Adult attachment...how to treat it?

It depends on what those things are, sometimes I can be as simple as writing whatever it was on a piece of paper and burning it or letting it go as a symbolic manifestation of whatever the problem was/is that's holding you back; to as complex as pyschiatric help and possibly even medication, not everything can be surpressed, forgot, or moved on from.

However whatever the issue may be, sometimes one of the greatest options at your disposal are friends, family and community, or even a more introverted release, such as having a diary or journal just having some way of getting it out of your head can help a lot sometimes.

I'm sorry I can't suggest a more concise method of dealing with, or even treating whatever it is that ails you based on the very general question you have.

However if you decide to release more information on what it is that's troubling you, I may be able to further aid you, either if you add more here, or simply message me, either way I will try my best to be of assistance and I will keep whatever it is just between you and I.

Hope this answer helps or at least leads to something more helpful, best wishes and luck to you.

Honestly, if you hit twenty-five and you haven't resolved your childhood, there is something you missed. Most people get to the point where they realize no matter what happened as a child, there is no here now making those choices for them. It's all a choice at that point. It might be easy to slip into old habits but you don't have to.

Solution: Let it go and act like an adult. The rewards with follow.

and yes, I am trained as a therapist.

Don't believe that everybody you meet is going to be like whoever it is that gave you issues in your childhood. Don't accuse anybody you meet of doing the same bad things that might have happened to you in your childhood. Understand that everybody is not the same. So you cannot treat them all the same.

Understand that if you meet a new guy, he does not know what happened in your childhood. And don't let him know right away, because he will disappear as quickly as you found him.

I self-medicated, it almost killed me (but I did make it through the otherside). Therapy is probably the path with the least potential destructive consequences...

psycho-therapy

The only way to deal with the situation is to develop your social skills, meet new people and look for developing yourself physical and emotionally.

I believe when I had my 1st relationship and it turned out crappy and put me into depression, that yes I did refer to God for strength but I also went to counselling and made better friends and worked on me as a person-I made myself stronger emotionally and mentally so that I could be independent and also just like have a social network of people I can trust-I have few good friends and a lot of general friends but my good friends are those I can trust ;)

I would say that you should see a psycologist/therapist. It will really help. Trust me, I speak from experience. The worst thing you can do is bottle up the past, you need to get it out of your system and talk to someone professional who can teach you how to deal with it and how to form good relationships.

It would really help to give you a clearer answer if your question was a tad more specific. Many of us out there have or had some issue or another from our childhood. I dealt with fears of abandonment, for a long long time. I meditated, read LOTS of books, learned to trust my instincts, and believe in myself. In other words I built my own self confidence, to be able to rely on myself for the answers I was looking for. I wanted to know without a doubt, that I could trust my thoughts, my actions and my own instincts. Thereby trusting the people I surrounded myself with. To know they were true friends.
Some people say the best way to overcome your fears are to immerse yourself in them somehow. I don't know if this would help your specific case.
I am really at a loss without any one particular direction to go to help you out. I do like your question, and wish I could be more help

Best~
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what are you attached to ?

First thing is to realize what problems you actually have. You can seek therapy for it,that will really help but if you think that you deal with it yourself then you will have to take a double take on every situation that you're involved in. One step at a time, little by little. I dealt with my issues myself over a period of time but talking with someone (especially depending on the depth of the issue) may better suit your situation. ty-lady!