Why am I such a struggle with self esteem?

i think its because your english sucks. haha I'm jokin, but seriously "why am I such a struggle with self esteem?" makes no sense. now to the advice

you are who you are, there ain't nothin you can do about it. You look like you look, and there ain't nothin an under 18 can do about it. so get comfortable with it. that goes out to everyone!

Self esteem is actually an internalized version of what you believe other people think about you. As a result, the value of the individual hinges on acceptance by other people. This is, of course, subject to the whims of other people's judgment and is bad measure of the value of the individual (the mob has bad taste). This will remain a problem as long as you regard other people's opinions as more valid than your own. It doesn't matter how attractive you are if you refuse to believe it because you feel other people don't feel that way.

Regardless of how you think you look now, I will assure you that you will miss it in 20 years. Enjoy your beauty and don't let anyone take that away from you.

This is why girls are anorexic. They believe that is they become skinnier they will be happy but when they do lose weight, they didn't see a change in their lives. Same reason why rich people have such a high suicide rate. They believe that money and wealth will grant them happiness but when it doesn't, they kill themselves.

You're self esteem like nusoulmusic was describing, is within.

Start doing things that you feel are positive and you will slowly become happier and more confident with yourself.

For example: Taking that dance class you always wanted, the sport you always wanted to try or doing well in the class you struggle in. All of these obstacles will attribute to your strength and discipline.

The answer to that is deep inside of yourself. Like you said, people have been telling you that you are pretty, but you refuse to hear it. There is nothing that anyone on here can say that will make you change how you view yourself; only YOU can do that. You have to reach deep inside of your soul and discover why you feel the way you do. After that, you have to put yourself and check and tell yourself how beautiful you are. We are all wonderfully made, and NO ONE deserves to be told that they are ugly. Let your inner beauty shine; let it seep from deep within until it so bright that you have no choice but to tell yourself how gorgeous you are. Be blessed.

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i don't know what to say because normal people in your case just go no I'm not. so its up to you to start changing your thought on your self

You seem good looking in your picture.

Women in your situation usually don't think highly of themselves because they "paint a negative image" when they look in the mirror.

Unfortunately most females I know (you seem this way too), often do have the qualities they admire. They just can't see that they do because their self-image is trained that way.

Just try to stop thinking negative thoughts about yourself

I'm not sure about it, but my guess is it may be because of your age. You're still a teenager and most girls seem to have self esteem problems in their teens (sometimes even those who make it look like they're in love with their own hotness).
I can talk from my personal experience, I'm a very prettty girl with nice petite body (I'm the same height as you btw) and throughout my life I have been told about it a lot of times, when I told my friends that I wasn't looking good enough their reaction was mostly: what are you stupid? some of them even thought I was fishing for compliments. Don't get me wrong it's not like I'm superhot, but I'm pretty and now I know. but just like you I found it extremely hard to believe and nobody could convince me. Only now when I'm 20 something has changed, now I look into the mirror and I just like what I see! I hope that this kind of understanding will come to you too, maybe even earlier than it did to me. One suggestion is maybe try to avoid looking for any imperfections when you look at yourself, see your face as a whole and notice how nice it looks.
Also from your picture, you are very cute so please start appreciating yourself!

You're young, hang in there. What guys are looking for at your age changes a bit as you get older. I'd never been on a date when I was seventeen, but just a couple years later I was suddenly attracting all sorts of guys.

heya!

im the same! my friends always tell me I'm so pretty and they used to think I just said I wasnt attractive for attention but my best friend spent a lot of time with me 2years ago and realized I really hated my looks I cry about the way I look and I know there is worse out there but I just feel so ugly, all my family is good looking and then there's me :( I had to go counseling about it and all( which didn't help) there is nothing that can make you love yourself even if justin timberlake came up and was like hi there your well fit it wouldn't make a difference you'd still feel the same! eventually I don't know when but you will come to love and accept yourself! the hole world can tell you your beautiful and pretty but its not them you need to hear it from its you ,you need to hear it from and you can't lie to yourself so until you believe it I guess you will still have low self esteem

Are you comparing yourself? That's one thing I had to stop doing. First define attractive, or better yet what do you feel you're missing. People can beat you across the head with a beauty stick but you have to think.wait you have to KNOW you ARE BEAUTIFUL. Sweetie I can't say I have the assets that you have and I'm older than you. The problem may not even be with your body but if you don't feel good inside how can you feel good about your outside? Try writing down everything good about yourself things you really mean. Write down your definition of beauty of being attractive, now start living by it. If that list has things on it such as I want a bigger butt ask yourself why, who are you doing this for, who influence's your self perception. I can find the beauty in anyone because attraction is not just something you only see (which it seems like you have) but something you feel from within the person. Find ways to make beauty in life, find the beauty in others in the world, and help others I am certain you will come to the point where you say wait I look GOOD let me walk pass the mirror again BLAUW! :) Tell yourself in the mirror everyday how beautiful you are and don't be afraid to cry to question yourself. I'm sending attraction your way and I wish you much esteem.