Why couldn't he tell me?

All of those assumptions could be true.
But if he really feels as though he didn't cheat, why would he admit to it?
& you should tell him of this obvious evidence to see his reaction.

I always say get the facts before you act.
I don't mean he said, she said.
I'm talking about time and dates.

If he did cheat, I would say, its for a number of reasons.
Keep his reputation
Keep his reputation with you incase you would ever want him back.
Doesn't really call it cheating for so many reasons.
Maybe the sex was bad.
He could believe it would hurt you a little more.
Could be to protect someone else.
Could be ashamed to think about it.
Really hope that helped.


Sincerely ,
A Loving Black Man

Just so we're clear, obvious evidence means condom wrappers in the bed sheets, uh. DNA in places you two haven't been. you got a hidden video camera showing footage of him and someone making out. that sort of thing, correct?

Now, if he did cheat. he could be denying it for many reasons; mind you, not any of them would be GOOD reasons, of course.

He could be doing it because he still doesn't want to hurt you. if he denies it, it's still COULD be a doubt in someone's mind. and that's a way out.

He could be doing it just because he'd be in trouble.

He could be doing it because he doesn't want to admit it to himself.

He could be doing it because he feels justified (in a way) that it wasn't "TRUE cheating."

Sometimes men and women will deny cheating. Usually that's a perfect measure of what a man or woman (or should I say boy or girl) is made of. A mature person, if they screw up, they're willing to admit it. Sadly, you don't always get that. Sadly, there's never really officially closure but the closure you make for yourself. I'm sorry to say, It's the best you can do, and probably the most you can hope for right now.

Now if the "obvious evidence" was He worked long hours, then maybe he didn't cheat. And in that case, he'd deny it. I deny cheating on any girlfriend because I never did. Assuming you're right, then my suggestion is to do your best to move on. If he did cheat, perhaps eventually his bad behavior will catch up to him.

Good luck to you.

out of guilt.

i think it is both guilt and the fact that he did cheat and if you found out you would be hurt. though just doing that is hurt enough. oh and are you guys still together cause if you are and he cheated and you know 4 sure that he did then maybe you guys should break up.

I hope some guys answer your msg because I wonder the same thing about my ex everyday! I had PROOF that he was with another woman, and he admitted to his best friend (who in turn told me) but six months later and he still won't admit it. He rather implies that I am a psycho who is looking for a reason to get over him!:)