What should I do?

Hi the7ftgiant:

First and foremost "Nutz76" is way out of line. I love this people who read a lousy paragraph and think they have your problem figured out.

First of all you did nothing wrong. Let me ask you a few questions? Do you think your friends are exaggerating? Eight or Nine #'s? Hmmm! How reliable are your friends?

Have you noticed a changed in your girlfriends behavior? Less attentive, less sex.does she seem short with you or irritable? Is she critical over every little thing you do or don't do?
Is she going out with the girls more often? These are all signs that a girl is losing interest.

I would not stoop to checking her cell phone, email et cetera! Your friends could be right and if they are, it would seem she is trying to replace you before she leaves. However, that is just an assumption!

Look your not a kid anymore, 24 and it is time to man- up and just simple ask her what's going on. Don't ask in a courtesy way.just simple say , Honey you seem preoccupied lately, is there anything I need to know for instance have you been thinking about ending our relationship.

Always remain calm and civil. In todays world it is very dangerous for a man to lose his temper with a girlfriend. I work in the legal field and often I see Men being arrested over disputes that got out of hand and or girlfriends that use calling the cops as a form of revenge. You can never lose your cool .besides it doesn't change the person want to leave.
(I am not saying your the type that would lose his cool, just some advice!)

Sadly enough I also see dozen of cases per month pertaining to woman and children who are being physically and emotionally abused which is much more common and it is why some guys end up being accused of domestic crimes that have not committed.

Good luck and please do the mature thing. You won't regret it!

You sure she gave out her real number? Some girls will give out fake digits because they don't want to make it awkward or don't know how to just tell the guy no.

I agree with a lot of what Nutz76 has said. Women who are looking to leave their man will generally try and secure another before they actually move on. This isn't true in all cases, but in my experience it happens most of the time. The proof? Well I've dated a few girls who within days were already hanging off another beau's arm. Okay, one or two would be coincidence, but it's just all too common in my experience so I do buy into this whole 'women are like monkeys' thing.

Like Nutz76 said you really have to exert some control in the relationship so that your woman know what is and what isn't acceptable. A lot of women would suggest that this is a 'scare tactic' and in a loving relationship a woman shouldn't want to leave her man. This is all good, except for the fact that women NEED a man who assumes a position of power sometimes. I'm not talking about him being your commander and chief, it's more along the lines of just letting her know what you don't like her doing. Getting other guys' numbers behind your back is one of these things, in any relationship.

It's important to note that women assume this position of power also, to let her man know what he is allowed and not allowed to do. I've had past girlfriends completely blow their top if I casually flirt with another girl for even a second. The thing is, if you don't put your foot down, she'll keep trying to push the envelope, why? Look at small children, these little ones haven't yet been socially conditioned and they run primarily on instinct as they mature. So instinctual what do children do? They push the limits, they're curious and they try to learn through trial and error.

Let's say a child is going to draw on your newly painted walls. What do you do? You first tell them not to do that, 'in a calm voice.' They persist, so you raise you voice a little and repeat the previous order, the result? They still persist, until finally 'you actually show anger.' Your voice is louder, and your facial expression changes immediately, you also generally take a stiff position with sharp gaze. Finally, the child drops the marker realizing you are serious.

This is a natural response inherent in both men and women, and if you don't put your foot down in certain cases your significant other may become curious and see how far they can push the limits until they get a resounding 'no.'

The fact is that Nutz76 is correct. Instincts will allow you to 'feel' when your girlfriend is doing something behind your back without any overt signs. Why? Our body picks up on the subtle changes in body language, communication. If she's up to something she'll subconsciously make small changes in her physical demeanor and tone. How do you think lie detectors work? Magic?

It is important to note though that guys get naturally jealous and that you can't act on every jealous feeling, you'd be knocking every guy to the ground you saw as he checked out your honey as they walked by.

I'd definitely confronter her, & tell her what you were told, that this wasn't isolated, it was 8 or 9 times. She's not showing you any respect. Unless you think your boys are just messing with you. See if she lies to you about it.if she does, have one of your boys hit on her in the bar while you wait outside, bust her in the act, like that show Cheaters. That might sound bad but you can't stand for this.

You screwed up somewhere and didn't lay down the law that such behavior is not acceptable. Furthermore, you lost attraction somewhere along the way and now she's no longer interested in you and is looking to trade you in for a different model. Que my 'women are like monkeys' speech.

Women are like monkeys swinging from tree to tree. They don't let go of one branch until they have a firm grip on the next. Women are the same way with boyfriends & relationships. That's essentially Rule #1 why high quality women are so rarely single for any length of time.