My story is long, but I will try to shorten it. This guy who some people I know claim they think he likes me, got my number off facebook (I didn't give it to him) and called me on his bday one day asking if I wanted to hang out with him at this hunting cabin we both go to on his bday (yeah I was shocked but glad). So we spent the entire day together talking, went out to eat, and getting to know each other. We leave, he gives me a hug/rubs my back, and says he will call me, I say yeah do. A week later he sends me a text saying, "Went fishing today and was thinking about you, hope you have a good day." I ended up calling him since my text wouldn't go through so he wouldn't think I was ignoring him.he told me to call him if I was going to be near a lake where he works (it's another county he had to relocate to for work related to law enforcement). So I call him when I am at this place, and he says ok I will call you tomorrow to see where you are.he doesn't call until 3 days later and says, "I will call you when I get out and come see your place" since he had to go do something with his job. Hours pass.I haven't heard from him, I was worried, so I called and left him a voicemail. He sends me a text saying "i had to go back to my town to help my partner.sorry I didn't make it out there.ill call you in a bit." Ok well I was mad that he didn't at least call me instead of making me sit there for hours waiting.he could have called me on the way back to his house right or at least sent me a text before I had to call? So he doesn't call until the next day, even though he said it would be a bit, and says he is sorry and explains where he had to go, but didn't explain why he didn't call on the way there. Anyway, he said to call him if I caught anything when I went fishing, but I didn't because I didn't want to be pushy. He said he is hanging out with his buddies this weekend, but I know some of them have girlfriends, so I don't know if he is just enjoying being a bachelor/being free or not. I feel like he is making excuses, but we had such a good time together, and everyone thinks he likes me since he asks about me, tells people to tell me hey, etc. and he spent is bday with me, so I am sooo confused/frustrated! Do guys just not like to talk and want girls to call? Is he afraid of a commitment? Do yall think he is making excuses? What should I do? (Call, email him about how it went, or let him come to me?) Do you think he is interested? Why doesn't he call more or act so busy?!? PLEASE HELP! THANKS!
Well, I think the first thing you have to realize is that guys don't think that much about it. A lot of guys are used to dealing with other guys who get together or don't get together and if someone blows them off, it doesn't matter unless it costs money (like game tickets or something). We have a tendancy to get caught up in our own stuff and not do stuff, like call to say we are busy (you should watch more sit coms.) He probably does like you, but he wants to get together in comfortable circumstances. If you put to much pressure on him, it may drive him off. I don't think he is making excuses. When I was single, I was always planning to go fishing or something else with my buddies. One by one, we met girls and slowly but surley we did less with the guys and more with the girl. Its a transition that takes the guy a while and its not fun, because guys like to do guy stuff. You will be very successful with him if you take an iterest in his hobbies and ask if you can go along and do some of the guy things with him (like fishing). Guys do not like to sit around and talk, that s for after the "doing stuff".
You see, part of the attraction is that we like the same things: I am a girl and I go hunting and fishing, which he does, so that is how we met since he is a best friend of a mutual friend. So for our first date, we went to our hunting cabin and fished and talked, looked for deer, etc. So I do like to do guy things/outdoors. I just feel like I might be rushing it, but I am scared to lose him since I am crazy about him and I think we have A LOT in common and don't want to let this go, ya knw. - 5 months ago
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I agree with Shlei3, Ithink you might be rushing it or maybe expecting him to go at the same pace as you. It's good that you like those things, and if he finds out he can enjoy stuff with you .... and have some space.. he will come around. - 5 months ago
I don't think it's got anything to do with commitment seeing as it's too early to even talk about that. I would call him and let him know how much it annoys you and hurts your feelings when he doesn't think of calling you ahead of time to let you know he wasn't going to make it. Give him one more shot and if he doesn't make more of an effort I would let that be and not try anymore.
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