I'm not always talking about if you're attracted to the guy, but also as friends or new friends.
I've been noticing that women never call.It seems like my guy friends don't call to hang out much, either. It's not like I'm bugging them, or I want to have long phone conversations. .once a month or so. It just seems like they wait before contacting me. If I call them 12 times a year, then they won't call me up except once every 5-6 months or so. I just get the idea that no one would hang out with me if I didn't invite them.
It seems like I'm the one who plans stuff. I can invite 50 people I know, and MAYBE two guy friends will show up.
The funny thing is, one my buds told me he thought I'd dropped off the face of the planet because he hadn't seen me in weeks (I had talked to him that week via e-mail; two weeks before that I had called him to hang out; he promised he'd show, then didn't.) His fingers weren't broken. He could have called at any time, even just to see how I was doing.
When I AM invited out, it's often to another person's house. (usually someone I don't know very well); I don't feel comfortable just showing up unannounced because another friend invited me.
It feels like I'm "begging" or inviting myself in, and being polite, they don't turn it down, but I still hate doing that. I only do the "show up unannounced" thing once in a great while if another friend invites me, and I try to be polite about it.
The other times if I'm invited to stuff, it's always in mass forwarded e-mails to a hundred people, and usually set up by people who have been pretty nasty people to me. I'm not interested in going when I'm going to be around people who (for whatever reasons don't like my face) don't like me.
Is calling someone to (even just to hang out) something girls/women do with guy friends, or do you all wait to be invited to something? Why is that?
I invite several girls to hang out (as friends) once in a while. Once in a while, they actually act interested in the party (I make it pretty clear that it's as friends), and then they don't bother to show. After two or three times, I just drop the issue and stop inviting them. They're either honestly too busy (I doubt it, because I see them at other events), or they're being dishonest about wanting to hang out, and I'm not going to pester anyone to hang out with me.
It always seems like I'm inviting people out who have no intention of showing up.
I'm just wondering if that's because a lot of my friends are flakey, or if that's typical behavior from people my age (early to late 20's).
Some of my older friends, busy as they are, will call me up (usually e-mail actually, but that's something).
I honestly can vouch for this.When we were in our teens, or early 20's everyone hung out last minute w/o effort etc.As we got older we begin value how we spend our time albeit a lot of those times are spent relaxing at home to refuel, reflect, or whatever.Groups split up and people go their own ways for a bit but THEY always do come back.If you do miss your friends how about sending an email to everyone for a small chill "get together" to watch UFC. That something that promises relaxation and doing something on common ground.
I call guys, but most of my friends are male. However, if I've just started hanging out with a guy and I don't know him that well I usually wait for him to call me, even if we're just friends end of story, mostly because I feel awkward about it. (I hate telephones in the first place.)
Sometimes girls won't call because they're afraid that it will give a guy the impression that they like him as more than just friends. (Which is funny, because even if we do like them as more then just a friend it makes us nervous, we're chicken sometimes.)
I also think that most of your friends are just flaky and it seems to run in our generation. One of my best friends shows up an hour late to everything, no matter who invited him or what it is. It's like he's allergic to punctuality.
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