Lying OR Cheating? What is worse?

lying & cheating are both the same thing...

I am pretty sraight forward. So lying is a huge thing for me, If I can't trust you its over. But also with cheating that would make me end it too. I wouldn't cheat on them so why should they cheat on me. Trust is the biggest thing for me and with either things happening I wouldn't trust who I was with again.

Personally, I think lying is a part of cheating. You can lie without cheating but you can't really cheat without lying (well I guess you could but generally they go hand in hand). So with that in mind, I would say cheating is worse than lying.

If a guy cheats on me, and tells me either before or after, and is honest with me that he will continue to do so... and I stay with him anyway... then it is nobody's fault but my own. The guy is being honest, and putting the ball in my court.

However, I see lying (lying about any big issue, really) as taking away my power of choice, and trying to control me by controlling the truth. He isn't giving me the option of deciding for myself if I want to be with his faults.

cheating is lying. I see no difference between the two.

I've been lied to and cheated on and they are both unacceptable and unnecessary to do in any situation. They both show that they don't care for the other person. But they guy that lied and cheated on me, I'm still with him only because I want to give it another shot and try to move on.

Lying and cheating are close to the same thing, to me. Neither are acceptable, in my opinion. They are both a form of betrayal, and once you find out what's going on, it hurts so much knowing that you put your trust into that person and were always honest with them, and they turned around and lied to you or cheated.

I think lying is worse. Cheating also falls under the category of lying. With cheating, it could have been an one time thing, it could have been a mistake that won't happen again. However, with lying, it all starts with little lies and when he gets away with those, they become bigger lies.

Cheating makes lying necessary. I think the lying is actually what damages the relationship because you have to look at your partner as an adversary. I think people make a mistake by assuming monogamy. Many relationships do well with additional outside sexual contact as long as everyone is honest about it.

(I'm assuming here that you're not talking about a situation like an open relationship where in certain circumstances other partners of your partners are explicitly allowed. Given that...)

To me they're identical in that they're both deception. Lying is, obviously, lying. Cheating is breaking an agreement that the two of you made. It may be a de-facto agreement or more explicit like in a marriage, but it's still an agreement that you both (presumably) entered into in good faith.

Lying is deception, and cheating is deception plus sex. Since for me sex itself isn't a hot-button topic, I see them as being pretty much the same thing. Neither is better or worse than the other. If it's an argument like, "You lied to me!" "Yeah, but you cheated on me!" where the cheated-on partner is trying to establish the moral high ground, then I'd personally see both parties as having shown themselves to be equally untrustworthy. Don't know if that's what you're talking about though.

I'm guessing most people would probably consider cheating to be a stronger deception than simply lying, but I don't see it that way. They feel the same to me. Truth is very important to me; sex is no big deal.

It's tough in either case, it just makes it harder to trust him/her, if that's even a possibility anymore.