So there is this girl I really like that I see a couple times a week on campus. I've had my eye on her now for close to two months now.
The first day I noticed her I managed to surprise the hell out of myself and found the courage to ask her if she would have coffee with me later that week (hell, what did I have to lose right? ). She agreed and It went ok I guess, I mean, I did get a number at the end when I asked so.
Does getting a number now days account for nothing? A couple days later I called her, no answer. I left a voice-mail saying I enjoyed our conversation and I would like to get to know her further. Never got a call back. I tried calling a few more times over the following weeks and still no answer; did not leave anymore voice-mails though.
Since then I have seen her at school and talked to her there. Some times it seems as though I break even other times like I may be getting through to her. I have yet to bring up the phone calls. Should I though? I've sent her a couple IMs with and she either signs off shortly after that or I get nothing back. It's a bit discouraging, I can't figure if she is messing with me or if she wants me to disappear. I sort of suck in trying to decode this sort of stuff when it's me involved.
I guess I'm a pretty good looking guy, very nice, athletic, and very mature for my age and wise beyond my years. If I must I would describe myself as the whole package, so why won't she give me the time of day? What is her deal? :)
Bottom-line is that I have a strong feeling this girl could be someone special. It just always seems that when I'm really into a girl they stay distant but when I have no interest in them they are the ones trying to make the move. It's rather ironic and frustrating. I guess I am very particular in what I'm looking for in a girl and when I find one that portrays the qualities both physically and personally that I desire, well. Let me end by saying this girl has those qualities and then some, and I don't want to give up hope yet.
It could be that she doesn't like you and is just blowing you off. I can say it could be that. But there is a possible second answer. She could be incredibly shy. It's not totally uncommon for females to send you totally mixed reactions. Sometimes we have more strength in person,and less not in person. Sometimes it's reverse. The point that she blows you off outside of campus,but doesn't when you're there is what kinda confuses me. Girls are nice,but not that nice. If she's not totally blowing you off,might be a chance. And she did give you here number.
I can see how you're confused because this could go either way. I say instead of prolonging it,you should just ask her. Be cool about it and say,the other days I called but you didn't pick up. "Too busy for me? " Lets be honest,you don't know her totally just the image you've conjured up of what you want her to be to you. For you. She has the physical qualities you like,but personally you don't really know her at all. Find out what her deal is,and then decide if you should pursue her. IF you have all the qualities you say you do and she passes you up,she's stupid. You can no doubt do better than someone that is hot and cold.
Thanks for your input. I may be more confused now about the whole thing than ever, lol. But I was sorta leaning towards being more upfront with her, give one last hail mary shot at it and just ask her what her impression of me is. If its one thing that I value above all its being an honest and earnest person. If she cannot be upfront with me I guess I should move on. - 9 months ago
Sorry but she's trying to tell you that she isn't into you. These days a lot of girls give out their number because they don't want to hurt the guy. But if she was interested in you she would've called back. Don't call her, don't IM her, you can still walk up to her on campus but I'd suggest keeping your distance from her. She isn't worth it. She's giving you signals that she just isn't interested in you, sorry.
There's plenty of girls out there, you seem like a good guy. And walking up to a person asking them to hang out is definitely not an easy thing to do, and is something I don't think most people would've had the courage to do. So good job on that! You're in college, go out and find another girl. This girl just isn't the one for you.
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