We have been texting almost everyday for this ENTIRE school year. A few months in we started talking dirty and decided we should hook up and we came up with all of these hot ideas and stuff. Well after 6 months of all this we FINALLY got together. He picked me up and we went to his house and we started making out. He fingered me and ate me out and I gave him head. Like he said I was real good at it too. We even almost had sex.(I'm not trying to be graphic) he started rubbing me with his dick and then started slowly putting it in and then asked if I wanted to put the condom on for him and I said I didn't really want to have sex the first night we did stuff. I'm not sure how far he got in either but a ways in it started to hurt so I told him to stop and he pulled out. Then we continued doing other stuff to each other.we even used cuffs. So 1) I don't know if I'm a virgin still of not. 2) Is all this weird since I'm young? and 3) he said we should hang out a lot this summer and he is going to college in town and his apartment will be by my house kind of but ever since that night (2 days ago) he has been a bit distant. Like I know he has work and its his senior year but still? I know he liked us hooking up but why has he been so weird? Am I just worrying to much since its only been 2 days? We just want to be friends with benefits and have it be our secret but is that still weird since I'm only 16?
I'm also no doctor, but I imagine if he penis did go into your vagina fully, then your hymen most likely broke. In fact, it could've broken from the fingering, or from masturbation. If you really want to know, I'm sure there are articles online that can tell you how to check.
As for the age issue, nowadays High Schoolers (and Middle Schoolers) are messing around on a constant basis, I personally don't approve of it, but it happens anyways. It's natural, I guess.
If it's only been two days I wouldn't worry too much. Senior year is really stressful, especially at the end, and if he works that adds more pressure. It's also possible he got spooked because he didn't think you were a virgin. 18 year old guys can be a bit paranoid about messing around with younger girls, especially if they're virgins. They don't want to get in trouble, and they don't want to risk having the girl get attached to them emotionally for taking the girl's virginity.
If he continues to act strange and ignore you, there's really nothing you can, or should, do. This is the nature of FWB. There is no commitment, once one of the participants is done, then it's done. If he has sex with you once and leaves forever, it isn't his fault, because you would've agreed to FWB. There are basically no rules with FWB.
I hope I answered some of your questions. I'm glad you used protection.
Congratulations, you've lost your virginity. Here is a quote from coolnurse.com, regarding virginity and the hymen (what most people consider the definitive status of virgin or not):
"Many people are under the impression that the hymen is located within the vagina. It is not. It’s a mucous membrane that is part of the vulva, the external genital organs. It’s located outside the vagina. The hymen is a layer of tissue, just like the tissue around the opening of your vagina that partially conceals the vaginal orifice. You may or may not have one, most females do. The hymen is not an indicator of virginity; a girl is a virgin until she has been penetrated by a penis."
Regarding your age, however, I am concerned that this person is wanting to keep it a secret. I suggest you check your state "age of consent" laws and see exactly if this person is committing a crime, or not. Whether you care or not, this person should be aware of their criminal act. He might care. but probably not. Either way, you should feel a responsibility in making sure this person knows what the age of consent is. if this hasn't been discussed yet.
Regarding the relationship, I'd say you are more invested in it than he is. He was most likely just in it for the sex and possibly even just the act of taking your virginity (was he aware you were a virgin). I would definitely not expect any kind of long term or committed relationship to come of this, and if he shows no further interest in the friends-with-benefits arrangement, I would take that as an indicator of his interest being in taking of your virginity. If so, try not to dwell on it too long, he wont.
First off, I don't think that YOU want to be friends with benefits. A girl doesn't text a guy everyday for a year and not like him. But I agree with justthefriend. You're not a virgin. And things are probably going to be different with him.
Amen............my point I have been making for so long is these young girls fool themselves into thinking they can deal with FWB and most of the time they really want an exclusive relationship. Thank you for pointing that out to this naive girl - 6 months ago
I thought friends with benefits meant that you had the benefit of nothing having to call regularly.I thought FWB meant you only made booty calls every now and then.
I think your kidding yourself about just wanting to be FWB.and can I ask where your self-respect has gone?
You girls are so naive, he got what he wanted.! And if he wants it again he will call.
Guys will fool you about the future just to get what they want in the present moment.their dicked suck.Yeah!
1) ur not a virgin =( sorry to say so, but penetration no matter for how long, makes you lose ur virginity
2)u are young but a lot of people do it, so there is nothing to feel bad about, and nothing to worry about, just use protection and b safe
3)um all I can tell you is that things got pretty far and some guys tend to get weird when that happens, he could just b weird for a few days, unless he doesn't feel comfortable anymore. but I would wait it out for a week and see how it goes.
as for the last part BE CAREFUL because friends with benefits are GREAT but eventually someone falls for the other, so if you don't want that to happen it would b a good idea to declare it constantly because I have a friend wit benefits and we never really talked about so now I have fallen for him and I don't kno how to bring it up in a conversation. hope this helps
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