Many guys ask me out, and the last time I went out was 1 year ago, even during that time I was asked out by at least 20 guys. I'm very pretty, funny, smart, nice. Now there's this guy who keeps hurting me. He told me he likes me but he's not asking me out. I used to be the one who would never call him and play little hard to get. But he would try to contact me in all ways. Now when I started showing him interest, he changed. He asked me out 2 days ago and said he'll call me next day evening. I was waiting from 6 to 12 for his call, and he didn't even call me today. He talks nicely to me, but his actions drive me crazy for not keeping his word or being late or doing something wrong like on a purpose. Also teasing me but in a fun way and trying to get comfortable with me, like farting next to me lol. We were in friends with benefits, but I realized that it was wrong I did, not because we weren't going out then, but because I lost him m viginity after I turned his ego down and didn't apologize, so maybe he thought that was all I wanted and no relationship. (b4 that he told me in serious that he liked me and asked about my feelings, which I took for joke then). He then acted distant and treated me like someone just for sex, but in obvious way. Like we'd agree to hang out in his house, he'd pick me up, we would go over his place go to the bedroom, do the thing, and then he'd say I'll take you home now, basically treating me like he'd even wouldn't treat a whore like that. And we only had sex 3 times. We wouldn't see each other for month. I wouldn't call him and he would call sometimes just to ask how I'm doing and how's my family. Recently we agreed to hang out over his place. He picked me up and things started to lead in to his bedroom, he made some sexual comment that made me angry, I pretended I didn't get offended, but later I couldn't hold, I put my clothes on and ran out of his house. He chased me with his car. He pleased me not to do this again to him and his face seemed so upset. He begged me to get into his car and talk. He asked if I wanted to go to eat or go somewhere. Then I told him he was using me for sex (which I kind of used him actually) and he told me not to ever think like this again. He told me he wants to be friends, apologized me again and asked for a kiss. Then he held m hand all the way we went down the shore for a walk and he kept touching my hair and looking at me. He saw couple guys checking me out and made a comment about how they're looking at me and thinking what a hottie lol. When he drove me home, he asked if he could meet my parents and come inside, I told him no and he kept pleasing as he always wants to meet them, because he thinks my mom doesn't want me to date anyone. Also he talks about me to his friends and compliments me. He asks if I'm going out or sometimes he'd say how is ur bf. Like he thinks I was just for intimacy with him, It does seem to me he wants a relationship, but why is he acting like this?
He got what he wanted from the start with the friends with benefits situation. Don't wait around for him to call. Go back to playing hard to get, miss his calls once in a while, don't call him all the time, make plans with your friends. Don't let this one guy control all of your thoughts. You need to be an individual, and besides, if all of these other guys want you, why are you worrying so much about this one guy? You don't need a guy who's going to play hot and cold like this, you need a guy who's going to be with you, who wants to be with you, and this one clearly doesn't know what he wants.
I don't call him all the time, I call him less than he does to me. I do decide to let him go, by deleting his number from my phone, but then he calls me again and like nothing happened makes me smile. Besides I'm bit depressed of other stuff these days and now he with his insecurities or games just makes me drawn into depression even more. I tried to meet other guys, but none of them had something that this one has and I don't know what it is, but it makes me want him & wait. - 2 months ago
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I understand more now. Ok, so if you're having problems with depression, do you really think it's wise to get involved with a guy who's playing these mind games? He's playing with your head and your heart, and it's going to make it worse for you to deal with depression. Trust me, I've been there. I wouldn't worry about him anymore than you already have, if he wanted you, he'd be there, 100%. You deserve better. - 2 months ago
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It's just he calls me and starts saying he's been busy with work. I know he works a lot, but that's just not what I need and I don't think it would be right if I told him I need someone who would be there for me no matter what. I want to talk to him about it but I don't know how. Because at one point it's my fault too for not being straightforward before, instead just leading him into those mind games, but I regret it and I really wanna get out of that confusion :/ - 2 months ago
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Then sit him down and explain it to him. Guys don't like the mind games anymore than we do. If you explain to him the situation, I'm sure he'd understand, and if not, then he's definitely not worth it. I still think that you deserve better, no mind games. Don't beat around the bush with him this time, sit him down and tell him how you feel. Tell him you'd rather have a relationship than be friends with benefits. - 2 months ago
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It will not be easy for me to talk about that with him, whether to choose a relationship or no more me, but I'll find a way, because I know that hints don't work. Thanks though, I appreciate - 2 months ago
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No problem. I hope everything works out for you! - 2 months ago
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