Why do guys hate expressing emotions?

We deal with our emotions differently. It's as simple as that. Don't judge us based on whether or not we become a mess of tears when faces with adversity. Girls deal with problems by crying about it and wallowing in self-pity. Most guys don't. We try to fix the problem, and if we can't we get pissed off because we don't like feeling helpless.

By crying we're admitting weakness and accepting failure. Even if the problem is not something we could have prevented or solved, we'll still blame ourselves. If a girl is raped, she'll cry about it. but her boyfriend, assuming he finds out about it, will no doubt go looking for the rapist.

Crying solves nothing. Violence, at least in our eyes, solves something -- when the rapist is dead or in jail we'll feel better knowing you're no longer in danger. Later, when he's alone, the guy might cry over the fact that he was unable to protect you.

Weakness and failure.

On another note, do not think that crying = emotion. There are more emotions than just sadness. Happiness, anger, shame, pride, etc. I'm sure the guys that you know have expressed all of them.

Women (and society) have recently begun this crusade to make all men into weaker versions of themselves. If the one person whose comfort would mean the most to you is crying with you, who is left to stay strong and take care of you?

I'm not saying its bad to show emotions but why do it? By crying it doesn't change anything if you just suck it up and move on you can get further in life by focusing on things that you can do something about.

Its a pre-set standard that our patriarchal society put on men and women even before birth. Guys have to be thought, girls have to be delicate. Its a wrong thing to do if you ask me. I won't lie that the day my girl told me she wasn't sure about her feeling for me I cried like a girl in Justin timberlakes song. But basically that's it. They teach us from little to suck it up. So if you ever see a dude cry well you know its for real and really big.

Well there are a few reasons. one its how some guys have been raised. The "don't cry and be a man" mentality has been driven into a lot of guys. Sadness, in those guys eyes, is equal to showing weakness. There is also the consideration that they are afraid you will think less of them if they are emotional. Even if you say its ok it can still make him feel like he is weak. There is also the possibility they haven't really grasped a complex situation. When you mentioned your friend who didn't cry about the thought his sister may be paralyzed. maybe he just wasn't thinking of the long term effects or maybe he was just trying to hold on to hope. Getting upset about something that "might" happen may not be the best use of time.

You ask why a guy can't cry or show concern with out feeling weak or clingy. Well how else do you feel when you are sad? No one feels empowered by crying. Usually, after a person cries do they feel any sort of empowerment. I believe guys show concern all the time though. When around other guys they may down play it because they don't want to get ragged on by their friends but most guys will show concern.

Funny thing is you wonder why guys don't cry now. just wait until they meet alcohol. They will show every emotion about 10 minutes and you'll wish they would just shut up.

You're younger hun. Guys your age are all about putting on a tough act. They want to act, and feel tough. That's why they get angry and why they don't cry. It's not ALL guys, but I would say that most guys your age will be like that. But it could also just be the guys you go for too.

In our society guys are placed on a pedestal. This rotating place of glory dictates what the "normal" guy should be like. Though it varies culture to culture, the basics stay the same. The Fearless Protector of the Family and organizer of important family decisions. Tough and always able to stand up for his pride and those close to him. This stereo type leaves no room for tears or fear so instead of crying or showing a tenderness of concern guys turn to a more manly emotion, anger. Anger at themselves for not being adequate, angry at others for letting them down. Often times it is easier to stay a "man" by being angry instead of letting the all important guard down and expressing what he is truly feeling inside.

That's just the way men are, you can't change it. They like to appear calm, collected, in control, all that jazz.
I don't mind it too much I don't think, because when a guy shows more emotion than usual, you know he's being sincere. They aren't bottling themselves up to annoy us, you know. They're just being men.