I was dating this guy that I really like and kinda still do. Well about a week ago he had gotten drunk and asked me to come over and I guess that I had just got there after he had finished having sex with another girl and I found out by the marks she left on him but when I asked him he denied it and then admitted to it and then told me about the other times but the next morning when I tried to talk to him he said that he had no idea what I was talking about and he had no memory of the other time that it happened and that he was drunk every time but is it possible to remember when your drunk and not when your sober.i don't know he keeps telling me to wait for him that he will be better and that he loves me and wants to be with me and that he doesn't want to be with anyone else. but to come to find out that he had her staying with him and he never mentioned it until after wards.my question is he still lying to me and he'll never change or he is be true because every time I try to move on he says that he doesn't want that but when I try the treats me like I am not there what should I do?
Update: You guys say that it is dumb to ask this question what do you when he knows all the right words to stop from leaving so how do I know whether its line or the truth I know what I should do but I how do I make my heart follow?
2 months ago
let him go. You are a princess, a child of the Most High King, the Creator of Heaven and Earth. If he is not willing to show you the respect you are due, let him go, and trust your Father to provide the man He wants you to be with. God knows what He is doing and He will give you peace, while everyone around you is in chaos. Talk to Him and see what He has to say. Remember there is an enemy who will try to seduce you, and he might treat you well for a little while but, he won't be consistent and his intent is to accuse, demean and distract you so you won't be who God made you to be. He wants to kill everything you are made to be, steal everything you have and destroy everything you have done. God, on the other hand, differentiates between who you are and what you do, affirming you even while confronting your behavior. He loves you, and likes you too. He is your Father and the lover of your soul. Let Him be your romantic interest and you won't be disappointed.
I understand your question and dilemma. The only way I know of, for certain, is to talk it over with God. Let Him know how you feel, what you want, what you think you need, etc. Scream, yell, kick, whatever you need to do. God can take it and love you for it. He is proud when we are honest with Him. If He made you, He is the One who loves you no matter what. He is a bigger than your mistakes and loves to redeem them and heal all your wounds so you can lead others to Him for healing too. - 2 months ago
Don't waste your time thinking about him; he is trash. He won't change, and he doesn't care about you. The fact that you even asked this very stupid question is an insult to your intelligence. If you continue to be so incredibly oblivious, naive, and stupid, then you deserve every bad thing this man does to you.
Do you really need an answer to this? Shake off the hope and face the reality. He wants to keep you for sex as you already have shown him you are needy. What I mean is, most wouldn't put up with it, you are, so he's going to string you along (forgive the metaphor) by showing you the carrot then going after you with the cucumber! He's using you. In my earlier years, I hate to admit it, but I used to do the same thing when I was single/dating women. The needy ones are easy targets. Don't set yourself up for more problems, tell him IF he gets his act together, you'll THINK about dating him more, but for now.SEE YA! Good luck with it.
Second- if you suspected him of cheating, and he admitted to cheating then In your mind he cheated, he can't take that back, and you won't forgive him for a while.
Third- Do you want to be with a guy who cheats on you when he is drunk?
I'd say give it some space for a week, then talk to him if you really want to continue.
You know what you should do, but my affirmation is to show him he's not worth you. But wait,were you two still dating together when this happened? And what did you come to his house for when he was drunk. If a guy called me and asked to meet , I'd say "Bitch, sober yourself first and then call me." not much you can do with a drunk one, huh?!
Anyways, he said he was with other one involved, wow how brave that was to tell it when he was drunk, hopefully he didn't think he will run away with this. Drunks say what's on their mind and they never really lie. This guy confessed to you he was getting laid with other chicks. But it means more when a guy tells that when he ain't drunk, because it shows that at least he cares, and that at least earns him some point for honesty, but I'd probably wouldn't give him chance anyway, depending on how much he wants me and how much he'd do to get me back. Now it's up to you to decide to let that slip or find someone better, who'd appreciate you more. Remember you can always forgive, but once you do that there's no way back.
I'd say don't contact him and ignore his calls for a while. See what he does to get you back and if he really wants you or just takes you as an option. Play hard, make him put much effort to get you back! That will show if he's worth a chance back. Good luck!
If she took him back after that, she would be stupid. No offense, but really! - 2 months ago
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She didn't list enough details about this guy and their relationship in the past. I believe in giving person 1 chance and however once it's broken and move on. What he did was hell a lot jerkish, but if he would really try then you might try to throw some other opportunity and see how it goes.... By giving chance I mean by giving chance to fix himself. - 2 months ago
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He is so not even worth the time it took you to write that. If he is stringing you along and messing around with other girls, I would say it is time to move on with your life. In that situation I have found that you won't be able to trust the guy after stuff like that. It is always best, but hard, to move on. There are tons of good ones out there.
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