What can I do?

I know how you feel about low confidence in high school, I really do. And it's such a shock to me when guys actually come up to me or show interest. I feel so. well I feel like I don't belong in that sort of atmosphere and I'm so clueless that I'll never catch up.

But I'm working on my confidence too. What I did that helped me a bit was just placing yourself in a situation where you'll be around girls. You're in college, I'm guessing. The girls might hang out in a certain lounge or or one girls room. Use their music as an excuse and peek your head in the room and say something like 'hey I heard the music! why wasnt I invited to the party?'. lol, but do that with girls that you at least chat with on occasion or have a class with, so you can bring that up after if you're at a loss (like 'hey, kelly what day was the exam on again?' 'or diana, I saw you at the bar last night') haha

just be friendly that time and then kinda disappear. bring it up another time w/one of the girls that you know, like 'next time invite me to the party, ok?' 'or hey did you mind when I came in during your girls time' lol. ask this lightheartedly. they most likely won't really mind (its best if the door is at least somewhat open) but again make sure you talk to at least one of them on occasion so its not too weird.

my personal story: well my floor had 2 lounges and other girls and a few guys would hang out in the lounge furthest from me. the lounge right next door to me is where most of the guys would hang.i also preferred this lounge because it was closer lol. but anyways I went there one day and just sat there reading or studying or w/e. and they all came back from the gym or wherever they had been and sat down started talking. I didn't get up like I usually would. I just stayed there and minded my own my business and smiled and said hi if if they said something. I don't remember if it was that time or the next time, but they started talking to me and asking me all sorts of questions lol. I guess they thought I was a nice person and they respected/admired me for hanging out with them and I didn't have a problem with their 'guy talk' lol. it didn't scare me off or offend me and I thought they were all cool so I would always go to that lounge. now that I look back one of those guys was flirting w/me for the longest time but I never believed it lol. I just wanted to share my story because I know I feel better when other people do that, so I know I'm not alone :)

sry for the longass answer but I hope I helped. gl and if you have any more questions just send me a message!

Be funny. Anyway you can. If a girl asks you how you are, smile and say "I am absolutely fantastic! How about you?"

My confidence isn't that great either, but I've found that just saying something quirky or dorky like this really helps break the ice. It makes you different (since most people would just say "I'm fine"), and it makes them smile, which is always a good thing.

Start off with a pen pal, or just go to safe places where you aren't looking to hook up. Just find girls in school, neighborhood, or work. First get use to hanging out with them, test a few jokes out on some-- if you find good one, tell them again, but no to the same girl. Its just a matter of social skill practice.

I guess all I can say is practice, practice and practice! You'll get the hang of it :)

As harsh as this may sound, start talking to girls you don't find attractive.
They are girls, are they not?
When you get a little more comfortable talking to girls, take a steeper step forward and talk to any girl who talk to you, just as you were with the less attractive ones.
Your confidence should be slightly normal by then.
So to take another step forward, start to approach girls that you are interested in.

Yes it's hard, but if you never do it then how do you expect to accomplish a conversation?
Bantering about is never fun.

:)

Demented has a good idea.

Mine is a little less dubious. Why don't you try out some new hobbies? Like, learn how to ice skate, or how to ballroom dance, or heck, learn how to fix cars.

Girls enjoy talking to someone who has a passion for something. It shows character and how that person values their relationships with others, believe it or not.

So go try out some new stuff, and maybe pursue two or three things, and see where that gets you. It's not the whole conversation, but at least it's a start.