Have you ever noticed when you begin discussing a problem with a guy, that he isn't like your girlfriends. Typically he won't empathize with you, not right away at least. He won't listen for the sake of listening. Instead, as he listens he suggests ways to fix the problem, or he'll state how he can fix the problem?
Guys by nature, are "hunters", in this case meaning that they are problem solvers, so when they hear about a problem, they assume their expertise is needed, and they do what they are wired to do, solve the problem.
It's not wrong, it's not that we aren't supportive, it's just our chemical make up.
This is the prime example of being direct, a problem is presented, and solution is given. Direct, to the point, for all intents and purposes, problem solved.
So, this is why guys enjoy someone from the opposite sex being direct, because usually we get in trouble for our "problem solving" solutions, when really what the girl wants is someone to empathize with their particular situation, and maybe wants someone to be supportive of their needs, to boost their confidence.
I'm glad you brought this up, I think the more the opposite sex understands the communication needs of the other, the more we can build stronger, better relationships both as friends and significant others.
Because the girls that aren't are the ones who always like to play the mind games and it gets annoying.girls do not know how annoying that is to guys, ask any guy you know what type of girl he would want and the answer would most likely be "i want a girl who's real with me" or "straight up". Yea we'll do a chase but some girls take it to the extreme, if you were to speak your mind then everyone would be happy because we would understand what you want and don't want simple as that
because that's the way we think and act, straight to the point, its just the way that mens brains work. this may not be a satisfactory answer but that's exactly my point. a girl may answer this question with reasons why and theories etc but men are just pretty much direct and straight to the point, so when they find a girl that communicates the same way you can imagine its pretty fantastic.
These guys are crazy. Men are not problem solvers or direct with a girl. They're always playing mind games and they lie to get what they want. Men take forever to show their feelings they won't tell you, you had to be guessing what he thinks or what he wants most of the time. They don't have the balls to tell you unless you sleep with them.
But anyway men do like it when you're direct though but some guys might also see it as easy access if you know what I mean.
People respond with educated and experienced based knowledge on here, not with emotion. And as far as men being problem solvers, go read about the Power Dead Even Rule, which was written by a female psychiatrist . The communication paradigm I am describing is based on her work, which has been proven right again and again.
Thanks! - 2 months ago
Answerer
Sorry I don't believe in psychology or psychiatry that is just pure crap. how can someone solve peoples problems when they can't even solve their own problems? Now you're going to tell me that depression has a cure.Yeah Right. If you take your antidepressants you'll feel good about yourself. - 2 months ago
Her model is not based on Psychiatry, it's based on studying male and female communication and relationships in personal and professional settings. Trying reading something before you trash it. - 2 months ago
I do agree with you. not all guys are direct and they do take forever to show their feelings! - 2 months ago
Answerer
Well you know something boy we are all the same male or female. the only difference is that women take out their feelings which is good and men don't because they think it makes them tough but it's not true it makes them more sensitive. That's why guys are the more susceptible to commit suicide they don't let it out. so it doesn't matter what someone else said about male and female reactions that's just pure crap. accept it only God knows not some psycho Bitch. - 2 months ago
See, your comment about "Psycho Bitch" puts it very clearly. For one, that's not anyway to debate, especially if you're platform is God. And I am aware that men tend to hide their feelings. I never said anything to the contrary, my answer was solely on communication in the context of personal and professional conversations. There was nothing stated about emotions.
To say men and women are the same, that's fine, but you're going to have to put some definitions to that. - 2 months ago
Actually, women are more likely to attempt suicide; men are more likely to succeed in committing suicide because of the methods they use. - 2 months ago
Answerer
That's not true look for it in the internet yourself if you want who's more likely to commit suicide. - 2 months ago
Describe your ideal first date; Where do you go? What do you wear? How does the date end?
My ideal first date would be first we go to the movies and see a comedy after we would go somewhere slightly quiet but still fun so we can talk and get to know each other.
Whether it is a girl's night out or a Friday night date with our hubby, the "getting ready" clock starts ticking the minute we get home from work. Wax, manicure, pedicure, teeth whitening gel stuff,...
In nature, male animals are often the ones that have to impress the females. Take peacocks for example. When you think of peacocks, the beautiful array of colorful feathers likely springs to mind....
(Age:18 to 24)
When: 2 months ago
Site Links
About GirlsAskGuys
GirlsAskGuys Widgets
Help Us Improve!
