I have these two guys in my life, we'll call them Barry and Todd. I hung out with Todd first and really liked him a lot. Then I met Barry and when Todd found out, he told me Barry was extremely weird and if I kept talking to him, he'd stop talking to me. I kind of agreed with him about Barry's personality and cared a lot more for Todd, so I did backed off for a while.
Then Todd and I got in an argument and stopped talking to each other for a few months. Because I was bored and figured it didn't matter that much anymore, I started talking to Barry again. I had fun talking with him, but I never saw myself as anything more than a friend to him and told him so. He was sad, but ok with it. He also found out I hung out with Todd a little bit and liked him. He told me he hated the guy, but that I could do whatever I wanted.
Eventually, Todd started talking to me again. I didn't tell him that I was still in contact with Barry because I figured he'd make a bigger deal out of it than it really was, plus I only talked to Barry every so often and didn't think we were that close.
A few days ago, it was my birthday. Barry left a post on my Facebook wishing me a happy birthday and a few hours later, Todd left one right after Barry's. And when I went to Barry's profile, he had me bizarrely listed as one of his top friends.
Now I feel like Todd knows I still talk to Barry (and possibly saw that I'm apparently a "top friend"), but I don't know for sure if he actually paid attention to who had already posted on my wall. But I haven't talked to him since then and he hasn't made an attempt to talk. So should I be the one to talk to him or should I wait until he talks to me (if that ever happens again)?
You are giving Todd way too much control over your life and your business. Barry sounds like much cooler of a guy. He was honest about his feelings about Todd but he didn't give you an ultimatum! Don't let Todd control and who cares if he finds out. Let him blow up. Let him get pissed. He'll respect you more when he sees you won't be a pushover. So contact him if you want to, that's not really the issue. But don't let him push you around about who you talk to.
Ok this is really simple. Todd is not worth the hassel even if you do like him. He is tryin 2 controll you by sayin things like I'm not talkin 2 you if you don't stop talkin 2 him. if any other guy would have said this you would have laughed and told them 2 wise up but the fact you like todd means ur lettin him do this 2 u. It is obvious they don't like each other 4 sum reason but that has nothin 2 do with you and you are free 2 talk 2 any1 you want. If todd don't like it tell him tough luck. Barry on the other hand says its up 2 you what you do so he is takin the mature none controllin way of things as he realises its ur life. You may not like Barry the same way you like todd but you should at least stick friends with him. If todd liked you that much even as a friend he would b so glad about talkin 2 you and bein around you that he wouldn't care who else you were friends with. You should just wait let todd contact you if he is a trustworthy friend he will at some point untill then don't worry about him
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