A few years back in high school I was hosting a German exchange student via the Friendship Connection (it was an awesome experience and I recommend doing the same if you can). Don't get me wrong, he is an ok guy (we're still good friends), but it was ridiculous. At the end of the first day of him being at our school he had over 15 numbers from girls who wanted to go on a date/hang out/etc. with him. He didn't even ask for most of the numbers, they literally just gave them to him and were constantly trying to drag him to one party or another, or take him out on a date. Some similar things happened to other male exchange students that I'm friends with in college.
So ladies, what is it about foreign men that drive you to such lengths even if you know almost nothing about him and he's downright homely?
Update: I agree with everything said here, but here's something I didn't think was pertinent until I started reading all of these answer. After I got back from my stay in Germany I had a bit of an accent for a bit when I spoke English.
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Update: While I still had the accent, I met girls at parties, and they were all gah gah, because they thought I was from Germany, the second they found out I had only lived in Germany for a few months they started treating me like any other American guy.
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Update: Regardless of how hot they were for me before they knew where I was from, eh, whatever. I'm leaving the country for good anyways after I graduate to move to Germany. :-)
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I think reason #1 is that the girls here think these guys have money, and often they are right. Not many poor Europeans come here to the United States as exchange students. They aren't government sponsored and their families have at least some money to send them here.Not many programs pay for the transportation and touring around while they are here.
Once the word gets around that the guy doesn't have a budget for spending on the US women this enthusiasm drops away totally!
I don't think it's too complicated. !) Due to the way women in this country treat guys, and their usual venality, most guys don't really like them. foreign guys don't have this sort of negative experience--yet--and are just more welcoming to the US women.
Second, but really most important, the women think, often correctly, that foreign students are from wealthy families; this is not always the case but you don't get many guys here from really poor backgrounds. See paragraph (1)--this is why most guys here don't really like them.
Since they think they have money of course the women are all over them. I don't think it's any more complicated than that.
For example, this doesn't happen too much with Chinese students here because it's generally known they aren't very wealthy but are sponsored by the Chinese government. so the girls don't pay much attention to them at all.
As everyone has already said, accents are attractive, and girls like the idea of being around a guy who's different from what they're used to. But I think that in the back of a lot of girls' minds, they're also thinking about future possibilities.
If you're close to a person from another country--whether you're just friends or dating--a lot of opportunities open up for you. You get to travel somewhere new if/when you visit them, you have someone who knows the area showing you around, and you get to learn about the culture firsthand. Sure, you can travel without having a personal relationship with someone in the country, but it's a different experience. I think that's why girls treated you differently when they found out you weren't actually from Germany.
It's the accent and different culture. And if they look half way decent, it's ON! Many foreign guys are very comfortable with themselves and aren't afraid of new things. They don't tend to be too cocky. That is such a big attraction for women. For example, dancing. Most american guys think it's gay to dance as a couple with your girl. A lot of the foreign guys I have met dance. It is one hell of a turnon for women to have a guy who can dance and swing her around. It's sexy as hell! Anyway, gotta love the foreign guys, lol.
I think everyone has already made fairly good points. I think it pretty much goes under A. Something new. Where I live we have very different cultural differences, so something new is astounding. and B. The Accent. Yep, it's amazing most of the time, but I think this more than not falls under "Something new".
It's a new thing most of them have yet to experiencce.
It's the idea of some fresh, unknown meat on the market. It has little to do with looks etc and no doubt the girls will have forgotten him before his plane even touches down.
There was a French exchange student at our school (bear in mind I like in the UK so it isn't that far) and he was the main attraction for the whole time he was there! AND it wasn't just girls that were all over him! Men wanted to be him and women wanted to be WITH him.
This isn't quite true, when I was in Germany, yes people were interested in me because I was different. The amount of attention I got from girls (who didn't want me to help them with their English homework) was about the same I'd get from American girls. In fact my personality got the attention of more girls than where I was from (I only spoke in German when I could, and never said where I was from unless they asked). - 2 months ago
I think it's mainly a cultural thing. I can't really be sure as I would not have been one of the above mentioned type of girls but still. Foreign people live in a completely different culture to the one we are presented with - and a lot of people quickly equate different to good when a guy is involved. He's somehow special and different from everyone else on offer; so of course there's some sort of attraction going to be there. And people like to be around interesting people - who can talk to us about things we don't necessarily know an awful lot about - and could have maybe presented a fresh perspective on things.
Accents! Seriously, a foreign accent is very sexy. Also, a lot of foreign men (and women) have different views and experiences from the Americans I know. It's like getting a fresh perspective on the world, and it's very exciting. Being around exciting, sexy people is fun, right? So, it makes sense to want to be around these exchange students. :)
It is the same with foreign women. A european woman in the US is HOT! The accent, the looks and in some cases, it's the way us americans have this personage that european women are more sexually liberal. I cannot confirm this because I have never dated a european woman before and have only met a few. People get used to their surroundings and get bored sometimes when the know everyone around them. Add in a new package and the whole community gets livid.
Now asian women is where I personally get excited over. Chinese, japanese, korean, filipino.I like them all and will show personal initiative to begin chat with them over my american women.
Basically, it's all the same here. Don't know about about how foreigners are received in other countries, I have never had the opportunity to travel overseas yet
I know what you mean as far as foreign women go, but compare how they are sought after compared to American women and foreign men. If the lady in question from another country is hot, but bitchy or undesirable, or ugly. She won't get very much attention other than outright curiosity. If a foreign guy has the same qualities he will still get drooled over by the majority of the female population.
As far as foreigners in other countries, it isn't nearly as bad, people forget, they're - 2 months ago
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