Two summers ago I fell hard for a guy who slept with me, but who didn't return my feelings. I've tried really hard to get over him, I've gone out with other guys, but I still seem to come back to him and keep getting hurt.
I've been friends with this girl for about a year. I knew she found this guy attractive, but had a steady boyfriend (now fiance). So I confided in here my feelings about the guy, how much I liked him, how I felt he played me by not being honest about his intentions. I really wanted her to be careful around him and not screw up her relationship. She had cheated on her boyfriend in the past and she did a lot to make it up to him so he forgave her. I didn't want that happen again.
I knew that this guy paid her a lot of attention and I'll admit I was jealous, so I asked her about him. If he had ever tried anything with her. She said they were just friends. And when she and the boyfriend got engaged I was relieved.
I found out over the weekend that she had fooled around with the guy more than once, started having feelings for him and even told her boyfriend. They got engaged 6 weeks later.
I don't know if I should confront her because she lied to me in an effort to save the friendship, or let it go and still be friends. or just end the friendship all together.
I know I'm jealous, I'm jealous that the guy fooled around with her. I'm angry though, because she used to let me talk about him and how much I was trying to get over him (she even asked me how he was in bed) all at the same time (I find out now) that she was cheating with him.
I feel bad for her fiance who loves her anyway. I just don't know if I should continue to be friends with someone who I now don't think is a very good person. OR get over my jealousy and stop judging her for bad decisions.
I would not be friends with somebody who is as selfish as your "friend" and treating others without respect. She is not making bad decisions, she is doing everything she wants regardless of other people's feelings and she lied to you and your boyfriend which means that she cannot be trusted and should not deserve to be your friend.
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