Logical, not passionate

Well gay or asexual men are not passionate towards women at all. Make sure your not with one of those.

But if you got a hetero guy who likes you, then somewhere deep inside him is HIS form of passion. The funny thing is, it might not look anything like YOUR form of passion.

Maybe find out from him how he tries to show you he cares about you. Whatever it is, that's what he thinks he should be doing. Lots of passionate guys put their passion into trying to be funny, or trying to impress you on the football field, or trying to work hard to make lots of money to provide for you, and so on. Meanwhile, your just sitting there wishing he would serenade you and tongue kiss you, which he never does.

That's called being on two different wavelengths. It doesn't mean he's wrong. If fact, he's probably wondering why you aren't more interested in his ways, just like you are wondering about him.

So ask him how he is caring for you. And listen, don't criticize him for his ways, even if they are foreign to you.

And make sure tell him what things make you feel cared for. Just "I would like to just sit next to you and watch a movie" or "I really like it when you give me a back rub" or "my favorite times with you is when we laugh on the phone." But don't tell him to CHANGE. Don't criticize him for his passion, just educate him about your own. Guys WANT to know how to make you happy, but we hardly ever figure it out on our own.

Some guys won't ever be very good at expressing their feelings. I am one of those guys so I should know. A good way to tell if it's her or him would be to try and notice if he is any better at expressing his feelings in other ways. I tend not to get (outwardly) mad or happy or sad or much of anything, especially around people I don't know very well. I feel those things, I just don't feel comfortable expressing them. If he's like me it might take a little while for him to get comfortable enough around her to be more expressive.