I have a neighbor who has a pregnant wife and kid and he really spooked me out the other night.
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I am a single woman living next door to this small family. I see the wife and husband and we all say "hello" kindly as friendly neighbors. Sometimes when I just see the husband, he offers more than a "hello" sometimes a compliment on my blue eyes or smile. He also gives me "the creeps" along with his compliments. A year or so ago he knocked on my door sometime after 10pm and when I answered it, he asked if he could have some cigarettes. Confused, I told him I did not smoke. He giggled and asked if him and his wife were ever too loud for me. I said "No, why is my music too loud for you guys? ". He then went on to point out that his bed was right up against my wall and sometimes his wife gets really loud and. I was really creeped out and tried to get him out of my hallway. I told him that I had enough listening to him and jokingly shut him off with "TMI! " (too much information! ). I just went to bed and from then on, I tried to never show any eye contact to him when I saw him around.
A couple days ago (Wed. Night), I was up around 12:30a after a friend of mine left my place after having dinner together and the lights were still on in my apt. I heard a faint knocking that seemed to last for a couple of minutes. I thought it was for some neighbors across the hall because it was so faint. Curious, I look out of my peephole to see which door it was and I discovered it was my own. I saw a man's silhouette outside my door. I loudly dead-bolted my door and turned off my lights.
Late last night (Friday), I was coming home from a night out and saw the creepy neighbor standing in front of the back entrance to my apt. Building sometime around 11:30p. He asked if he had scared me because I was not expecting anyone to be outside that late, just standing around and I guess I flinched when our eyes met. I asked him if he was the one knocking at my door. He said "yes". I then asked why, considering it was so late at night. He said he wanted to know if I had any beer. I gave him a confused look and said "I don't like him knocking on my door that late at night". He then proceeded to ask if I had any beer tonight. I said "no", and left him standing outside.
I am kinda scared about this whole situation. I don't know if I should tell his wife (doubt it will help anything, considering her condition), tell my landlord, or tell the police. All I carry around is a bottle of mace and maybe I should invest in some other protection?
Looking for some advice from anyone with similar experience.
Update: Seriously, this guy creeps me out. I don't want ANY communication with him. Maybe I wasn't clear earlier about the first night - he was basically getting excited, talking about his loud sex next door. I barely knew the guy and he was telling me this.
4 months ago
This is definitely creepy. It would have been considered flirting and sneaking around if you reciprocated, but I guess he is not getting the hint that you don't want anything to do with it. I say, talk to him during some normal hours and tell him how it weirds you out when he knocks on the door or waits around the hall ways and make it clear to him. If that doesn't work, definitely tell your landlord so that he knows you mean business.
Talk what the heck is that, is this some sort of negotiation? look just make it clear you do not appreciate him knocking at your door and do not do it again after that tell you land lord, she has not made it clear to him, all he wanted was cigarettes and beer, is that a crime, if you do not want to see him then just tell him is that so hard? - 4 months ago
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Yes, Talk. Or if he is deaf, she can write it on a cardboard, use sign language, leave him a letter with her perfume on, call him, leave a voicemail, send him an email, make a video, put it on youtube and send him the link. She can pretty much do anything to communicate and "Make it Clear". You are missing the point of the answer over a choice of a verb. I am not a stand up comedian and you are not a heckler. - 4 months ago
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Actually, I think I made it pretty clear by giving him weird looks when he made over-friendly comments. Seriously, let's put aside the feud over word choice, how do I go about stopping this behavior without talking to him again. I think it is beyond this now that I have already verbally refused his advances. I want to know if I should tell the landlord to at least document this. I might move out if this continues. - 4 months ago
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If you are at a point beyond talking to him again, then you should certainly talk to the landlord and may even want to call the police not necessarily to file a complaint and a report, but to get advice. - 4 months ago
Yes this is somewhat creepy. If he does it again, I would ask how his wife feels about him wandering over to your place late at night. Then say to him if it continues you will talk to her.. if this doesn't get through, surely, tell the wife, and then look at police action, because then its becoming harassment. Trust your instincts.
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