Single by choice?

I was so hurt, when I was thirteen, I decided to never love again. This affected every possible relationship I had until I was 42, when I finally allowed God to reattach the emotions of the event that caused that decision and grieved it. When I finished grieving all the pain, and losses, involved with that event, I was finally free to love again, in a healthy way. Since then I have learned that forgiveness is not letting someone else off the hook. It is releasing myself from their chain, so they no longer hold power over me, and my other relationships. By grieving, I allowed God to open my heart, remove the pain, use my tears to irrigate the wounds, cleanse it and suture it up, so it could heal. I was also able to turn over the responsibility for seeking vengeance to the only one who is capable of redeeming the pain, and the person who caused it.

I thank we all have been there! Anyone that has given their heart, puts it out their and sometimes you get hurt, But to find the Mr or Mrs Right you have to do it

Yup, there right now. Have been for at least a year now.

Are you a Scorpio? lol, anyways yes yes yes! I dream of falling in love but because I've been rejected or passed over so many times my confidence is kind of smashed and I'm sick of trying for attention that never ends up being mine. so I cut out of the dating scene definitely. Yeah I'm only 19 but whatever.

I'm kinda there now, this guy is trying to talk to me. He is really persuing me, and I agree to go to places with him, but I can't seem to bring myself to really 'interact' because the guy I used to mess with did me real grimey. I know how you feel, it hurts, and you are bruised. I'm learning to take my advice and let it go, but it is so fresh and I still haven't let out any emotion or really spoken to anyone about it like that, so I have to work on that. Your choice to stay single is a good one, you need time to mend. Don't rush into anything and you shouldn't rush to get involed too soon when you are not ready because then you are depriving the new guy from the full attention and attraction that he needs due to your broken heart. Just be patient, you will get over the old guy. I'll hang in there with you, because I'm there too. Good luck.

yup. also there been for almost a year. & just like you I don't hold grudges but I'm not sure if I'm brave enough to start over again. but now with the help of some friends I'm building up the courage to to start over. I hope you will eventually as well. good luck & I hope I helped.

Yes and in fact, it's been done to me within the last year. I've liked this guy for an entire year (this August makes a year from last fall semester). When we actually dated a few months ago, I was extremely guarded. Here was the guy of my dreams (and by the way resembles an Abercrombie + Fitch model/Hollister) and I pushed him away. My ex-bf broke up with me last year and since then, I've been so afraid to let anyone to my heart. If anything, I would say I did fall for this guy, but I was always too afraid to show it. So, let's just say don't go the way I did. Let your emotions out because keeping them inside REALLY doesn't work. You can't afford to be stiff with your future or you'll never give yourself or anyone else a chance to make anything work. You could be single by choice for awhile as I have been. Live it up girl! But don't ALWAYS keep it that way if you feel the time is right. Go with your gut.

Yes. I had a guy hurt me (I had really strong feelings for him but I was just more of a one time thing for him.) and I've been moping about it for a year. I've been afraid to get close to anyone for this long and I finally gave in. I just jumped in and started dating this guy and it really really helps. I still have feelings in the back of my mind for the other guy, you always will, but if you just dive in it makes things easier. I promise.

It is a normal response--u should wait till you are ready so you don't make the next guy pay for the actions of your last lover.