Am I Crazy?

"A person should always treat their partner with the same dignity and respect that they wish to receive themselves. "--

How true. I didn't even realize this. I had asked a question once before about girls who act slutty but don't want to be treated like a slut. Now I realize they are selfish. They treat me like a slut. For awhile I continue to be nice and treat them with respect, but as time goes on, it wears down and the only way left to treat them is the way they have been treating me. Like a slut. They want a slutty guy.

Why?
Does someone who has a bad temper want someone with a bad temper?
Does someone who lies and cheats want someone who lies and cheats?
Does a person who is nice want someone who is nice?

Is this the difference between immature and mature people?
Is this why people truly don't know what they want?

Should people step outside themselves and see who they truly are?

Maybe the reason a girl who acts slutty doesn't like to be treated like a slut because it reminds them of who they are. It is possible they do not like who they are.

Maybe the reason a girl likes a bad guy is because they truly are a bad girl. They don't want a nice guy because that nice guy reminds them that they are bad.

People need to sit down and write what it is that they truly want. What is it?

My fellow Americans, I have not been entirely truthful with you. I did giggittygiggydoo that girl. I gashmogied her gaflabity with my googus. And I am sorry. - Quagmire

Yes that's life, it sucks, but really, if everyone was too nice, or too calm, or too "normal" then this would be a very boring planet. Its what makes us human

no, your not crazy. I am.

I couldn't agree with you anymore.

I've always wondered this too, I've voiced it to a few people as of lately and we cannot come up with reason as to why these people take bullshit from someone who supposedly loves them. And turn around and wonder why they're having problems.
My best friend is in this same situation, it's hard to talk her out of the relationship or even to sit down and realize what's going on here & how they're not good for each other. A couple friends and I are probably going to schedule a pow-wow with her to let her know that her relationship is toxic. It's hard to see someone you care so much about, not get treated that way by they're significant other, it hurts. Especially when the friend doesn't think there is anything wrong with the relationship and that things are dandy.
Honestly, I would never take that shit if I was in a relationship, at all. Won't fly. I don't know how people could put up with it & be happy.

Great question, and you ask it with such passion! Any morals and values are being flushed down the toilet these days, nobody cares anymore about anybody, we are in the me me me generation and whatever it takes to get there, whether it be cheating, stealing, lying, killing people, etc etc people are doing it. There is less and less of the human decency you speak about, its a shame, disheartening to say the least. I think the major breakdown happens at home, were not teaching these young kids who grow up to be adults, anything anymore, were not teaching respect, kindness and compassion, there is almost no such thing as a stay at home parent anymore, these kids are being raised by video games, TV and the music they listen to. Parents are to busy with there lives and keeping up with everyone, that the kids are suffering in major ways, self esteem and self respect are taught first at home, and when there is no one there to teach these kids you end up with real screwed up adults, kids are not being given a chance in todays society, parents don't care, teachers don't care, so why should these kids care about anyone or anything, but themselves, and were back to the me, me, me attitude. So to answer you first question, NO your not crazy, your right on. I hope we can change, can we? I don't know. Sadly, I feel there are more people who don't want to, there just find walking around thinking of only how they can get ahead in life. As far as the whole human decency thing goes, I hope we as a society do something and soon, it's embarrassing, animals treat each other better!

I agree. I posed this question a few months ago to a couple of my friends who were staying in emotionally and verbally abusive relationships. Their answer was to me that "they didn't want to be alone. "

"Alone" is a mindset not a state of being. I've been "single" for some time now but never "alone. " I have fun with friends and family and I couldn't imagine settling for the crap that a guy throws my way just because I needed a warm body at night. I think a lot of it has to do with society putting in everyone's minds that you're not "complete" until you are with a significant other. That's a bunch of crap to me but then again, what does this single girl know? :-)

Love is a completely irrational feeling.....it doesn't make sense. People act based on their emotions and don't understand the consequences to their actions because they go completely by what their emotions are telling them. More so women than men, but men also portray these actions when they put up with unacceptable behavior time and time again.

Some of this can come from low self-esteem thinking when somebody can think this is the best they are going to get so they need to put up with it. Abandonment issues ties into this too where someone can't let go of somebody because they are afraid of being alone and they would rather have an abusive relationship than no relationship at all. Other reasons that factor in are how some people were raised improperly. Some people were not given enough love and attention by the opposite sex parent when they were growing up, and so they go looking for the same treatment in their mate because they don't know what real love is. All they have experienced is pain and they are used too/comfortable with that. Childhood idolization of parents also explains why some men who watched their dad physically abuse their mom, while growing up, will become abusers themselves.

These are just a few of the reasons I have seen that make someone put up with complete and total bullshit time and time again and why others behave so irrationally in a relationship for no apparently logical reason. They do have the choice to turn things around, but many of them are unaware there is anything wrong with this and just brush it off and blame it on the fact that the other person must have problems. And most nurturing ladies think they have to help the person with this problem completely oblivious that they have a problem themselves.

Yes, you're crazy:)

There are many common themes in the categories of this site. In Break-Up, you find a lot of getting my ex back. In Relationships, there's a lot of cheating going on. The Sexuality category has a lot of under 18 people asking questions.

There are millions of more people out there who are not using this site that are asking the same questions to their friends and family. In the human equation, we all face many of these common themes as we mature. All of us go through similar circumstances....like break-ups and heart-ache. And all of us are left asking ourselves the same questions, which is why you actually see a theme to the answers given as well.

The only difference within the categories is the person asking the questions. What you are noticing is the common events that people endure as they mature and the questioning they have about why it happened to them.

I don't think this has anything to do with some Utopian belief that we should all treat each other with human decency. It may be a great ideal to strive for as a human race, but right now it isn't a great influence in the existing human equation. (Perhaps because we are such a "me" generation) Because of this, we seek answers to why things happen. This site offers a chance to see that we are not alone in our experiences (good or bad) and it's all a part of being human.

If you want to take this to a higher level, then try to imagine the utopia where everything is ideal.....what a freaking, boring place:)

People do crazy shit 4 love or what they think is love anyway so people can but some will always get run over by people and won't change that's life

I agree with you. I applaud you for being strong, but most people are not.