Playing hard to get?

Ok playing hard to get is fun and cute for oh about two seconds, don't do it, I'll play that game with a girl for a little bit and then it just pisses me off so I either call her out on it by saying ok here's the deal you like me or not if so then quit these little games, and if you don't then fine stop waisting my time cause if you keep it up I am just going to find another girl who won't play these dumb little games.

don't be so hard to get that he doesn't know if you want him. just fall into the relationship, naturally. respond when he makes his move.

Are you eager or desperate? If so, do not hide it. Just admit that you are eager and desperate. If you're not, then do not worry about being thought as such. You probably want someone who judges character fairly, and a guy who doesn't stereotype and does judge people for people will not generalize like this.

yeah playing hard to is good for everyone to do. from time to time.
(its a way of respecting yourself and remembering that you are also important in your own life)

Although, if a girl does it all the time well then the guys below are correct. It will lead the guy to believe she is just not interested and that he is being played for a fool. That feeling is horrible! It may make the guy believe that she is ONLY thinking about herself. At that point the guy may feel completely insecure about the relationship. He may feel that he is one of many other guys in her game. He may have originally thought of the girl as a nice person he would want to have a relationship with, but now his view may change. He may begin to look at her as though she is a liar and actually very inconsiderate of other peoples feelings.

Sure the guy would still have some kind of attraction to her (wanting what you don't have), but it would also begin to create trust issues in the relationship.

A person's actions and behaviors may encourage suspicion.

Personally, I think playing hard to get is one of the worst things a girl can do. It all comes back to the age-old problem: the communication gap. Men communicate directly. We don't drop hints or say things with body language, we say what we think, plain and simple. Women, on the other hand, are all about subtlety. Now you ladies might think you're sending him "interested" signals beneath all the obvious "not interested" signals when you're playing hard to get, but all the man is picking up on is the obvious ones: that you're not interested. I'm not saying you should throw yourselves at guys' feet, guys do enjoy the chase, but if you're sending off signals that you really have no interest in the guy, he's going to assume you have no interest in him. It's better, I think, to simply be up front with the guy.

A girl who plays hard to get will do one or more of the following.
1. flirt with a guy that she knows wants her, but will never get involved with
2. deflect personality questions when asked by a interested guy
3. claim that they have too much to do over the weekend
4. change the subject when the conversation is leading to romantic interesting topics
5. will openly flirt with another guy right in front of the guy who wants her
6. will make excuses as to why she can't give out her number

etc. etc.

basically, my personal definition of "playing hard to get" is anything short of clear cut signs of disinterest or nonreciprocating feelings of interest.

A girl playing "hard to get" only discourages me, because I see that as a weakness. I see it as a sign of someone who is unwilling to make decisions, and has no interest in the direction of her life. I take it to an extreme, I know, but that's just how I see it.

At a point in time I thought it was fine. Now, I only like it when its in a flirty way. Playing hard to get has its place in high school and early college. but when either person wants a more serious mature relationship there shouldn't be "games" in figuring out if there is anything there. If a girl is playing hard to get and its not clear she is playing I take it as uninterested and if there are other options, I am not going to waste my time.

I don't think there is a problem with people holding back how they feel or hiding how available they are. I have had a girl talk to me after her and I had our chance at dating and she asked "why didn't you pursue me more?" and I came back with "Because you didn't seem that interested". she then said "well I was, I was playing hard to get". then I asked "How'd that work out for ya?". I was joking with her but at the time I was dating someone else and she was still on the look out.

I will say a girl who is hard to get is more attractive than a girl that is desperate.