How do you be just friends with guys?

my best friend is a girl. I could see her butt ass naked and wouldn't dare to do anything sexual. we've both actually agreed to this statement. talk to him like about other girls or what he does "with the guys" or "what a girl's thinking". the latter is most helpful with my friend. tell him you just want to be friends. don't pick friends on looks. be acceptive of what comes. you can never have too many friends. pick a gay guy for starters. he will show you how to be just friends with a guy.

First rule is NEVER TREAT A GUY LIKE ANYTHING BUT A FRIEND unless you want him to exercise his natural proclivity to begin his mating rituals with you. That means wearing sexy clothes in front of him, which includes exposed mid-drift or exposed cleavage or form fitting clothes that expose a feminine silhouette, all of which are at the least subliminal in conveying your availability.__ Second rule FOCUS YOUR CONVERSATIONS ON SERIOUS TOPICS where he has to think long and hard on the answers to prove he can concentrate and that the blood in his system isn't rushing somewhere else. __Rule three MAKE EYE CONTACT THAT SAYS I'M WATCHING YOU buddy and you better not be looking in places you aren't invited to look(see rule one) because I want to have a serious conversation and am enforcing those rules. __ Fourth rule to have a guy as a friend you must STATE FROM DAY ONE THAT YOU ARE FRIENDS ONLY and it helps to have a good reason why you can't be otherwise, like you already are engaged or you are serious about your studies and have made a promise to your Dad or Mom or Grandparent that you won't get involved in a relationship until you graduate. Nothing makes a guy go after a gal more that one who plays hard to get so DO NOT PLAY HARD TO GET ! Rule five MAKE GOD ALMIGHTY THE CENTER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP, so he has to play by GOD's rules or feel the guilt of doing otherwise; besides nothing cements a realm relationship more that a relationship with GOD first.

__ My advise don't ever let yourself be caught where you are totally alone, always make sure somebody is around, especially people who can make him feel embarrassed or ashamed if he acts like anything but a GENTLEMAN. And last but not least be honest and open don't talk to him like a guy you like, talk to him just like your brother or best friend, or family member that you are close to, he will since it and treat you like a sister instead of a conquest !

If you want to be just friends with them:
1) Give them advice on how to get girls or how to date them.
2) Hook them up with a female friend of yours.
3) Call them adorable as if they're your little brother or something.
4) Talk about guys that you might go out with to guys who are just friends.
5) Ask them for guy advice about how to get guys.
6) Be like a sister to them or something. Treat them as if they were your brothers, not potential lovers.

But if you want them to back off a little, then I don't know.

That way, you'd be sending a message without hurting their feelings.

Lol boy / girl friendship is totally same as any other friendship.
You don't involve in it any kind of sexual attraction or rather said any kind of romantic attraction. Simple as that.

That's simple just spend time with them, get to know them well. Then start dating someone else, and make sure that it's obvious to them that this is happening - so as to crush their lonely and pathetic spirit. sure that might sound bitter but it's not as bitter as they'll be after they realize that they never even had a chance to be anywhere other then the friend zone. Good luck making friends - sad and lonely friends.

frankly, if a woman right off the bat wants to be "just friends" I hope she doesn't plan to hang out alot, cause my focus is on women who want a realationship! once a guy who is single and looking feels that door slam.he moves on

you want to be "just friends" hang out with gay men.

Talk about down to earth stuff. Like what type of bear you like, what sports you like to play. Problems you have had with your girlfriends. By talking about stuff that normal people do and by revealing some of your problems you send a subliminal vibe to the guy this is on a friend level so don't cross the line. The guy will pick up on the cue imeadiatly . Also when you reveal your problems with other women it makes you more human and guys are sympathetic to girls who are having a hard time with other girls. Because we can't intervein it almost forces us to be compassionet and give good advice. Men are atracted to women because of a mispercieved,perhaps mispercieved belief that women are deep and magical. I still think you guys are deep and magical cause I am a guy. Lol so by bringing yourself down to earth and talking about normal stuff the guy will be able to relate to you better as friends. And not have to watch everything he does or says because he thinks you are magic. So talking about beer, sports and your problems with your girlfriends does this.

Yeahh Its extremely hard to be just friends with a guy your attracted to. It sucks
Im still trying ha

Goodluck girl!

I love the quote.. A man and a women can never be just friends, at some point one is going to fall for the other..
This is true in so many cases. A man and women who look to each other for confront, loyality, a buddy... Often find themselves wanting more out of the friendship.
In some cases a man and a woman can very well be the best of friends with out any feelings of attraction.
But from personally experience it is very hard to be just friends with a guy to whom you find attractive..My advice would be to befriends a guy to whom you would never consider dating...

It is a lot harder for a girl to just be friends with a guy when they are really girly. You gotta just be "one of the guys."

dude, I'm totally in your boat. I feel ya. me and my friend laugh about it all the time because while she has guy friends, and they just hangout and chill, I must give off that sexual com hither because every guy, even ones that were just suppose to be friends, have tried to kiss, or so something sexual. it seems like if I just really only want friendship I offend them, or if I want more they only want sex. I haven't found a middle ground guy in awhile.

so my advice to you. hangout with guys, chill, if they try and make a move on you just laugh it off, and be like, dude, were friends. do you try and kiss/f*ck all your friends? just laugh it off or talk to them about another guy you like.

i have tons of girl friends, but I have found that as I came into my 20s that when I tried to make friends with guys, it always felt like something sexual was gonna happen. I was told by a guy that I'm kinda flirty and send the wrong message, but that's just my personality, I'm not gonna change that, they just have to learn to take the flirt but stay on the friend level, and some guys get that!

Good luck!

your pathetic. how can you be so shallow? All of the guys in my life were friends. Only 2% of them were guys that I liked.

I've alwasy been mildly attracted to most (excepting the gay ones) of my guy friends. I just don't act on it when I want to stay friends. Talk, hang out, do friends stuff, be yoruself, but save the gist of what you to rope a guy in. Change the attarction energy into a friendship. Focus on what you like about them as a friend, rather than how hot they are. With time you'll start to see them more and more in that light and it'll get easier. Good Luck!

Well usually it's easiest if one of your girlfriends is going out with a guy, and you have to spend time with him and his friends. Even if there's one of his friends you're interested in,you won't be able to date them all! =P So with the rest of them, just try and talk to them as you would your girlfriends. I agree with the other answers of asking them for advice. Particularly if you ask them for advice on what to do about another guy you like, because then they'll get they're not your interest, you're just looking for friendship.

First, even if they guys are hot don't look at them that way XD
What you need to look at is personality, at all times. No matter
is it your crush or guy friend. In time even hot guy can seem
ok for you because you won't care anymore about his looks
but will enjoy talking to him - about anything, even relationships.
Basically when you want to be friends, act like one of the guys.

Don't look at them as an object of affection - rather, look at them as person you'd like to get to know. Ask them questions you would ask anyone, girl or guy, upon meeting them. Get to know them as a person, their interests, their morals, likes and dislikes, favorite things, etc.

When you look at them, don't look in lust, or have ideas or fantasies. just look at them as a person. Just like you. A person that you want to get to know.

Ask them for advice! When that one guy is just absolutely bugging you and sending you mixed messages, ask them to decode them for you! Tough breakup? The guys will give that dirty ex of yours "the talk". Haha. Guys always know how to make a girl laugh, and they are there for the tomboy side of you! Talk about sports, take them to the football game! Most of my friends are guys because girls cause lots and lots of drama; boys see drama and run the other way!