. I've asked out a few girls who thought I was a creep. While at the same time my friends who were girls thought I was a sweetheart and would share so much of their life with me that sometimes I would tell them not to tell. Some things a guy just doesn't want to know. This is because as soon as you ask them out they think of you diff. than before. So, don't worry or say stupid things you'll regret later.

I got something to add to this...

WHy can't a girl trust a good nice shyer guy that is totally innocent, but then trust some idiot who is into substance abuse and gives off the danger-vibe? it's always the bad boys getting all the attention.

I'm a good guy and I'm not gonna stoop to that level... I just live a clean life, and I'm as honest and truthful as they come, yet no girl has ever put her trust in me. Instead she gets paranoid when I show her attention.

Welcome back my friend to the show that never ends.

That means it's all the hype of the day. Watch the news. Read the paper. All you hear is about one sensational sex crime or another. Child abductions. Rape. Stalkers. Why to hear the news media talk about it... A young woman has as much chance of getting brutalized as she has of getting rained on! And don't you know those stories sure DO sell a lo of advertisements!

Truth be told, violent crimes ACROSS THE BOARD are down per-capita over the past 15 years!Violence against children is at one of the lowest points it has EVER been at since they started record keeping on that sort of thing!

And yet to hear the news media talk about it we are all liable to be murdered in our sleep tonight... unless we buy that fancy new security system our sponsor is selling.

It all started about 35 years ago my friend... when the television started broadcasting the nightly news... all day long! And the women have been listening all along. So now you have a couple of generations that have been brought up under the specter of immanent violence just BECAUSE THEY ARE WOMEN! Yes I said it. Just because they are women.

Add to this that men are expected to be the pursuers yet all the selection process lies with the women. By that I mean we STILL expect the man to make the first move yet we give full reign to women in making the choice who gets "lucky" depending on your definition of "lucky".

Now add to the equation the incessant demands on the human population that are made by the beauty mongers. If you don't have the right hair or the right build or the right complexion or the right height or white enough teeth... Yes, all you need to do is sit in front of the bane of our existence the TV for a short period to learn just how unacceptable you REALLY are by today's standards.

Pretty bleak picture isn't it?

Well then you young guys aren't helping the situation any in your actions either. Just look around you and see how many of your contemporaries are acting in a manner that says "HEY, lovely miss, I am a respectful man that would just like to get to know you."

If you are even barely observant you will probably see a mass of horny, selfish egotistical and socially inept jerks fueled by "Girls Gone Wild" videos and tanked to the gills chasing after anything that will have anything to do with them. I am betting you won't fine 2 in 10 that have the slightest idea about how to show consideration for the other person... let alone women in general.

Is it that you have better hearts? No. Not even close my friend. It's because women today are well conditioned to be judgmental. And you guys let them be.

Glad I am too old to have to deal with that crap anymore.

Creepy guys are often socially ostracized, not part of the dominant group. Girls want alpha males – those who are accepted as choice by society, as they are the ones that can provide best, protect her and resulting children. Girls want to think its something more, but it all really comes down to evolution – survival and reproduction. Girls are simple creatures – do not fear them; laugh at them and you will see. They may not know what they want – but this does not mean they are more complex then any guy. Just be confident – don't take them to seriously, accumulate wealth, be normally nice, and things will get better.

I kinda agree. If a girl likes me and I am not interested or already have a girlfriend she would have still made me feel flattered. Maybe this is an arrogant thought but If a girl likes me I figure at least she has good taste,especially because I was never much of an athlete kind of a nerd although I liekt o get out and have fun. I have had a lot of younger girls have crushes on me because I am part of a youth group. I don't take advantage of that but its cute and a lot of them are cute. When I was in this class at college I sort of hung out with the International students. They were interesting and they worked hard on the class projects. Anyways there was one girl I liked so I called her and asked her if she wanted to go on a date and she said no she was too busy with school work and was moving soon I said ok and I gave her some compliment and said good luck on your journey I hope you accomplish your dream go back to your country and do something great. The next day her and all her friends acted really wired around me if I saw them her or her two friends they would pretend I wasn't there or If I said hi they would nervously say hi back and leave. I mean honestly I am not some pervert I ddn't say or do anything weird, just one single guy asking a girl out on a date. I mean in general don't most girls want guys to ask them out on dates even if they don't say yes. I am the one who had to deal with a little feeling of dissapointment and "does she think I'm ugly. I was cool with it I didn't pressure but why wasn't she cool with it?

link that's an example =)

well, it's either because guys' vision of girls is more sexual than anything else including considering her a human being at times.

or because the girl is too proud and uses this skill to make YOU feel that ur not enough for her gorgeous face dipped with foundation and eyes covered with mascara !

the society is changing a lot, the view of a normal person to talk to and become a friend disappeared from our dictionaries, because simply everyone is looking to either get laid or for attention! and now this is getting to 20 and 30 year olds which is SAD!

when was the last time you spoke to a girl formally ? maybe when you called ur bank? that's what I mean =)

This says it all...

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Trust me when I say women can be just as creepy. Just have patience. When you're in your 30s & 40s and the girls you're talking about realize their looks have faded and their sexual marketability was squandered in their 20s by banging a bunch of guys being "liberated" and that biological clock starts ticking, you see what happens. Remember the "cougar chest stroke" and watch the look on guys' faces. When you see the cougars at the bars & clubs you'll know exactly what I'm talking about.

