Ok. My friend with benefits of 10 months called me to ask me what movie we are getting. Keep in matter that he is buying that with his money. And also what does is it mean when he calls me one night, he talked for a few minutes and then he says that he was going to sleep. What am I suppose to assume this means?
Update: I still have that friends with benefits, but I want to know if calling all the time, cuddling and holding hands is in the rule book? He calls just to talk about his life sometimes, texts to know if I wanna go places with him and hows work going. I'm lost.
A month ago
Update: and also we were talking and I said my boyfriend was on TV, and he said "me." I said since when, and he said its sounds good. Is he telling me something?
A month ago
Wow your over-analyzing things here. Let me tell you what it means. He asked you what movie to get. (ok.) He bought it with his money (expected.) He called you. (no biggie) He talked to you. (normal) Had to get his sleepies. (people have to sleep, shocker) I'm not trying to be sarcastic, but you are thinking way too much. It's like when someone nice walks up to you (that you might have an interest in) and says hello. And your left, dumbfounded by what the word "hello" means. It surely seems like you have an interest for this bloke and your getting lost in what to think. Just take that stuff as it comes. He called you means he called you. That's it. Period. Stay calm, your driving yourself crazy over things of little importance.
This is how girls always get in trouble; trying to make meanings out of nothing; the guy farts and the girl asks, "oh god, he farted.what does that mean? that he doesn't like me?"
Anyway He could be getting attached, he could just have called you to say goodnight. YOu'll need more evidence to find out what's going on, but typical female I know you can't do that. I have had friends with benefits and I've called them in the past to see how they were doing out of courtesy, or to talk bs in the middle of the night cause sometimes the fwbs were fun to bullshit with. Also, sometimes I used to treat my fwbs to dinner, lunch, bars, whatever; if they were nice enough to let me bang them, the least I could do was show some appreciation.
Anyway, don't assume jack sh!t. That's what will alwys get you in trouble. You want to find out what s going on? Ask ur fwb.so what's the status of us two?
But this friends with benefits once told me that I can go out with another guys but he needs to know about it first. WTF? I wondering why he told me that. - 4 months ago
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Sounds like ur typical possessive male. now, with my fwbs the only agreemnt we had was that if we started dating, then we can call off the fwb; sometimes the girls would tell me they met such and such guy to get my opinion, but I was very detached. I do know of males that want to have an exclusive fwb; you can't get another male fwb, but he can get other females; right there and then, you should have asked him, why do you want me to tell u? You're my fwb, not my BF! You deal with that bs on the spot. - 4 months ago
There doesn't seem to be enough evidence in what you told us to really support the idea he thinks of you as more than a friend.
FRIENDS with BENEFITS, two key words. He's a friend, and he gets benefits. So a friend might very well pay for a movie, and just as well, a friend might also call to talk for a few minutes.
Granted both can be interpreted as him maybe having more feelings than just regular friends with benefits, there just isn't enough information to make a strong statement about his feelings or intentions.
Well, I am see more times with him than not. I see him almost every weekend or vacation. He calls me for stupid things, and calls me somedays 2-3 sometimes 4 times a day. He calls me when he is sick, or I'm with him when he is sick. Anything else you need to know? - 4 months ago
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With that knowledge, that changes things a bit. I see this two possible ways:
1. He likes you a little more than friends with benefits
or 2. He really thinks of you as an irreplaceable friend who makes him happy - 4 months ago
Not necessarily. sometimes we assume that something will come out of it. I'm sure he's attracted to you. if not, why would you two be fwb? that may be it, though. - 4 months ago
You have feelings for him okay? I know it sucks when the guy only wants the physical and you want more, but that's why friends with benefits aren't always the best idea. He is treating you like a friend by calling you and inviting you places. What do you think he should do otherwise, only call you for sex? How rude. - 11 days ago
He just called to probably hear your voice before going to bed. There is nothing to read into that. I don't get the movie thing, what exactly are you talking about? Matter of fact what are you talking about overall? I don't see a problem.
i don't get what the problem is. He's a friend with benefits.friends do friend things.i think the problem is you're hoping its gonna end up something more but since it wasn't from the get go you'll take what you can get from him since you like him. Am I right?
We were going to watch a movie (dvd) at my house. That night he stay at my house for 9 10 hours and he slept at my place. he also play my PS2 for a little while and talked to my sister on IM. - 4 months ago
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Ok. Now what is your question? He was hanging out with you. Are you worried he talked to your sister? or wondering why he spent the night? - 4 months ago
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I'm not worried that he is talking to my sister. I just wanna know if he is getting attached to me or what? And I wanna know if he want more than friends with benefits and he is not telling me? and yea, I wanna know why he is spending the night at my place? - 4 months ago
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I think he's just hanging out and spending time with you. If you want it to be more you'll need to talk to him about it. If not than you'll have to be ok with what you have or end it. - 4 months ago
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