There's this girl that I work with that is younger than me. She's been in the Navy for under a year and I've been in for 2 1/2 years. It was brought to my attention that a guy in another shop was bragging about sleeping with her and now she's viewed as being promiscuous. I felt that it was wrong, so I let her know what was being said about her, because I hate rumors. She thanked me for letting her know, but now I sense a lot of tension when I go through that shop. (It's right next to mine and I have to go through it to go outside) I know it wasn't my business or place to say anything, but I also wouldn't feel right knowing that this girl was being talked about behind her back.
It feels like highschool all over again and I just wanted to do the right thing. Do you think I did? What would you have done?
Update: I'd like to thank all of you from the bottom of my heart. I feel much better about what I did because of the reassurance from you all. Thanks again!
6 months ago
If you truly respect someone, you will put yourself in the position of "The bringer of bad news".
No one wants to start some drama, and I'm with you, I hate rumors too.
You not only did the right thing, but you were the right person for the job. because you are a casual working acquaintance, you stand to lose nothing from this, but you stand to gain your co-workers respect and you also increase your integrity as a person who speaks the truth, kills rumors, and stomps the egos of guys with nothing better to talk about than how many girls that he's nailed.
Good going, keep up the good work. and don't think that your superiors haven't noticed, or won't notice. good integrity and the respect of co-workers is what earns promotions.
You have ears, lol. It's not you weren't going to hear them bashing this girl.
The next time they act like they're giving you the cold shoulder, I would say "Hey guys, I didn't say Tom's a player, Dick gets around, or Harry's a pig (I'm making up names here, haha), you guys bashed a woman in front of a woman. Don't get mad at me, blame yourself and separate the men from the boys; that's why you're here, in the navy, anyways. so you might as well start now. "
And if I swear around my niece and she repeats it, guess who is to blame, only me. That's a little different but it goes to show, he should of never said it in the first place.
Thank you very much! I want to say something like that to them but when I'm there I've got my head in the game as far as work goes, so I don't really let them get to me. If one of them has the balls to say something to me about it, then I will definitely say that. - 6 months ago
If they didn't do anything wrong by talking about her behind her back, there's no reason for them to care that you told her. You definitely didn't do anything wrong by informing her of the gossip that was going on behind her back. I know it would bother me of somebody knew what was being said about me, and didn't tell me.
I think you did the right thing. I would want someone to tell me if there were rumors like that. If the guys have tension for you, it's only because they're mad that they got called out on their shit-talking.
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