a very brief background: we hung out three times, she was pretty in to me, and after the third time of hanging out/going out I made a move and kissed her. I knew she wanted me to. well we ended up going further than kissing that night.
we started doing some pillow talk afterwards and I don't remember how the conversation got to this, but she said "i am really scared of you". I asked how come, and she responded by saying "because I really like you but don't know anything about you".
well that got my head spinning to say the least. kind of weird I suppose. this was a few months ago and it still kind of bugs me. oh well, but it does still kind of bug me, you know?
Yeah I think she just phrased it poorly. Liking someone so much is really scary no matter what. And when you don't know the person that well it can be all the more scary because part of you wonders "what is this based on?" I mean how can you feel so much for someone you hardly know? And then there is also that thought that as you get to know the person you might find out things you don't like. Maybe something HUGE. Maybe just little stuff. Either way, it could leave you in a position where you're struggling with strong feelings for a guy and "dealing" with whatever it is that you don't like. All around it's just scary.
I think she was scared because her emotions were moving faster than she thought they should be. It's a pretty normal feeling. It makes you feel vulnerable and out of control and that really is scary. She probably shouldn't have told you that, or she should have at least phrased it better.
She could be scared of you because she's inexperienced and the fact that she really likes you without knowing a lot about you. Speaking from experience, liking a guy and not really knowing a lot about him, can be terrifying. It's like letting someone behind the walls that you've built for protection and self-preservation when you really don't know if that person can be trusted. If you've been hurt in the past, it can be hard to let someone in, and discovering that you like someone without really knowing anything about that person makes it just that much scarier.
Well she could have been scared of herself more than you. It's easy to be afraid of someone or something that can change us or make us act out. I personally think she's afraid of what just happened.People associate things/other people with feelings. Men= Scary, Sex= Bad/Forbidden, Women= Innocent/soft (just examples) Scared of moving to fast? Well she could have easily interpreted it as I'm scared of him because he made me feel this way. Don't worry about it if she made her own decision to do what she did it's an internal fear.
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