Why is it that whenever I am in the position to fool around with a guy, or am close with a person I am attracted to when it comes down to it I start shaking and get nervous to where I can't get comfortable and enjoy it as much as I should. Why does this happen? It's not that I am not aroused, just how can I keep myself from shaking, and getting so nervous. I guess I can say I'm not that experienced in that general area, when it comes to intercourse but even just making out or fooling around. Someone help! haha, I hate it when it happens.
Oh my god, you are so not alone. When I first started dating my boyfriend I was so nervous I would talk a mile a minute, make silences even more awkward, not to mention make a complete and utter ass of myself. Then when we started messing around it got worse.
The day of our (and my) first kiss he offered me some water and we sat down on the couch. Once I'd drank it, I started rolling it around in my hands. I needed something to do with my hands and since I don't smoke or play air piano, I held the cup. Then when he asked if I wanted to go down to the basement I brought the cup for moral support. By the time the day was up, I had rubbed most of the design off the cup. He still has it to this day. :)
Then once we'd moved beyond kissing and entered the make-out/blind groping stages, I knew we were going to end up pinning each other on the couch like Jesus to the cross but for some reason I couldn't just play it cool. I would be talking to him and he would be facing me and I would be facing my body completely away from him because I was so nervous.
Ahh! I was so awkward. But it got better. We got more comfortable with each other. By the time we moved around more bases we were golden. You'll get there. Just enjoy all that nervous energy while it's there. Good luck!