This has been going on since I was in sixth grade (I'll be a junior in the fall). My girl friends are great. They're fun, outgoing, sweet, and drop dead gorgeous. And I'm completely jealous. For years, my friends have been getting every guy that comes their way. One of my friends has every guy (literally) in the school going after her and the other always seems to have a boyfriend. In the time I've known her, she's had 4 different guys and been single for the total of a week.
I feel like my jealousy is consuming me. Every time I'm around them I feel filled with hate for them. And this summer it's just getting worse. I thought we'd maybe get to hang out and chill, but I was wrong. I've been ditched for guy cruising and dates.
I've tried talking to them about how I feel, but they don't understand/care.
I used to be jealous of my other friends because I thought they were so much more pretty than me. Guys don't really like me either but I found out that if I boost my self-esteem guys really do like you. I'm sure you are beautiful and only you notice the little flabs or pimples, it's only because you look so close and harsh on yourself. I've been ditched this summer too. Don't worry it will all be ok.once you find a guy you will want them to be happy for you and you won't be jealous because they won't know what you have.
Maybe you should hang out with friends who aren't as attractive or look-conscious, and have the same dating patterns as you. If you are unequally balanced with your friends, it can be the source of jealousy.
I totally understand how you are feeling; jealousy is a hard issue to overcome. You just have to remember, guys only like those kinds of girls because they have nice bodies and stuff, and because your friends are giving themselves away like free candy, they will be taken advantage of quite a lot. When you start feeling that jealousous feeling roar inside of you, you have to remember that because you are waiting, God is going to bless you with a perfect boy that will love you for who you are, not because of what you look like. Also, your friends may not understand how you feel because they have never been put into your position before. Maybe, if you feel comfortable with it of course, you should find new friends, ones that won't ditch you for cute boys.