I've been friends with this guy for 4 years, and the problem is I have developed romantic feelings for him, but I've come to a point where I need to end the friendship for my sake. but I can't face telling him the truth, because I don't want him to end up hating me for it, up until a year ago we used to see each other every day, but we never had a very touchy feely friendship, we sometimes had play fights but that was about it, and then a year ago he got a job, so I only see him once a week on a saturday evening, but within the last year whenever we are alone and saying goodbye he gives me a hug, they started off as side hugs but now they are more frontal hugs and they are getting longer, but they are never in front of anyone else, also whenever I leave him on a saturday night he always tells me to let him know when I'm free during the week and then he'll come round, so I do but then he makes an excuse not to come, but when I tell him that I'm not going to ask him any more, he come's round, and on two different occasions he's pulled me onto his lap and sat with me on my couch with his arm around me, on another occasion he lifted my t shirt at the back and started stroking my sides, and this past saturday he walked me home, and he came into my house, he said to use the toilet, but when he came back downstairs he put his arms around me and rested his head on my shoulder , he held me for about two minutes, after he let me go, I rested my hand against my cupboard and then he started stroking my hand, the problem is he's married and I know I can never have him, I don't want to ruin his marriage, and I don't think he knows how I feel about him, but I need to end this friendship because it hurts every time I see him and he does something like that and I know he doesn't care about me as anything other than a friend, then when he leaves I'm left remembering every word he's said and every time he's touched me, and I know as soon as he's out the door he'll have forgotten about it. I want to end it, but I don't want him to know that I'm ending it because I've got feelings for him, but I've got to let him go, and I don't know how to do it without telling him the truth, it's tearing me apart, on the one hand I don't want to lose him, but on the other I need to do this to save my sanity,
I'm pretty sure he likes you or have feelings for you as well. Married guys don't give long hugs, back rubs, or stoke hands if they didn't have some sort of affectionate feelings towards a woman. The fact you haven't reciprocated has him just feeling you out every time. If you did, it would be a lot more. It's good you respect his marriage. I doubt he would hate you if you told him the truth. He would probably be hurt if you just left without letting him know.
You grow a set and say "This friendship can't continue because I'm in love with you and seeing you all the time is too much. I'm sorry." There. Point proven without insult.
Thn you should let him know about ur feelings, but tell him you don't wnt 2 end this friendship of urs. tell him you rly do lik him in a romanticish way and also as a friend so he won't run away frm you whn you start telling him these things. and if he starts to run away whn you tell him these things tell him it was jus a joke so you guys can still b fwends but he will probably get an idea of you liking him.
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