So the guy I like (let's call him fred) has some strange tendencies, I've noticed. Let me begin by telling a story.
Last tuesday we were setting up for this annual poetry reading and we were sitting on these ledges in my school's multipurpose room talking about music and school events and the literary magazine and stuff. *i* thought we totally hit it off and he seemed really into the conversation. His friends weren't around at all, which may have something to do with what happens next.
So today we were wasting time in the library (people go there during lunch to escape teachers) and he was completely shrugging me off and giving me little to no attention whatsoever. He has some close friends and some distant friends who generally hang around him and his BEST FRIEND was the one talking to me and chatting me up and stuff but fred and the rest of his friends were completely ignoring me! This has happened before and I try not to talk to them at all when they're acting this way but it's hard to avoid them sometimes.
Stuff like this has happened repeatedly - we'll totally hit it off and then he won't speak to me the next day. He never says hi to me when I see him in the halls (we don't have classes together). He's even said on some occasions that he hates me, yet he'll act really really nice a week later.
Also, he has shy moments - he stiffens up when anybody flirts with him and he's not a good liar.
So I'm sort of wondering if his bipolar tendencies have to do with whether or not his friends are around. That doesn't make much sense seeing as his close friends seem to like me. I've tried pointing out his mood swings and on his nice days we joke around about "whether or not he'll be feeling nice tomorrow" but it seems like he's reluctant to have anything to do with me or something! Why would he do this? Sometimes it really hurts when he shrugs me off, too, because half the time I'm delivering messages from other people to him about school events and stuff. This is really starting to bother me and I'm not sure how to get him to stop acting this way.
It seems he is very skeptical about you and not sure what your intentions is with him, but clearly seems he has a secret deep crush on you that he tries to hide, afraid you might hurt him or 'blow him off'. He is not blowing you off rather playing it safe.
Love is not a game, don't treat is as one. That seems why he keeps away from you because you give him a needy vibe almost like a praying mantis anilysing it's pray before the pounce. Don't let your animal nature cloud your senses and rationality. Rather treat him with respect and be yourself around him the same way you do around anyone else even though you like him and stop sceaming and worrying over him, he probably picks that up and feel overwhelmed by it and unsure how to handle it.
The only way you'll know if he likes you back is if he accepts and likes the person whom you are naturally. But it seems like he doesn't only act bipolar but might be for real, or is just over the moon about you.
Strangely enough I just answered a question I had myself. Thanks
Well I'm glad my question helped both of us! But what if he just doesn't like me and he's trying to fend me off? - 3 months ago
Question Asker
And what do his friends have to do with this? ((and thanks for all your help, btw! )) - 3 months ago
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From what I see from what you have written, I would say he likes you (hence his strange inconsistent manner) if he didn't he would act normally. He is probably discussing you with his friends and getting advise on what to do or how to approach you, don't feel bad or let your emotions take you overboard, It seems you are in a dillema and I totally empathise with that at this very moment. But on second reading it seems that he does have bipolar, regardless if he likes you or not. - 3 months ago
Question Asker
Thanks so much for your help! Do you think I should bring it up with him again or not? - 3 months ago
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Rather not, just be yourself and let things come naturally, don't push a button that has already been pushed 'wait for the computer to boot up completely otherwise you're just switching it on and off all the time'. (lol I'm advising myself too now) - 3 months ago
Question Asker
Okay. Again, thank you *so* much. He's been confusing me for months. I'm feeling a little more hopeful now. And I hope things work out for you, too! :) - 3 months ago
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Thx ;) - 3 months ago
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