Is it weird or creepy that I want to adopt a girl to be my daughter when I'm older, I mean not to do anything bad or anything, just to teach her things spend time with her and raise her, and that preferably it's a girl that's had a hard life and was abused sexually physically or in some way abused, because I want to feel like I'm saving someone if only one person out of the entire world. Is that wrong or creepy or anything?
I don't think that's creepy at all. For some reason, all the guys I know who actually talk about wanting kids in the future all want daughters. Personally, I would rather have sons, but I would rather adopt too. I don't really see the point in having children of my own (and I use that phrase loosely since my father was adopted) when there are so many in the system who need families. Plus, the idea of being pregnant and going through labor is just a horrible thought, in my opinion.
But I don't know if you realize how hard it is to raise a child who's been abused. My sister works with kids who were abused, and they have a lot of behavioral/psychological problems. Spending time with them and teaching them things can't undo their past. You may just want to protect them, but it's not as simple as that.
I have problems of my own and am working on dealing with a lot of them still, and I still want at least one son of my blood, I think some of what I've gone through and such would help give me a better perspective and way of helping them. You can never undo the past, but you can help make someone's future a little brighter. - 4 months ago
It's actually a wonderful thing you are talking about and god knows we have thousands of kids in this world that could use this kind of help. Hopefully however you are talking later, like after you have a wife and family and are financially stable to handle this new addition to your family. You would also have to be sure your wife and children are good with this also as it includes them as much as you when someone new would come into your home. I wish you the best with this idea and would be great if many others thought the same way. Katie
Actually I do want to be sure I am finacially sound to do that and further in the future and making sure it was ok with those involved with me like that, and I would actually want to adopt then have a child or two after (making sure I have enough attention, time, money, and affection to give to them all and of course the most to my wife) even if for some reason I can't get a wife or something (which I don't see as too likely that I couldn't get one) I would still like to adopt a girl. - 4 months ago
no not at all.It's good that you want to adopt a child that has been in someway abused it shows that you want to give her a better life.You want to spend time with her and show her that they are good things in life that her biological parents didn't if they abused her. its not weird or creepy at all its just a realy nice thing to do for the child you adopt.
i think you're expressing a feeling of wanting to be a protector & provider; it's not creepy, but it could be you're (subconsciously) confusing feelings of protection for a child with feelings of protection for a partner. this sort of overlapping & merging of feelings is quite normal & probably an indication that you have a compassionate nature.
would I be right in guessing you don't have a sister & would like to have a little sister to look after?
Yea, I have no sisters, and kinda always wanted a little sister to look after, but adopting a littlle girl is only part of it, I also want a significant other to be intimate with and protective of, I honestly see protecting and such those two as two different things they are different kinds of nuturing and protection to me, and I want to fill both versions. - 4 months ago
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