Be thankful that guys don't have the same biological limit and that when you're 40 and dating a girl in her 20s that the girls in your age range will be seething with jealousy complaining about how there are no good men their age. Kindly remind them that all the good men are with the good women instead of harpies like them.

In short, what goes around comes around.

Women have to be careful because they are smaller and weaker than men and women get murdered more than men. In addition, a lot of men are quite refined and women are attracted to refinement. It symbolizes, stability, civility, success, strength and sexy. You can't change what turns women on. You can become attractive to them or continue creeping them out. Your choice.

Girls, at least above the mark of plain Jane, are used to being hit on constantly. They have full control over social siatuations with guys. The 'creeping out' is natural response to ensure they don't get filled with an inferior man's seed. They only want the best - manly, self-confident guys with the means to provide for themselves.

Meanwhile guys don't give a sh*t about a girl's personality, at least initally. If she looks good, then it's fine. He can have a ONS and never know about the consequences of it.

Dude I feel the same way! I hear sooo many girls saying like "Oh my gawd he is such a creeper, he called me and invited me out after I gave him my number!" about some one. It's like what are we even doin that is creepy by bein nice? I realize girls like jerks but if you are a jerk for too long they will think you are a d***.

Here are some the numbers: link

Maybe you'll understand it then.

A guy that has no social skills isn't liked by a lot of people, at least has no credibility. Therfore he cannot make alliences with people or groups that would be key to his survival if indeed he needed it, which is usualy the case in life. Women physicaly aren't as strong as men so therfore a womans key to surival is alliences with groups or people that can protect them, especially very beautiful women which are main targets for sexual predators. Males who can align themselves with other strong alpha males, that also attract other beautiful females, are ideal for a females who wish to select the best males to mate and reproduces with. Its all hardwired in their minds, that's why gangs and tribes and clubs are so important for mating rituals. The guys who are socializing are the ones around the most beautiful girls, girls know this instinctively so that's where they head off to it is part of her survival.

I think you're right that girls seem to have very much stricter (and sometimes impossible) expectations of guys' behavior than the other way around, at least when they first meet you.

It made more sense after I learned something from my female friends: almost every woman I know has been stalked, assaulted, threatened, or otherwise seriously creeped-out by some guy somewhere.

Consequently, most of them are at least a little bit on guard whenever they're in public, especially with guys they've just met. When meeting a new guy, most try to err on the side of being over-cautious. Basically, their creep-radar is set to maximum strength because they're willing to accidentally reject some decent guys just to avoid another scary, awful dude. If you don't believe me, just look at the responses below. (Who can blame them? It's completely rational behavior.)

It sucks that when you meet a girl, you're effectively under suspicion because of some other guy's creepiness. The only thing we can do about it is crack down hard on creepy-guy behavior. I don't hang out with guys who act threatening or stalker-ish, and I'm not shy about telling my female friends when a guy I know acts like that. "Bros before hos" doesn't apply to potential stalkers and date rapists. Guys like that are not my "bro."

I agree, it seems that way for the most part, that it always comes down to our social skills, conversation skills, body language, overall, our social status and social lives, the way us guys verbally present ourselves is what determines if we will get the girl or not. Girls just have to be average looking, decent looking, or cute, and they will attract a guy.

That really depends on the girl (how high are her standards for example?), and how you approach her (or look like, or what you did), that could creep her out.

I feel your pain bro, I mean I live with a guy who no homo is a little bit better looking than me, he brags about the size of his dic* and all this and I'm a grower not a shower, and I've friggin had people tell me that I must be small because of how I react when he talks about his and that I don't talk about mine. Yet he gets laid all the time, and when we go out I will have a few girls look at me but normally it's me taking a backseat to him. I'm confident but I'm not cocky like him and my courage level is in the middle. I expect a girl to do SOMETHING to make me think she is into me, like something small but I simply refuse to do 100% of the work. It's not about going out and girls can do whatever, in a perfect world it would be 50-50 as far as effort, but I guess I'm avoiding the question. I don't get that I creep girls out because as I said earlier yeah I'm confident but I'm not going to act up or act a fool or whatever in public, and I'm pretty laid back by nature. What bugs me is my roomate DOES act different in public,like more loud and ish but it doesn't matter to girls. I hate that I feel like the invisible man sometimes, but I know I'm a great guy so I'm good. I think that all girls assume that a guy is only looking to get in their pants. So the defense goes up, and that makes them seem like they might be creeped out. Not to take away from your question but I would have asked Why girls are unreceptive to guys they SHOULD be. What really bugs me and I tell everyone this and if someone wants to bit*h about this or message me go for it, but girls these days just think they are better than they really are. Like a 7 thinks she is a 9.. so on. I hate using a number system but in real life its easier to say '__ thinks she is like ___". What's funny is that girls don't think guys know this. They are trying to be TOO confident and come off as too good. I can honestly say that NO girl is too good for any guy that goes to the gym 4 times a week, has less than 15% body fat, and has a great personality. That's not just me, but any guy that fits that.

If a girl you did not know came up to you and started flirting sexually (usually what guys do) you would probably be happy and intrigued with this girl (provided you were at least somewhat attracted to her). Why? Because she would be acting like most guy's fantasy girl.

Now, reverse the rolls and pretend you are a girl with some guy flirting sexually. The guy thinks it's a good method, but girls don't operate the same way so they get creeped out.