How do you judge your own appearance?

A lot of it lies in self-confidence and being able to convince yourself that you are not only attractive, but also intelligent, witty, and overall a great person, regardless of how you look. But it is so, so true that self-confidence is strengthened by other people's opinions of you.

Society's ideas of attractiveness are unrealistic and bolstered by media outlets (magazines, movies, the like). What you should know is that everyone is attractive in their own way. To want to mimic someone else to the extreme is to betray who you are. I have issues with body image and beauty myself, and struggle with extremely low self-esteem. If it helps, you should know that you are not alone in asking these questions.

I've learned that people judge their "good-looking" ness by the amount of compliments they get from others (by both males and females) and about the # of dates they get, # of significant others they have, or basically how much they get hit on throughout their life.

Of course if a girl for example never really gets hit on, its going to be hard for her to think she's attractive.

But if a girl gets hit on every day by hot men, gets told she's good looking a lot, and has had a good amount of dates in her life. She's going to think she's good looking.